Dating Thread 165: The bravest thing you will ever do is love again ❤

[JeSuisPrest]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Appswww.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Hi all I’m hijacking this thread a bit to ask advice. I’m a single mother too and have been dating for a while so I lurk a bit on this thread but don’t post.

My STBXH has been seeing someone since Christmas. I haven’t met her but have seen pics and been told about her and she seems lovely. She has 2 young kids. From her point of view she thinks that things are going really well with my ex and that he’s a good catch but he has spent the entire time they’ve been together trying to get me to go back to him. There’s been bribery, trying to kiss me, sulking, threats of suicide. He’s made my life a misery and repeatedly says thy although he likes her he doesn’t care about her and would have me back in a flash. He’s a mess. I thought of you ladies - if you’d been seeing someone for a good few months and they were behaving like that behind your back would you want to be told or would you just think crazy ex wife? He’s treating her horribly but I don’t want him back so I don’t want to say anything or he’ll be even worse with me but it feels really unfair not to warn her what she and her kids are involved with.

@Sunshineandflipflops another squeeeee from me; those messages from Mr SAS are the equivalent of any other man declaring undying love. Hopefully he’ll realise fully what he may miss out on while you’re away on holiday!

@Exwifeindilemma he’s a prince, isn’t he? personally I say don’t tell her. He will paint you as the crazy ex and she will resent you for what she’ll see as you trying to win him back. Just my opinion.

Thanks FMFL. Yeah, he’s a twat. That’s what I was leaning towards it just feels so horrible to leave another woman in the dark. Her problem though I guess.

@Exwifeindilemma I agree with @FMFL I think. Maybe if it came from someone else but she's likely to see you as the crazy, bitter ex and he will probably support that.

@AverageGuy Haha...good for the woman...not so much for the men (I assume)!

Exwife my stbxh has a gf of 7 months. He still hounds me daily. Yo yos between hating me and wanting me back. I feel so sorry for his gf BUT if I told her and she dumped him he would make my life a living hell. Tbh he doesn’t hide it. Apparently he is always kicking off on social media about me so I think she must be a bit silly not to be bothered.

@BatshitCrazyWoman I have to get on a hot train to meet him this evening so by the time I get there and have eaten a curry, I don't think I'll be pulling off the desired "remind him what he's going to miss" look 😂

sunshine Actually, it was their first time at that club as well. They were just passing through, and seemed to be a real couple, considering expanding their boundaries, but not yet ready to actually do anything...

Needless to say, I left early..

@Exwifeindilemma it is an utterly shit situation he’s put you in; and as for his poor gf, I hope she gets out of this relationship fast and painlessly. It is awful to say don’t tell her, as I once was the gf in a situation like that, but I know that I was fully loved up and wouldn’t have believed any woman, especially not an ex, saying my bf was trying it on with them.

It’s really unfair isn’t it? Ah well thanks for the opinions everyone - you’ve reassured that I’m doing the right thing by staying quiet even though it feels bad.

@Exwifeindilemma that's dreadful! What a knobhead. I have to agree with the others that he'll paint you as the crazy ex-wife and she won't believe you. I would be devastated if I found out MrT was pursuing his ex!

Exwife I agree with the others. What a prize your ex is ...

averageguy I've seen your profile, and I honestly cannot see why you are having this dry patch. Assuming you are using Tinder and Bumble as well as POF, I'm afraid it's just bad luck to date - but it will happen, I'm sure.

I've got ready to go out for my birthday curry and I'm sweating already just sitting on my sofa. I'm going to look a mess when I get there!

Have a lovely night @Sunshineandflipflops I'm sure you look amazing.

I've not heard from Mr H since Monday 😢🙄. Been swiping and my hearts not in it and they are all most definitely not my type or the fit ones are only after a shag 🤦‍♀️

Aw enjoy sunshine

The weather is definitely getting MrC a bit hot under the collar:

Me: I'm going into Ann Summers for a chemise to wear around the house in this weather - what do you fancy - silky/lacy/booby/leggy?

Him: Yes

@JeSuisPrest Mr C really is a lucky man!

The best MrSAS gets is an oversized t-shirt!

Whats a chemise?

@SimonJT I think it's like a skimpy nightie type thing that doesn't leave much to the imagination 😉

@Sunshineandflipflops It's purely to keep me cool... Can we all please remember I'm trying to get him to fall in love with me! I'm under no illusion that my boobs will be where the model's are...

Amazon Sex and Sensuality do a fantastic range of these - in fact it does a fantastic range of most things .. Perfect for hot weather, falling in love or just, you know, having fun.

Methinks JeSuis will get what she wants!

@JeSuisPrest! Wow! His chin will be on the floor!

Whit whoo jesuis my boobs wouldn't stand a chance in that!