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Would you sleep with two different people in the same day?

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ElderflowerPotion · 10/05/2020 12:53

I don’t mean a threesome.

Purely hypothetical at the moment, but I’m curious to know what people would do.

I only have every other weekend free due to childcare. I have a casual partner, and I’ve been speaking to someone for the past 6 weeks I really want to meet.

When lockdown is lifted (yes, I don’t it’s going to be any time soon hence hypothetical), I would probably see on of them Friday Night and the other Sat night. If I stay over (which I do with my casual), there would be morning sex.

So that’s my question really - would you have morning sex with one person and then have sex with someone else in the evening? I can’t decide if I think it’s fine or a bit weird.

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NoMoreDickheads · 10/05/2020 13:24

If that's what you want to do, there's nothing morally wrong with it.

As long as you don't think it'll make you feel bad.

Also, of course make sure you use protection, it is important.

And of course the more men you're involved with, the more likely you are to run into one that's dodgy/unpleasant/rapey. Even if you're up for sex with him, a bloke can still rape you, even violently. I know because it happened to me. Some men are sociapaths and they get off on violating someone's consent. It's not about sex physically to them, so even if they've come round for sex they can still do it.

Yearcat13 · 10/05/2020 13:24

Did do once in youth. Great memories.

MarieQueenofScots · 10/05/2020 13:24

Just think it's a bit weird to be packing the kids off to have sex with 2 different men the next day

I’m not the OP, but my daughter goes to see her father to have her contact with him. Shouldn’t single parents be able to use their free time?

How would you feel if you found out a bloke you were going out with and had sex with, had done so with a different woman that morning??

If we were causal and no exclusive wouldn’t bother me. I’m safe, it’s consensual, I don’t want or need committment.

Smilethoyourheartisbreaking · 10/05/2020 13:25

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hellswelshy · 10/05/2020 13:25

Not now as I am happily married. But in my care free youth? Yep. I see no issue at all as long is no party is under any illusions and you practice safe sex. Go for it!!

leafygarden · 10/05/2020 13:26

Ok - maybe not lack of self respect - how about just plain selfish, and, as others have said, grim.

It just seems like enjoying your animal pleasures as it were, instead of having civilised human relations.

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ElderflowerPotion · 10/05/2020 13:26

On the flip side, if my casual was (maybe he even is) doing this, I'd personally just prefer not to know, but it wouldn't bother me a such. I'm just interested in the details of who else he sleeping with as long as it's all safe.

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ChandlerIsTheBestFriend · 10/05/2020 13:27

There is a common phrase amongst men that a lock that can be opened by many different keys is a crap lock.

😂😂😂😂

Which would mean that anyone who wasn’t a virgin when you meet them would have a “crap” vagina? Logic fail.

Needhelp101 · 10/05/2020 13:27

"Everyone who says 'it's great, have fun'

How would you feel if you found out a bloke you were going out with and had sex with, had done so with a different woman that morning??

Oh great!! - Hmmm realistically, maybe not."

@leafygarden, with a casual partner, who I was being safe and honest with, I wouldn't give a fuck.

Or, obviously would Grin

I once slept with a guy who revealed he'd had sex with 5 different women in a day. That did seem somewhat excessive (I wasn't one of the five!)

Standrewsschool · 10/05/2020 13:27

No. I would feel I’m cheating one of them.

pilates · 10/05/2020 13:27

No I wouldn’t

MarieQueenofScots · 10/05/2020 13:28

Ok - maybe not lack of self respect - how about just plain selfish, and, as others have said, grim

How is it selfish if both parties are on the same page?

It just seems like enjoying your animal pleasures as it were, instead of having civilised human relations

Ah it’s all terribly civilised for me - FWB, nice and safe and respectful without the need for a relationship which isn’t something I want or need. Win all round.

Ghostlyglow · 10/05/2020 13:28

I have done (a looong time ago)

YetAnotherSpartacus · 10/05/2020 13:28

Not these days. I did once though :).

LolaLollypop · 10/05/2020 13:28

I’m not the OP, but my daughter goes to see her father to have her contact with him. Shouldn’t single parents be able to use their free time?

Not at all. I just find the multiple partners in 24hrs thing a bit sordid. The same way I wouldn't be out shagging different people every weekend either. Just my opinion!

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ElderflowerPotion · 10/05/2020 13:29

*Ok - maybe not lack of self respect - how about just plain selfish, and, as others have said, grim.

It just seems like enjoying your animal pleasures as it were, instead of having civilised human relations.*

I'm not sure why it's selfish - we both know what we're doing together (casual). But we do also spend a large potion of the night chatting over a glass of wine too and it feels pretty civilised to me.

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Smilethoyourheartisbreaking · 10/05/2020 13:29

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MarieQueenofScots · 10/05/2020 13:29

Not at all. I just find the multiple partners in 24hrs thing a bit sordid

So the whole “packing your daughter off to have sex” was a touch hyperbolic on your part?

yesterdaystotalsteps123 · 10/05/2020 13:30

If all 3 of you know you're not sexually exclusive like everyone has said it's up to you. My thought would be if you wanted the online one to go anywhere is he going to take you seriously knowing you've got a casual partner too? It would put me off a man if I was chatting to him and he said he'd date me after having sex with his casual one, but it would put me off even more if he didn't tell me and then the relationship got serious and I found out he'd slept with me and her on the same day. I wouldn't respect him Shock

SeperatedSwans · 10/05/2020 13:30

I've done this, but only with condom usage. Because semen stays up inside, so the second guy would get covered in the first guys semen which is grim in my opinion.

Condoms used, shower bathe wash in-between, nobody is going to be none the wiser except you.

I also have a few men on the go casually, they all don't know about eachother and I'm well aware some of them are dating and seeing other women.

If obviously the one I really liked turned round and said let's be exclusive I would, but so far nothing is pointing in that direction so I'm just having fun. I'm 30, attractive and a stickler for condoms. So, so far, so good 🤷🏻‍♀️

ChandlerIsTheBestFriend · 10/05/2020 13:31

how about just plain selfish

😂

She’s not tying them up in her basement and keeping them for her deviant purposes!

People are so fucking weird.

TinRoofRusty · 10/05/2020 13:31

Sure, why not?

Needhelp101 · 10/05/2020 13:32

Is it just me laughing heartily at 'animal pleasures'?

You should try some, love.

anxietrist · 10/05/2020 13:32

Not my cup of tea and I can't imagine a bloke being too happy double dipping his soldier in an already runny egg.
At least have a good shower in between.

Absolutely no need for that comment

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