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Would you sleep with two different people in the same day?

601 replies

ElderflowerPotion · 10/05/2020 12:53

I don’t mean a threesome.

Purely hypothetical at the moment, but I’m curious to know what people would do.

I only have every other weekend free due to childcare. I have a casual partner, and I’ve been speaking to someone for the past 6 weeks I really want to meet.

When lockdown is lifted (yes, I don’t it’s going to be any time soon hence hypothetical), I would probably see on of them Friday Night and the other Sat night. If I stay over (which I do with my casual), there would be morning sex.

So that’s my question really - would you have morning sex with one person and then have sex with someone else in the evening? I can’t decide if I think it’s fine or a bit weird.

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Cherrybakewelll · 11/05/2020 21:48

Your not asking for clarification. You didn’t like MY opinion. How thick can you get ive posted generally and explained. Why have you got your knickers in a twist just because you want to drop em more frequently than others! Crack on it’s your life.

You don’t see me questioning anybody here about their choices do you LOL.

sammylady37 · 11/05/2020 21:52

I’ve asked a very simple question which you’ve yet to answer. That’s the clarification I asked for. There is nothing wrong (or ‘cheeky’ ffs) with asking someone something based on their post on an internet discussion forum.

But hey, you continue with your life and I’ll continue with mine. I really couldn’t be bothered engaging with you any more.

Abbcccus · 11/05/2020 22:41

As a guy.....I would say go for it.
As a guy ....I would also say that I would prefer not to know, that you had had shagged someone else 10 hrs ago, but it probably wouldn't put me off....although if I was going down on someone and got a mouthful of someone else's semen....that would probably kill it for me!

If it was someone I was seeing regularly and I thought that there was commitment on both sides, that would be different.

You only live once!
(although there seem to be a lot on this thread that would do their utmost to make sure that everyone leads as dull a life as they do....it's only jealousy )

The reality is....if you marry a virgin and don't have sex with anyone else....chances are you are going to have a very limited sex life compared with the guy/girl who has experienced a few different partners good or bad.

(I'll put my hard hat on and change my username again :-) )

Hearhoovesthinkzebras · 11/05/2020 22:48

it's only jealousy )

Err, yeah, no it's not. Really, really am not jealous. Interesting though how you think people can't enjoy sex if they're not shagging multiple people per day. Perfectly possible to have great sex with enough of a gap in between to make sure you're not sharing more than you bargained for.

Healthyandhappy · 11/05/2020 23:10

How old r u

Healthyandhappy · 11/05/2020 23:11

HPV = higher risk of cancer which is caught from sex

Porcupineinwaiting · 11/05/2020 23:53

it's only jealousy

Grin Yeah cause it's so hard to find random men willing to "stick their dick" in you.

Sunbird24 · 11/05/2020 23:57

I probably wouldn’t, but then I struggle to find anyone I even want to go on a date with, never find get into bed! As long as you’re being safe and there’s no expectations of monogamy from either party then don’t worry what anyone else thinks, it doesn’t affect them

eaglejulesk · 12/05/2020 06:03

When household visits are allowed again, the spread of Covid is just as likely amongst friends as sexual partners. Why do you think it wouldn’t be?

Um, because you are much, much closer to a sexual partner than you are to friends and family? Have you not heard of social distancing - it's recommended so you don't get close enough to someone to catch Covid. I am not passing judgement by the way, but if you think that having sex is the same as talking to your friends you are being a bit naive.

SpillTheTeaa · 12/05/2020 06:30

When household visits are allowed again, the spread of Covid is just as likely amongst friends as sexual partners. Why do you think it wouldn’t be?

Well I hope you don't sit on your friends?
Unless your FWB has a monster cock and can keep 2m it's very different to meeting family/friends social distancing.

midnightstar66 · 12/05/2020 07:24

Social distancing is likely to be around for a long time yet. I was reading a discussion the other day about a test, quarantine, test solution so that families can have xmas dinner together in the same home. Obviously sharing saliva and other bodily fluids is very different to sitting 2 meters from a friend in a park and having a chat so I do think OP's question is definitely hypothetical in any sort of near future.

