Dating Thread 165: The bravest thing you will ever do is love again ❤

[JeSuisPrest]

1. The first rule about the dating thread is don't talk about it with people you're dating.
2. Develop a thick skin.
3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
5. Trust your gut instinct.
6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
8. If it's not fun, stop.
9. Loo update is mandatory.

10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Appswww.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Sounds lovely sunshine. I'm off to coombe Martin in eight days in a one bed caravan with son and dog . Hopefully the rain due next week has moved on.
Did someone look at your profile straw( I think it was you). I would offer but I expect you need a blokes point of view

Hey everyone. Back home after my 2 nights with Mr Big. Well all in all it was weird! We have a great connection, great sex BUT something really missing! I think it might be passion!! I don’t know. It’s very confusing. I have no idea what we are doing but I’m just gonna go with it and keep swiping and dating others which he is aware of!

Quite pleased to be back home actually..48 hours is a long time to hold in farts 😂😂

@Marlboroandmalbec34 😂

It's probably not a bad thing to be in this position, knowing how things are from Mr Big's side. I think you sound like you're in the right frame of mind.

Enjoy farting 😂

How was your Thursday night date @Marlboroandmalbec34?

Good fun but not for me ginmel didn’t fancy him and he came on too strong

That's a shame @Marlboroandmalbec34. Hope the next date has what's missing with Mr B.

In an attempt to not overinvest in Mr C, I now have two more irons, Mr Hair and Mr Qu.

Anyone else ever looked at engagement rings? 😂 Guess the heart can dream...

Right, just had a proper catch up rather than a read and run.

@Ant330 I’m really sorry that she has put you in this situation, you really need to prioritise you and your well being.

@kerkyra Hmm, the text kind of doesn’t suggest that you want to see him again, I think you might need to be a little more explicit.

@Sunshineandflipflops enjoy!

@Ginmel I have one, but I guess mens ones are easier to buy as they are plainer, I should probably move it to my right hand. Mine has a black insert that you can spin around, it was from Tiffany. Use one of those Haribo ‘rings’!

@kerkyra no-one has offered yet and a bloke's viewpoint would be optimal, but if you'd like to give me tips on my profile you'd be welcome! I'm getting very few views and no messages so goodness knows I need the help!

I just read all about your dates and situations
@Sunshineandflipflops sounds fab enjoy.

@kerkyra I agree, say what you want @Coffeeandchocolate9 suggestions were bloody brilliant

I know I said I wasn't ready and I think that's because I didn't want what was chasing me. I was chatting with an ex colleague and eventually it became apparent that he was just telling me what I wanted to hear intermittently. I did some digging and there is an off on relationship with his wife! They broke up and got back together they broke up again but I have sneaky suspicion that it's not actually done. So glad I spotted that one.

What I do need tho is for you all to give me a sensible head right now. Without too much info I fancy a guy from work. We don't work directly together at all. He's single, young and seriously hot. We used to flirt but I knocked it on the head a couple of months back as I was just ending my marriage and thought it wasn't cool.

After Friday night out we ended up the last two there. We ended up having a very very hot passionate encounter - not sex. It was amazing. How I know 100% that on paper we are not a match and therefore camt get involved. But I want him big time!
His body is to die for

He's been chatty and kind without too much real discussion about what happened but has suggested a meet up next weekend to talk. Do I just tell him I want sex or am I being stupid when I've only just split with my H a couple months ago? I know my head is done there. I mentally checked out during the counselling but I feel bad because I know H isn't done.

putastraw I'm not sure I'm the right person to send it to, a guy back in the spring( man4 all seasons I think he was called) tried to send links to his profile a few times and I couldnt access. I'm not techy at all,still have a Nokia! But you can try.

@DragonNoodleCake I'm not a fan of workplace relationships esp when you are still getting over your marriage so you are just having a casual fling rather than really connecting with someone. If you want a fling, find a man on a dating site. Much less messy.

putastraw sorry with everything I've had going on I must have missed your request for somebody to have a look at your profile, but I'd be happy to do so if you pm me a link. I can't guarantee I'll be any help though

I sent MissH a message earlier today essentially saying that me pushing to try and resolve things wasn't doing either of us any good, particularly while she had so much on her plate, so I thought it was best for both of us to call it a day. I borrowed Candysroom message of thanks for the good times and I wish you all the best.
She did reply saying she's really sorry, but she's just stressing about everything including me, but she will call me once she's in a better place.
I haven't replied and intend to ignore the last part and move on as quickly as I feel able to do so.

Dragon I'm with Ginmel about workplace relationships. Only you can answer how difficult or awkward it might be if it should end unpleasantly.

Glad you sent the message @Ant330. No you can begin to move on and if yours and Miss Hs paths cross again in the future (can't help but think they might) you can give it another go if you want to.

ant sorry it’s come to an end. I know you really liked her. I think you have shown a lot of patience and it’s defo time to move on

@Ant330 I'm sorry too. It's never easy to end things, especially with someone you really like. Maybe you will cross paths again when she's in a better place but from my experience once that damage is done, it's pretty hard to go back to how things were before. I'm sure she'll realise what she's lost before long but it's up to you what you do about that and she has to relate that you might have moved on to someone who is perhaps dealing with less stress. Bigs hugs to you (and plenty of cheap French rosé) x

*realise

Yeah I'm sorry too, I typed the message and then sat on it for about 2 hours before I hit send, I really liked her but deep down I know this is what's best for me. I'm sad about it but I've got through worse

Aw sorry ant. It's awful when things end so abruptly. Perhaps Miss H realised she had more to process following her break up than she realised when you triggered something about her precious abusive relationship.

Things ended really abruptly with Mr S. I think my emotions made him realise he'd jumped into something too deep too soon and he wasn't emotionally ready for it whilst still putting his marriage to bed and establishing his new relationship with his kids. It sucked for me. But what I am proud of is that I recognised my standards, and despite how much it hurt and still hurts, I knew I was worth more than crumbs.

We have to know what we are prepared to accept in a relationship and stick to it.

Oh Ant I'm so sorry. I'm another who thinks Miss H will get back in touch.

Placemarking.

Hope you can take comfort @Ant330 in knowing it wasn't about you or miss h not liking each other anymore, or a difference in personality/ character or a fallout. What's meant for you won't go by you.

I think Mr C has gone off me. Nevermind. I'm not holding out much hope of us meeting. Back to the other irons. Fortunately I'm in no rush anyhow.