You patronising fucking bitch....

[hopingtobedally]

If a male who was meant to love you came out with this ....what would you think?

That the relationship was over but at least I'd really got under the bastard's skin.

I wouldn’t even allow my brain space or time to think. He would be gone.

I would think 'bye'.

Is the woman being a patronising bitch?

Of a woman called a man a fucking dickhead when he was being a dickhead is that okay?

Context is key and knee jerk reactions from people that weren't there are unlikely.to help clarify anything.

I'd think:

• this is what he actually believes (no matter how much he protests he didn't mean it later, when he's dumped)
• he's believed this for a long time
• he hates women.

I'd dump him as soon as the words were out of his mouth.

I would think the woman had just been extremely patronising to him, and that it must be a regular occurance for him to get so sweary about it.

I'd be done.

No one who spoke to me like that would be in my life any longer.

That he's a wanker who can go fuck himself. But I agree with Monkey that it depends on context

My DH might, conceivably, lose his rag and raise his voice at me if we had a really serious argument - both under huge pressure, such as when we were dealing with a dangerously ill child and a dying parent at the same time and then ran out of money, for example. I might do the same. I cant remember the last time it actually happened, but we're not robots and either of us could snap, I guess.

I do know that he would never, ever, call me a fucking bitch, though. Because he doesn't have a core-deep hatred and contempt, for me or for women generally.

Depends why he said it, situation, tone, context. Much more info needed.

I would think that the man ( if it is a man) uses derogatory terms to describe a woman firstly and that his privilege is being challenged and is making him very uncomfortable. Good.

I'd need to know the rest of the context.

I'm guessing he didn't just randomly say it when he got home from work this evening, did he?

You hurt his ego
He has responded in an ugly way
Depends if you overstepped the mark or if he's always secretly viewed you this way

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That the relationship was over but at least I'd really got under the bastard's skin.

Agree. At this stage to be called that, there wouldn't be much love lost.

Why did he say that? It,s not a nice thing to say but what was the reason. Can,t jusdge by one comment. If your not happy leave.

Context?

Context is everything. I have said ' Don't patronise me you fucking dickhead' to my husband when he has been patronising me. That's within a good, respectful happy marriage. We both apologise at some point & move on. How is your relationship generally op?.

Tone and context is important, but it’s hard to see how that’s excusable.

Well some context is needed. No it isn't ok to say that BUT what was said before hand?

I would immediately hate him and want him gone.

What?!!! Omg. Never ever have sex with him again. No option.

But yes why did he say that??

When challenging a complete contradiction he had just said for instance (not what was actually said) 'I want to be with you forever' and in the next breathe 'this will never work'
My reply 'oh here we go again'

It sounds like your relationship isn’t in a great place, regardless of whether this was an acceptable comment. I’m guessing it isn’t a one off?

Context is everything. I can be a patronizing bitch myself sometimes, I know it, DH knows it. But he can be a useless bastard. We all have different levels of comfort in what we give/take?

the ego!

So you had proof he was wrong and he didn't like that...

Sounds like he loves the idea of a perfect you but not the real you or the you who can challenge him

He wants to be held on a pedestal