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Would you sleep with two different people in the same day?

601 replies

ElderflowerPotion · 10/05/2020 12:53

I don’t mean a threesome.

Purely hypothetical at the moment, but I’m curious to know what people would do.

I only have every other weekend free due to childcare. I have a casual partner, and I’ve been speaking to someone for the past 6 weeks I really want to meet.

When lockdown is lifted (yes, I don’t it’s going to be any time soon hence hypothetical), I would probably see on of them Friday Night and the other Sat night. If I stay over (which I do with my casual), there would be morning sex.

So that’s my question really - would you have morning sex with one person and then have sex with someone else in the evening? I can’t decide if I think it’s fine or a bit weird.

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PowerStruggle · 10/05/2020 12:56

Meh, do what you want, so long as you look after your safety and enjoy

FiddlefigOnTheRoof · 10/05/2020 12:57

Be honest, be safe, and go for it!

EmmaOvary · 10/05/2020 12:57

Is it consensual? Enjoyable? Safe? Yes? Then crack on.

bigchris · 10/05/2020 12:57

I think if you're casually dating it's fine

Lweji · 10/05/2020 12:57

I'd double up on contraception.
If you get pregnant it will be messy.

Other than that, you'd be sleeping with two people, the same day or different days doesn't make much difference.

Apple1029 · 10/05/2020 12:58

Urgh. No.

bigchris · 10/05/2020 12:58

I've done it in my youth , out Friday and Saturday night etc

MooFeatures · 10/05/2020 12:58

As long as there’s time for a shower in between there’s no problem

TorkTorkBam · 10/05/2020 12:58

If they both know you are sleeping with others then it's fine.

Me, I'd be too knackered and the mood would have left me if the morning one was any good.

imsooverthisdrama · 10/05/2020 12:58

Oh I don't think I'll ever get this option, but no I wouldn't.
But whatever gets you through lockdown hun Grin

peasepuddinghot · 10/05/2020 12:58

Yes. I would.

keepingbees · 10/05/2020 12:58

I wouldn't personally no I find the idea a bit grim. But if you're ok with it that's fine, as others have said as long as it's consensual, fun and safe then why not.

searchaway · 10/05/2020 12:59

Yeah why not. You’re not tied to anybody and no promises have been made. Stay protected and have fun. Why not!

ChandlerIsTheBestFriend · 10/05/2020 12:59

Chance would be a fine thing! Grin

MarieQueenofScots · 10/05/2020 13:00

If it’s consensual and safe then why not?

As long as the rules with the “casual partner” are clear and agreed by both parties.

MonkeyToesOfDoom · 10/05/2020 13:00

Not my cup of tea and I can't imagine a bloke being too happy double dipping his soldier in an already runny egg.
At least have a good shower in between.

NoOtherUsernameWasValid · 10/05/2020 13:01

I wouldn't, personally. I've always been a one man person. I've never been sleeping with more than one man at a time even if it was a casual relationship but each to their own Grin

Eesha · 10/05/2020 13:02

Yes I would. Go for it!

daisychain01 · 10/05/2020 13:02

No it's disgusting.

But that's the opinion of a random person on the Internet, so crack on if that's how you choose to live your life.

Giggorata · 10/05/2020 13:03

I celebrated a milestone birthday by doing that. 😎

MarieQueenofScots · 10/05/2020 13:04

Not my cup of tea and I can't imagine a bloke being too happy double dipping his soldier in an already runny egg

Why does the bloke need to know? Not his business.

Stopmenow123 · 10/05/2020 13:04

I wouldn't. Up to you though.

userabcname · 10/05/2020 13:04

Oh I thought this was going to be about sleeping with the OM/OW then going home and sleeping with your spouse for some reason! The situation you've outlined is fine, as long as everyone is aware they are not in an exclusive relationship.

MrsGibbs · 10/05/2020 13:06

I personally wouldnt, for some reason I find it a bit grim too. At least make sure you have a shower in between.
Saying that, if your honest, its casual and your using protection its entirely up to you to do what you want to do.

ElderflowerPotion · 10/05/2020 13:06

I’m glad the general consensus is it’s fine. It is a bit of an unusual situation for me - I’ve only ever had one partner at a time before this.

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