He says when he meets someone ...he will stop speaking to me..stop it now?

[xmasevebirthdaygirl]

I've been chatting daily to a guy for 6 months.
We have been out a lot and slept together but he isn't calling it dating.
He is still sleeping with other girls and texts multiple women.
He stayed over last night and said tonight a girl (il call her Alice) was picking him up at 6pm for a drive.
I asked are you into this girl ?
He replied "no if I was I would stop speaking to you"
So I responded .."what's the point in all of this,why are you jealous if I talk to other guys yet your saying If you were into this girl you would stop speaking"
He said "I don't get feelings for anyone,I've got my guard up,I'm happy being like this,no ties to anyone,if I feel like I'm getting too close,I back off"
(He's done this to me)
I have feelings for him and must cry over the situation daily.
I'm seeing him next week again and my friends are telling me to say I'm done with this situation ...if he doesn't want just me then walk away.
What do I do?

So block him tonight.

He's showing you nothing but contempt and disrespect. You're allowing him to do just that. This is on you. He's told you how little you mean to him. You're choosing to ignore that and replay in your mind little snippets to make them mean something to you.

He doesn't care about you, he doesn't want you. He's seeing you for sex only and you deserve far more than that.

If you don't end it, he will really hurt you. The decision is yours. Everybody is telling you exactly the same thing. Are you taking it in at all or just wanting to keep telling us that you mean something to him because x, y, z? For your own sake, stop it.

Him telling me about this other girl who he was getting set up with served no purpose at all did it.
Apart from putting a dampener on my Xmas night

And he said
"I know you do" "but I couldn't care less".

Stop posting about things he has done. It serves no purpose but to continue ruining your Christmas. He can behave how he wants but you are choosing to listen to it.

Block him now. End it.

He doesn't even like you, let alone love you.

Have you no friends who can take you out of yourself? You're spending Christmas night, online, talking about this waste of space as if he's actually important. He is not.

You're nothing to him. You need to hear that, as hurtful as it is. The only variable will be how long it takes you to realise that and regain your dignity.

Block him now. Don't let him ruin your new year too.

@Sleepysundown OP has said he knows she has feelings for him. So yes he is a dick for still stringing her along, telling her about other girls etc knowing she has feelings for him.

Just because he's been honest doesn't mean he's not a horrible person.

Well at least he was honest about being a feckless, dirty rat.

He's not actually relevant, though. Guaranteed he's nothing special. What is relevant is the pressing need for you to ask yourself why you are allowing some man to come and use you as a wank sock when he has no better offers, and why you are bending over backwards to make him like you.

I said to him about a month ago
I know you don't want anything more and that's your choice but please don't tell me about other girls because I don't want to know and it hurts me.
Don't tell me who fancies you etc
Yet still he tells me about them.

Please tell him you have met someone else, its serious and you cant see him again. Then block and delete.

@xmasevebirthdaygirl What do you want out of this thread? You're not replying to any of us. You're just repeating the same snippets. Break the cycle and BLOCK HIM TONIGHT.

So what have you decided:

1. stay with the giy who is seeing eight other women or

2. break it off.

What have you decided?

Ceejly agreed and the guy I’m FWB with is very clear that HE ends it when they catch the feels. Because he isn’t a wanker, he just doesn’t believe he can love.

Well we aren't together anyway so it's not like I'm going to loose anything.
I'm just going to say I won't be one of many so it's best we just stop speaking.

Block him then. Do not get drawn back in. Don't tell him. You are giving him one last chance to hurt you or try to make you jealous. It's a game to him. It's not a game to you. Take your ball and go home.

Well done OP.

If you are not happy with the situation get out.

He is one guy if millions. You will find another one that suits you better.

Say it in a text, then immediately block & delete.
Don't give him any chance to hook you in again.

Oh my good god.

JUST BLOCK HIM.

Please.

OP I feel really sad reading your messages, you really deserve so much more than this. My best advice would be to end it by saying I'm looking for a relationship, your not so I'm moving on, get your glad rags on and get yourself out, go on dates and make yourself available, if he really does like you he will show you but only when you stop being a doormat, hes got you where he wants you, you need to make the moves (in this case out of the door) otherwise this will only end up in more heartache

You are not together so you don’t him an explanation and cant dump him. Just block him.
There was a book I almost didn’t read because I didn’t like the title (!) but it was quite good. Why men love bitches (I think)

You don’t owe* him

I know 100% I need out of this situation.
He has even said half the women he gets with when he's out he doesn't even think are attractive..it's just someone to have sex with.
Then the next day after he's slept with a random ...he's back telling me and then not understanding why I'm upset.
I would treat him so well,look after him but it's not enough.

Go on then!

You want different things and he isn’t going to change. Cut him out completely.