He says when he meets someone ...he will stop speaking to me..stop it now?

[xmasevebirthdaygirl]

I've been chatting daily to a guy for 6 months.
We have been out a lot and slept together but he isn't calling it dating.
He is still sleeping with other girls and texts multiple women.
He stayed over last night and said tonight a girl (il call her Alice) was picking him up at 6pm for a drive.
I asked are you into this girl ?
He replied "no if I was I would stop speaking to you"
So I responded .."what's the point in all of this,why are you jealous if I talk to other guys yet your saying If you were into this girl you would stop speaking"
He said "I don't get feelings for anyone,I've got my guard up,I'm happy being like this,no ties to anyone,if I feel like I'm getting too close,I back off"
(He's done this to me)
I have feelings for him and must cry over the situation daily.
I'm seeing him next week again and my friends are telling me to say I'm done with this situation ...if he doesn't want just me then walk away.
What do I do?

He's using you for sex .. because you've put it on a plate for him...

Just block him. I know you'll find a million reasons why you shouldn't but honestly you'll thank yourself later

Oh, he is LOVING all this ego boosting attention from all these women willing to do anything for and with him!

Listen to your friends op. He doesn't love you, he's not bothered what you do. He's using you for an ego boost, for shag, etc.

You are worth far, far more than being some guy's convenient hole.

This is your future, being a fill in when there's nothing do and no other woman to see. Do you really fancy being sat at home, knowing that he's wining, dining and sleeping with other women? I bet you leave your night's free in the hope that it's you he chooses to see.

Forget how you feel when you see him and think about how you feel when he's not.

I dated someone exactly like this and at 54 he'll never change. Everyone who knows him pities him and I feel sorry for the women he's dating because he'll never commit or be faithful.

How old are you?? Get some self respect.
Many years ago in my 20's I met a guy online who literally said he didn't want a relationship but just sex. Initially I said no, then said yes for fun but really it wasn't right for me, and my self respect took quite a bashing. Shortly afterwards I met dh and we had a 'proper' relationship and things were SO much better.
What do YOU want?.

If he wanted to be with just you he would be. He's been honest with you. Respect yourself and walk away. Crying everyday is extreme.

Why are you doing this to yourself?

He couldnt be more honest and you are going along with it.

He isnt hurting you. You are. You are living up to hurt yourself.

He said there's no point in me trying to change him but then he invites me out and messages me all the time.

You dont have to go. And he couldnt be clearer. Messaging you and asking you out means he just wants to have sex with you. Nothing more.

It'd be fine if you also only wanted something very casual, but you don't. He's an arsehole not for having casual relationships because he's honest about that part, but for the cold arrogance of the whole "I'd stop speaking to you if I met someone who I actually liked" crap.

Do not do the "pick me dance" if you've got even an ounce of self respect. He'll just respect you as much as you respect yourself.

Dump immediately.

Don’t you have any self respect? You are being used, please get out of this relationship.

What do I do?

You ask yourself what has happened in your life that makes you think this treatment is acceptable, and then you go to therapy to address it.

Run for the hills and on your way pass an std clinic.

No one in their right mind who he deems to be 'relationship material' would touch him with a fucking bargepole.

Find your self respect OP and sack this loser off.

Fuck sake!!

To misquote Amy Winehouse, he's keeping his dick wet with his safe bet.

You're nothing more than someone to fuck.

He's told you this himself.

Pick your self-esteem up off the floor and kick this loser out of your life.

OK, I'm going for the tough love here.

He messages you and asks you to meet up not because he's into you, but because he knows he can get it on a plate and doesn't have to put in any effort with you. You are purely a convenience.

It sounds harsh, but it's true and I know because I've been where you are in the past.

Please, please block his number and stop giving him access to you.

Oh love, please just walk away!

Goodness me, what a sad state of affairs, why would you go along with this nonsense ?

And when men say "I don't want a relationship" - what they really mean is "I don't want a relationship with YOU."

Give your head a wobble. He just wants sex, he is not going to magically fall in love with you. If you just wanted sex then that’s fine, but you have feelings for him. This is not going to go the way you want it to.

How many more times will you post about this and get the some response before it sinks in?

He is getting everything that he wants from this. He is with five girls at one time. Put yourself in his shoes. He is havig a great time.

You are not. So why are you doing this to yourself.

I am seeing a guy right now who I know is seeing another girl but I am fine with it because I don't expect more and because I am also seeing another guy.

If you are unhappy. Why are you doing this to yourself.

And if he is seeing other girls, why arent you seeing oher guys. Go out and date someone else.

^what they all said.

What an arrogant git! He's upfront with it, not behind your back - and you're still seeing him next week. Listen. To. Your. Friends. End it. He's not worth your tears.

He is not exclusive with you and is happy playing the field. You don't have a future with him. Him bragging another girl is picking him up is spiteful and low. What a cruel comment. He sounds like a walking STD. Get tested at a clinic and end it now.

Sorry but get some self respect and move on

It will only end in more tears for you.