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Dating Thread 165: The bravest thing you will ever do is love again ❤

999 replies

JeSuisPrest · 23/07/2019 21:21

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Appswww.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

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Alanis41 · 24/07/2019 16:46

@putastrawunderbaby personally think he is hedging his best in case gets a better offer. You should make alternate plans and just say you didn't hear back so went out anyway.

putastrawunderbaby · 24/07/2019 16:51

I've messaged him to say as he's not confirmed I'm assuming he's changed his mind and wished him well.

No timewasters wanted - next please!

SimonJT · 24/07/2019 18:03

@richdeniro Sorry it didn’t work out for you both, but it is better to do it as early as possible.

@shitwithsugaron Three! That just isn’t fair at all, that’s more than my total sleepovers since April!

MrNN lands Friday morning, so I have booked MiniMe in at forest school, I have booked some for the rest of the holiday period so he has a space if he likes it, fingers crossed.

shitwithsugaron · 24/07/2019 20:24

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Sunshineandflipflops · 24/07/2019 20:42

Oh no @shitwithsugaron! I hope tonight isn't ruined by an insect bite!

Here's me feeling excited at seeing MrSAS twice in one week 😂

SimonJT · 24/07/2019 20:46

@shitwithsugaron I guess it depends where the bite is! Hopefully a few antibiotics will sort it out quickly.

FMFL · 24/07/2019 21:25

@putastrawunderbaby I hope your evening is going well, with or without Mr Timewaster.

CodLiverOil556 · 24/07/2019 22:55

Sorry to burst in and will read the thread and see what everyone else is up to...Mr T has just sent me this message...Kermit, will you be my girlfriend...? what a total sweetheart he is ☺️

FMFL · 25/07/2019 07:51

@kermitrulesok oh my heart did a little flip when I read that!

Sunshineandflipflops · 25/07/2019 07:58

@kermitrulesok Aw! I don't think I've been asked that since I was about 14!
I assume you said yes?

StealthNinjaMum · 25/07/2019 08:00

Am I the only one wondering where Mr B's insect bite is?

@putastrawunderbaby that told him! That's just such a rude way to behave. I hope you had a good night without him.

@kermitrulesok squeeeeee!

Marlboroandmalbec34 · 25/07/2019 08:05

kermit kid school! Love it

Sunshineandflipflops · 25/07/2019 08:22

I'm going out for a curry tonight (yes, on a boiling hot day) with MrSAS for my birthday...which I hope means he is paying 🤔

It's the last time I'll see him for 16 days (not that I'm counting, nope) as I'm going on holiday tomorrow. I've never had a reason to not want to go on holiday before Blush

shitwithsugaron · 25/07/2019 08:53

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CassettesAreCool · 25/07/2019 09:54

All this squeeee-ing going on! Fantastic. Gives us all hope.

Talking of which... I have an iron, Mr Dynamic, who ticks boxes that have not so far been ticked (together) on OLD: intelligent, capable, solvent, no DC below 21, no sex talk (though he has told me I am beautiful lol), unattached, beautiful dog, 6', on same page politically. Convo has flowed. Have set up a phone interview tonight. OMG Cassettes is actually excited and a tad invested! Wish me luck?

AverageGuy · 25/07/2019 10:33

Good luck Cassettes!

shitwithsugaron · 25/07/2019 10:37

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CassettesAreCool · 25/07/2019 10:56

In some of his photos, yes (I haven't met him yet). I'm not bothered either way by beards. Just hope I don't mess up the interview. I'm actually going to prep for it, by listening to the songs he has sent me Grin

Sunshineandflipflops · 25/07/2019 10:59

Good luck @CassettesAreCool, he sounds promising!

Laughing at the 'interview' though! Just treat it as a chat with a friend.

CassettesAreCool · 25/07/2019 11:02

No, it's definitely an interview, and I'm fine with that. It seems like our minds work in a similar way. No timewasters please! Well, no more timewasters anyway.

CodLiverOil556 · 25/07/2019 11:12

Squeeeeee indeed! I sent back 'I actually lolled at that and feel like I'm 16 again! Of course I will ❤️'. It feels so easy and natural. Everyone who said you'll know when it's right and they were absolutely right.

@CassettesAreCool lol an interview! I suppose first dates are interviews...on MrTs first date we just so happen to get extremely drunk!

@Sunshineandflipflops ooooh have a lovely curry with MrSAS. Do you think you're nearly on the same page?

@shitwithsugaron that is such a couple thing to do...glad his bite didn't affect other activities!

@putastrawunderbaby did anything come about last night?

JeSuisPrest · 25/07/2019 11:14

@CassettesAreCool That man sounds too good to be true, and if he's got a beard as well...

@kermitrulesok That's so lovely, MrT sounds like an absolute sweetheart, especially considering what he's been through recently.

@Sunshineandflipflops Oh I'm sure things will heat up even further after the curry...

@Marlboroandmalbec34 Good grief woman! Leave some for other people you greedy girl Grin I don't know when the night is - sometime in August (?)

@shitwithsugaron MrC was on antibiotics for 3 weeks because of a tick bite - it was on his calf. No knob use was affected, though the antibiotics gave him terrible heartburn and he couldn't go out in the sun which he hated. I did offer to Fake Bake him but he declined, 'cos he's a manly man, though he did do a Footner with me Grin

@putastrawunderbaby Did your flakey date ever reply or did you block him?

Had a sneaky midweek sleep over last night, I turned up yesterday afternoon to find him walking around outside in only a pair of shorts and his v.hairy chest on display and he'd had a haircut. I swooned a bit and may have downloaded that bit of footage from my dashcam to put in my photo album wank bank.

I'm not sure how things are going to pan out over the holidays - I think there'll be a few weeks when I see him loads whilst DD is with her dad, then other weeks where I barely see him because I'm on mum duty which is making me Grin and Sad at the same time.

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Sunshineandflipflops · 25/07/2019 11:15

What's the job..?!

I'm not a fan of speaking on the phone to someone I don't know so I would fail miserably. Much prefer doing it in person.

CassettesAreCool · 25/07/2019 11:17

Congratulations Kermit, the prom queen Glitterball

CodLiverOil556 · 25/07/2019 11:21

@JeSuisPrest we've been through loads in the last 6 weeks! We hit 10,000 messages on WhatsApp last night too! I can't see him til Sunday as I'm in mum duty but exH is having them for 2 weeks from Sunday so am free!!!

He is such a sweetheart and really cares about me, he remembers what I've told him and asks about my day. I'm a mechanic by trade so also asks me about his car. We have connected in such a strong way that I didn't think it was even possible. We are so on the same level it's untrue.