Ilets · 12/05/2020 07:29

Yes, young single people are definitely just going to wait a few years before meeting up for sex. Give it a few more weeks,more like!

Hearhoovesthinkzebras · 12/05/2020 09:13

Yes, young single people are definitely just going to wait a few years before meeting up for sex.

Saying that people will take risks to have sex, so risk catching and spreading say COVID19, is very different to saying what the op is saying - having sex is exactly the same as meeting up with friends and family in terms of spreading or catching coronavirus. That's just ridiculous and snacks of sticking your head in the sand and refusing to accept reality.

YetAnotherSpartacus · 12/05/2020 09:17

Obviously sharing saliva and other bodily fluids is very different to sitting 2 meters from a friend in a park and having a chat so I do think OP's question is definitely hypothetical in any sort of near future

Hey, a gal can dream :)

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ElderflowerPotion · 12/05/2020 09:30

I think you are being a bit disingenuous with how families and friends will react around each other in private homes (I’m already wistfully dreaming of the days I can have a couple of friends round, playing cards round a small table, shared food, drinking wine, and spending hours together) - but I do take your point that having sex is a bit different. However I do think it’s going to be near impossible to remain socially distanced inside a home with anyone.

However, still is all hypothetical for when we are allowed ‘social bubbles’ of some sort and can see people again.

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midnightstar66 · 12/05/2020 09:57

Yes having sex is obviously very different to sitting across a table playing cards and ensuring strict hand washing but having sexual with multiple people not just within the same day but within covid incubation times is very different again. It would be more important than ever to be transparent. FWIW I think it will be a good while before households are advised to mix indoors anyway but yes I'm sure many will totally ignore that

Hearhoovesthinkzebras · 12/05/2020 12:58

The social bubble won't be relevant here though.

If it's a bubble of ten people it means that all of those people within that bubble can only mix with the people in that bubble.

So eg mum, dad, two children

Could mix with two sets of grandparents ie four adults.

That's it. The interactions for all of those people would be limited to the individuals contained within that bubble.

Each member of the bubble can't then go and interact with a different bubble.

So, in the case described in the op, the bubble would be her fwb, the other people that they are sleeping with (plus the people that they are sleeping with???) plus the new man (and however many people he might be sleeping with) plus her son and his dad. How big do you think any bubble could be? This doesn't even account for any friends or other family members any of you might want to see.

Cheeseandwin5 · 12/05/2020 13:08

Whilst I agree that some of the replies are a bit strong, I would say that your initial question was would you have morning sex with one person and then have sex with someone else in the evening? and most ppl have answered this and given their reasons, you may not agree with them ( as they may not agree with you) but its their choice.
I would disagree with anyone telling someone else what to do and being insulting if they don't ( in either direction).

Curiositycase · 14/05/2020 22:47

Leave casual alone for a morning..he'll live!

If it led to something and i was the new partner and i found out about it,it would probably haunt me..

chelsiekxoxo · 15/05/2020 00:23

Personally probably not, unless the first wasn’t good 😂

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Incrediblytired · 16/05/2020 22:11

Welllllll. I was very busy at university in my youth but certainly no appetite for it anymore.

It’s fine as long as you are safe and the other people don’t expect exclusivity

emmetgirl · 17/05/2020 19:51

If I wanted to yes.

Oopsiedaisyy · 17/05/2020 21:07

I did one wild day, day in a hotel room and then evening I met up with someone else. The second guy knew about the first and I had safe sex with both.

Very memorable!

Jane1978xx · 17/05/2020 23:39

If you stay over with your casual is he really casual ? I think you’d have to tell him you were sleeping with someone else unless you’ve already agreed that ? I don’t see anything wrong with multiple partners just everyone needs to know

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