Dating Thread 165: The bravest thing you will ever do is love again ❤

[JeSuisPrest]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Appswww.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Checking in..... Sorry things didn't work out @richdeniro but it sounds like a respectful and amicable ending.

I have a date tomorrow night with an iron I shall call Mr D, and one on Friday night with one I will name Mr Slate. My cup runneth over! If neither of them talk about funerals or the technical intricacies of manufacturing animal feed together with a blow by blow account of the process they'll be a step up from my last date

Hi everybody - have not been around for a bit.
Insomnia rearing it's head once more, it's 3:45 argh. I've not caught up properly on the last 2 threads! Had until this evening muted my Bumble account. But decided I need some fun!
@richdeniro sorry to hear things didn't work out. Will catch up on everything else that's been going on later x

Place marking. Can't sleep. Lovely thread title jesuis. Sorry you're back rich but it sounds like you had a positive experience.
MrWow currently asleep snoring his head off. His birthday Fri and we are going to Newmarket Races - music night. 👌

Place marking, will read after work.

Lovely thread title JeSuis. Rich so sorry it didn't work out for you.

shit Mr BC amd I went to Sweden 5 weeks after we met .... it just felt right. It still does!

@richdeniro sorry to hear that! I think when you know, you know though so it sounds like you did the right and fairest thing for both of you

Morning all,
Rich sorry it didn’t work. Well done for being brave. Onwards and upwards.
Feeling a bit frustrated with work and kid Situ as it makes me feel like iron is like a duck buddy. Comes over when kids in bed and leaves early hours. Anyone else feel like that? Next week they go away so will see if it changes. Don’t get me wrong we’ve had lovely dates in past but at mo majority is few snatched hours. I need to stop overthinking maybe?!?

@Sunshineandflipflops I have one word word. Squeeeeeeeeeee 😍 BUT just for the avoidance of doubt you'll need to have a conversation at some stage to agree that you are exclusive (if that's the way you think things are headed?) in case he says something twattish like "I came off the apps, but that didn't mean I wouldn't meet someone at the gym".

@richdeniro Sorry to hear that things haven't worked out this time, but when you know, you know.

@putastrawunderbaby 2 dates lined up in 3 days? Go you! 👍🏻

@Lillyrose19 I think you're doing the right thing.🌺🌻🌹

@JeSuisPrest Yes, I know. I honestly don't feel like he is looking for anyone else at the moment but his view on monogamy is still unsettling I guess.

Maybe I'll send him a message just before I go on holiday telling him how I feel so he has some time to think about it. I don't want to have that conversation before I go and risk f*cking things up.

Has this warm weather brought something in the air to make old irons/exes crawl out of the woodwork?

In the last two weeks I’ve had messages from 5 old flames or old irons!

Do they have a spidey sense that you’re loved up and happy that makes them come back?

I’d had a big clear out on my phone so didn’t even know who some were - one just messaged “I never did get to say goodbye properly”. I replied “sorry who is this?” He said “ahh you deleted me.” I replied “mate I’ve deleted loads of guys, which one are you?” 🤣🤣

@richdeniro I’m sorry you’re back but it takes guts to end something kindly that you know wasn’t working so well done you.

@sunshineandflipflops sounds like a relationship to me, I’ve got a feeling MrSAS has got the feelz big time but is reluctant to label it. I can’t imagine he’s dating others as he seems to spend all his spare time with you...

@Sidge I'm not in a hurry to label things either and I am happy with the fairly casual arrangement and keeping my life with my children quite separate for now as we have both had stuff to deal with.

I'm not looking for a step dad for my kids or someone to help pay my mortgage. I'm happy with the way things are...I just hope he feels the same way.

@ccgirr I have felt like that with Mr R but it's best not to overthink it. When you have kids / jobs / busy lives it's hard to fit a new person in. We're now in the middle of a period where we have to spend 8 days apart but he is sending lovely messages and we'll get by.

Sorry to hear your news @richdeniro I had slow burn turn into fireworks with my ex so I can understand how when you finally met a normal, emotionally available woman you wanted it to develop. Will keep my fingers crossed for you that you meet someone else.

Place marking. Beautiful title! Off to see what I missed on last thread

Thanks @StealthNinjaMum you probably right just good to hear I’m not the only one!

Rich sorry to hear about your break up

If it ain't right, then it ain't right...

Right all caught up I think!

rich sorry it didn’t work out but sounds like you handled it well.

sunshine squeal!

Guys I think you’re going to be mad at me!!! I spent the night with Mr Big. He invited me for dinner and to talk. It was a brilliant night. We were both very honest (and the sex was amazing -especially during the super thunderstorm. So we are back on. Slowly slowly not defining it and with shit loads of honesty. Yes he is unavailable but I think I am too!
Please don’t throw me off thread. I need you guys

@Marlboroandmalbec34 why is he unavailable? Why can't he be exclusive with you?

Hi all. I've been quiet for a while as I was trying to process my break up with Mr S.

After 6 weeks of NC I made the mistake of getting in touch with him and telling him I missed him. It takes up loads of emotions. But the upshot being he misses me but doesn't feel the way I do about him. And wants is to go back to silence.

I've deleted all our messages and his number. But I feel raw and in pain. I know beyond any doubt now it's over. And tats not great.

Posted too soon!

So it's not great bit at least I'm in no doubt.

Back on the apps. Had a few dates with Mr Bants and DTD at the weekend. Not ready for anything serious right now but am enjoying the company.

Ooh marls no judgement at all. But I do hope you aren't playing with fire. I felt awesome this week chatting to Mr S again. But then he cut it off and the pain feels even worse than before. I really hope things work for you xx

@Notcoolmum I'm sorry to hear you're hurting. As awful as it has been hearing that from him, like you say, at least you know for sure now.

@Marlboroandmalbec34 You know I have no moral high ground to preach from so I hope things work out the way you want them to. My situation with MrSAS is quite similar and at the moment it works and I'm happy and I think he is too. I can't think too much about the future anyway as that for me is divorce proceedings and continuing to re-build my life from its foundations, but right now, it works and it's nice to feel cared about and not just like a mum all of the time.

Oh notcool I am sorry to hear that.

lilyrose19 he said he is exclusively sleeping with me and hadn’t actively swiped since we had the exclusivity chat 3 weeks ago. He had changed the photos on tinder the week before then. He just doesn’t want a full on relationship with me or anyone at the moment. He knows I am swiping again. I am going to stop overthinking it all. I have said many times here that I know he is not the man for me long term but I am going to enjoy what we have (which is great conversation and explosive sex)

Thanks sunshine as you know I am also going through a divorce and rebuilding. Right now I am happier with Mr Big in my life than without so just gonna go with it

Love the thread title! And squeeeeee @Sunshineandflipflops! Mr SAS sounds like his head may be catching up with his heart!

@putastrawunderbaby erm yes one can only hope that the dates get better from now on in fab that you have two dates lined up!

Mr Bucket and I chatted for an hour and a half last night, which I think is a good sign? We’ve arranged a date for Saturday and he seemed genuine on the phone so I hope he doesn’t cancel. He’s got an amazingly soft sexy accent too (swoons).

@Marlboroandmalbec34 absolutely no judgement here, I’m sure. We’ve all got to do what feels right for us and if Mr Big makes you happy, and you’re in it with your eyes wide open, then go for it.

I'm almost at the point of swiping right on everyone to see what happens, thats really not the right way to go about things tho.