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Just walked out - feel horrible and don’t know what to do

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Satinacarpark · 29/11/2020 21:22

My DD is 9 and has spent most of today raging at me. I’ve been kicked, doors have been kicked, screaming, I hate yous and been called a demon. This is because she wouldn’t come off the computer when asked, and was given a time out. My partner never backs me up when a time out is called, or challenges her behaviour, in - what I would say - is a proactive way. After been told again this evening by my sautéed that I am the ‘most horrible evil person in the world’, I asked him to speak to her. He simply went in the room and moved his computer out. He said he was waiting until she calmed down to speak to her. But it doesn’t ‘feel’ like that - I just feel completely unsupported. So I back my things, my babies things - and left. I’m now sitting in a car park. What do I do now?

OP posts:
Nanny0gg · 30/11/2020 12:50

@Satinacarpark

Is it a wilful avoidance?
Only you can judge that.

How was he before children?

KatherineJaneway · 30/11/2020 13:00

She needs consequences not cuddles

This ^^

Your DP needs to step up majorly as well.

Nature1nurture · 30/11/2020 14:14

Thanks, NannyOgg - not sure how I missed the post saying OP went back...(middle-aged brain I’m afraid). Sorry OP - I’m so glad to read that you all had a hug/chat and have come up with some strategies.

LadyEloise · 30/11/2020 14:30

I don't think it's "wilful avoidance".
Call it for what it is : Being a lazy ar*e !

OwlOneAmorFati · 30/11/2020 18:54

Hope things were better today OP.
Really felt for you ystrdy.
My kids have driven me to despair a few times

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