He says when he meets someone ...he will stop speaking to me..stop it now?

[xmasevebirthdaygirl]

I've been chatting daily to a guy for 6 months.
We have been out a lot and slept together but he isn't calling it dating.
He is still sleeping with other girls and texts multiple women.
He stayed over last night and said tonight a girl (il call her Alice) was picking him up at 6pm for a drive.
I asked are you into this girl ?
He replied "no if I was I would stop speaking to you"
So I responded .."what's the point in all of this,why are you jealous if I talk to other guys yet your saying If you were into this girl you would stop speaking"
He said "I don't get feelings for anyone,I've got my guard up,I'm happy being like this,no ties to anyone,if I feel like I'm getting too close,I back off"
(He's done this to me)
I have feelings for him and must cry over the situation daily.
I'm seeing him next week again and my friends are telling me to say I'm done with this situation ...if he doesn't want just me then walk away.
What do I do?

Please value yourself higher. You deserve much better than this.

While your wasting time with him your Prince Charming could be right round the corner.

New year new start!

For crying out loud dump him! Why on earth do you value yourself so little. Listen to what he says. He doesn't have feelings for you or anyone and won't change. And why should he? He's definitely having his cake and eating it

@Deadsouls don’t worry she’ll be back in a couple of days with a new username, posting about the same guy.

He said he's had this convo with so many women over the years.

Oh what an absolute stud!!!! ALL the women want him, they just can't help falling for him.

... what a dick. He'll end up one of those weirdos without any partner and trying to chat younger women up on nights out. What a sad existence, really.

Remove yourself from the game. Couldn't think of anything worse than a man being picked up from my house after shagging me, by the next in line!

Ugh. Makes me feel sick.

Messaging you and asking you out means he just wants to have sex with you. Nothing more.

And his mention of 'Alice' & other women, while not liking you to see other men, all means he's pushing to see how much actual crap you will take from him.

Dump the creep.

Deadsouls don’t worry she’ll be back in a couple of days with a new username, posting about the same guy.

How sad

Your predicament has nothing to do with him. He's an asshole, but you know that.

However, you are the one who is keeping things going in the hope they will change.

What did your family life when you were growing up teach you about relationships, OP? Are you repeating a pattern? If so, you are the only one who can change it. Not him.

I think the OP is getting from us what she isn't getting from her relationships, tbh: attention.

It's not a nice feeling when someone doesn't Like you enough to want to be with you.
He's texted me all day today.
Now tonight he's text saying,a girl from work is trying to set him up with her friend.
Why would he even think it's nice to tell me that,I do not know.
All that does is make me feel once again I'm not good enough.

Ffs grow a spine and tell him to jog on. Then you won't have to listen to his crap about other women to cry over daily.

Set your standards higher.

It's like he can't even let me have a nice Xmas day without making me jealous.
He knows I get jealous.
I've asked him before not to tell me about other girls.
Yet here we are.

OP, the person you need to analyse in this situation is not him, it's yourself.
YOU are enabling his behaviour, YOU are teaching him how to treat you and what's acceptable.
I know it's hard because I've been there but you need to find your self respect and leave him.
Then do some work with a therapist to figure out why you let him treat you this way.

It's like he can't even let me have a nice Xmas day

That's right, he can't. Because he is a nasty jerk.

He is not going to stop his side of the game until you stop your side.

If you don't dump and block him you'll keep getting this crap from him, so maybe that's what you actually want?

FFS dump him! No, it isn’t a nice feeling that someone doesn’t like you enough to be with you but the truth is that he doesn’t. He likes you enough to have sex with and light conversation and that’s it. He isn’t ever going to commit to you. You have no obligation to reply to his messages. Block him, delete his number and move on. He doesn’t care about you beyond sex! Most of us saying this have all been in a similar situation and are talking from experience

Oh god I don’t even have sex with my twat, but anything else he needs and I’m there.

At the end of the day you can’t control his actions, only yours. I’ve decided that although my twat acts like I’m not good enough for him, in reality he’s not good enough for me. He has the emotional intelligence of a nut.

Was your dad any good OP or was he a bit dysfunctional? I link a lot of my poor self esteem to my abusive dad. I ditched a well educated and adjusted man who was really into me for my twat, all my own fault but never again! Much better men will be out there for you, don’t settle for this.

I need a new start in the new year.
Or I'm dragging all of this into next year.
He loves making me jealous and it's not just making me jealous anymore it's actually hurting me.
He's said to me he doesn't do dates.
He won't take me on a date,if I say the word date he freaks out.
He doesn't like it I'm out tho,he will text saying
"Bet your gonna meet someone tonight " blah blah

That’s because he wants you to be at his beck and call. He can’t do that if you’ve found a good man.

He's being a vile bully. Get rid.

Prostitutes get paid. You are like a prostitute that doesn't get paid, is there a name for women like you? He must love the hold/ power he has over you!

He doesn’t want to commit to you.

He is sleeping with multiple people, including you.

Pick your dignity and self respect off the fucking floor and walk away from this man... how many times do you need to be told he is using you to boost his own ego .. Oh and the free no committement sex on tap.

FFS

No matter what I do it's never enough for him.
He would rather get off with a different girl every week.
One girl is married with kids.
It doesn't bother him tho.

Are you actually reading any of these replies op?

Cant really say anything different to everyone else! Hes been honest with you though and hasnt lead you on so go out and start meeting new people and leave him behind. When he comes begging (which he will when he thinks you're not interested anymore) tell him that you dont care anymore and you're done! I suspect you wont but that's on you. You can never meet the right person when you keep messing and holding out for the wrong person!

Haha, I swear we could be talking about the same guy OP. Re the married woman with kids.

How many of these dickheads are out there? Then again they get away with it because we let them.