Dating Thread 165: The bravest thing you will ever do is love again ❤

[JeSuisPrest]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Appswww.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

@jesuis things won't be hitting up after the curry, sadly as I have to catch the train home. Probably a good thing after the curry and a baking hot day though...I don't think I'll be a pretty Sunshine!

@kermitrulesok I don't know if we're on the same page. I think in many ways we are but he's not very open worth his feelings so I don't really know how he feels without asking him and part of me is too scared to do that in case I hear what I don't want to again.

I did message him earlier to say that I've never had a reason to not want to go on holiday before but that was 3 hours ago and he hasn't replied 😂
He is at work though...yep, that's definitely it...

*hotting up!

He hasn't sent me his job description, damn - should I ask for one? It's years since I've been interviewed. But I have my own of course, which I'm not sending to him, so fair do's. I'm developing my list of questions as the day goes on. Of course, it's just a preliminary exploration. There are certain aptitude and skills tests that require more, er, hands-on interaction

Well I hope you're the right candidate for the job and vice versa. Hopefully the phone interview will lead to a second interview 😄

MrSAS has replied and told me the heat is probably affecting my adrenal glands. I don't even know what that means but Dr Google tells me it's something to do with hormones. Such a romantic 😐😂

I think rolled up sleeves are a must in those weather!

MrSAS has just replied to my more direct message of "I will miss you" with "I will miss you too". That's pretty deep for him so I'm happy 😂

It's true though, the heat makes people horny and daft. As exemplified so well by the good citizens of this thread

Can't wait to get my hands on MrT on Sunday! Oooh sunshine that's good for MrSAS!

I don't need the heat to make me daft...

or for the other thing..

sunshine Wowzers that’s deep!

cassettes sounds amazing. Good look with your interviews. Are you confident in the STAR model for answering competency based questions 😂

Marlboro I barely even know what a competency is and am fairly sure I have no useful ones, but thanks for the tip!

@CassettesAreCool ooh I've got a good feeling in my waters about this one.

@Sunshineandflipflops he will miss you soooooooo much. I bet you come back to ❤️❤️

The heat does make everyone hot and bothered. I'm a big fan of a hot afternoon Er siesta. Mr U came over last night and we both agreed it was way too hot for sex. Within 10 mins we were having just about the best sex I've had in years... and it went on and on and on. I'm still not back to normal now.

@Marlboroandmalbec34 I got my current job using that technique

@Peanuthedz sounds like a hot sess!

@Peanuthedz Whoa! Let's not go crazy in this heat now 😂

Peanuthedz and here I am, on the undateable bench...

@AverageGuy 7 weeks ago I was in the same position...thinking bollocks to this, it's never going to happen for me and along came MrT. It'll happen for you

We don’t want any heat exhaustion guys! Lets keep those fluids up.

MrNNs flat is a bit posh and has aircon, I said I would rather go to his as he will be tired after a night flight (he knows I much prefer being in my flat), he obviously saw through my faux sleep concern 😄

MiniSJT and I are about to eat our first ever subway, it’s really cool in here so we will never leave.

@SimonJT So jealous of MrNN's air con right now!

MrSAS has just sent me a voice message as he can't text right now and I just had a little swoon. He has a regional accent that isn't renowned for its sexyness but he manages it 😊

I am lying on my bed with the fan on me and can't bring myself to move, although I go on holiday tomorrow and haven't packed...

@AverageGuy your match will come along. I know it's sit when everyone else seems to be loved up and happy but it's all a rollercoaster and things can change very quickly, both ways.

I got very disillusioned with OLD a couple of times and took a break from it. Maybe that's an idea?

*shit, even. Bloody fat fingers.

Sunshine I know, I'm just a little down atm. It doesn't help that

1. most of the people on the thread seem to have at least a FB / FWB, or are a fully fledged couple.

2. This weather, and the fashions it brings out...

@AverageGuy Sorry to hear you are down. All my real life friends are coupled up/married so I often feel like this.

Are you doing other things you enjoy such as seeing friends? Usually lots of bbq's/beer garden drinking going on in this weather.

I don't actually get horny in this weather as I am too hot and bothered and the thought of someone touching my clammy skin makes me erm...not horny 😂

I'm the same Sunshine . We all left work early due to major train issues in London. Melting and buckling rails ....Had to wait an hour for this 'hotter than Hades' train ... I'm always .... ahem ... 'up for some fun' but I need a cool shower and AC or lots of fans before I'd consider it. 36 degrees on the train apparently

@jesuisprest and @kermitrulesok he ghosted me..... His loss though and I have a date tomorrow night with Mr Slate and a new iron so I'm moving on!

@averageguy I feel your pain! We just have to keep the faith that one day it will happen for us!

@Sunshineandflipflops have a brilliant holiday! I'm away for a week on Saturday and haven't packed either.... I'm blaming the heat but it's actually pure laziness!

Sunshine It's fine, it'll pass.

I'm working away from home atm, so am a little isolated from my normal social circle, which also doesn't help..

Soon be the weekend though!

I could possibly go to a local swingers club tonight, but the last time I tried it there were only four people there... (three guys, one woman)...