Would you sleep with two different people in the same day?

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I don’t mean a threesome.

Purely hypothetical at the moment, but I’m curious to know what people would do.

I only have every other weekend free due to childcare. I have a casual partner, and I’ve been speaking to someone for the past 6 weeks I really want to meet.

When lockdown is lifted (yes, I don’t it’s going to be any time soon hence hypothetical), I would probably see on of them Friday Night and the other Sat night. If I stay over (which I do with my casual), there would be morning sex.

So that’s my question really - would you have morning sex with one person and then have sex with someone else in the evening? I can’t decide if I think it’s fine or a bit weird.

I would if i had the chance!

Do it, you'll have all the best stories in the retirement home!

Sure. Just be sure and change sheets between men.

Long term would be the consideration. There is a common phrase amongst men that a lock that can be opened by many different keys is a crap lock...

Would you be with a man that had 2 different women in 1 day, and that's your personal answer if it's OK or not.

@MarieQueenofScots I’m guessing in case he thinks he’s exclusive?

I think it’s grim too. Do both men know about the other? Not sure either would’ve that impressed

I wouldn't do anything that could potentially result in doubt around paternity - if you got unlucky re: contraceptive failure.

What a fucking faff that would be.

It's also a bit grim IMO, but that's up to the individual.

Also, men call this "stirring the porridge".
Obviously misogynistic, but that's what they think.

I’m guessing in case he thinks he’s exclusive?

Sure and I addressed that earlier. If they’re not exclusive it’s not their business.

Personally, no. I have never done this. If you do, that is your choice. As others have said, be careful not to get pregnant.. or stds.

In my more free-loving youth I once slept with 3 different guys in the space of about 48 hours over a weekend (none were strangers for what it’s worth) if you’re safe and happy and they don’t think you’re exclusive go ahead and enjoy yourself

Yuck no - Have some self respect - really.

All those people saying 'crack on'

Yeah right. Maybe sort your head out.

I've got no judgement on sleeping with 2 men in 24 hours- my only reservation would be if I thought things could go somewhere with the new guy, I'm not sure I would want the first time we had sex to be when I had just slept with my FWB, that's just me though Have fun!

As I say, purely hypothetical at this stage. I may not been speaking to one or both of them by the point we're allowed to socialise again.

But I'm conscious if I didn't see one Fri, one Sat, I'd only get to see each once per month.

Casual is definitely non exclusive. New guy - exclusivity isn't something I'd even discuss until meeting him.

I wouldn't tell them. I don't talk with casual about who else we may or may not be seeing.

@leafygarden why do you think sleeping with two men in a day means the OP lacks self-respect? Genuine question.

Maybe sort your head out

Why are you conflating sex life and self respect?

This version of me, no way. But a different version of me thats not married, more carefree, more confident, and has a 'why the fuck not' attitude to life and new experiences, hell yes!

Maybe fine if you're 19 and in Kavos. I also think it's a bit grim, especially if as you say, you're a mum. Just think it's a bit weird to be packing the kids off to have sex with 2 different men the next day.

Everyone who says 'it's great, have fun'

How would you feel if you found out a bloke you were going out with and had sex with, had done so with a different woman that morning??

Oh great!! - Hmmm realistically, maybe not.

Hmm I think it depends how you feel about the new person, are they also going to be casual so you have 2 possible people you can choose from for a booty call? Or is this new one having the potential to be a future partner? I think that would make a difference to me.
If they're both going to be casual and everyone knows you aren't going to be exclusive then I see no problem.
Perhaps you could wait and get to know the new one for a few evenings before you actually have sex?

I did it once. I had the opportunity and they were both people I liked and trusted, We were all single and casual and we were safe.
Then months and months of no sex. Why not?
If it is all good and honest?

I've got no judgement on sleeping with 2 men in 24 hours- my only reservation would be if I thought things could go somewhere with the new guy, I'm not sure I would want the first time we had sex to be when I had just slept with my FWB, that's just me though halo Have fun!

That is something I've considered briefly. But on the other hand, it would be pretty disappointing to pass up good sex with FWB, meet new guy and decide actually I'm not feeling it at all.

@leafygarden purely out of interest, how does a woman making a decision to do something she clearly enjoys, safely and with consent lack self respect? The OP comes across that she's doing this for herself, it for the benefit of the 2 men (obvs correct me if I'm wrong OP)

Grim.