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Dating thread 154 - in which beards are encouraged.

999 replies

Crustaceans · 09/04/2019 19:13

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

OP posts:
Inliverpool1 · 13/04/2019 19:38

How is my luck so bad ? He sleeps with me goes off to play rugby and wakes up unconscious in hospital. This has happened before, broke his arm, never heard from him again

ItsAMiracle2015 · 13/04/2019 19:49

Inliverpool1 what? I'm confused?

HairyArsedMan · 13/04/2019 19:50

I think @Inliverpool1 is suggesting blokes do a runner after sleeping with her and make their excuses by feigning rugby injuries ?

Inliverpool1 · 13/04/2019 19:52

Literally I slept with this fella this afternoon... off he went to play rugby ... noticed he’d popped up on whatsap so sent him a did you win message. He replies with a photo of himself in a hospital bed 🙈

Last year I was dating someone who fell on ice and broke his arm ... after I’d slept with him too ....
Is this the lengths men will go to to escape

ponyprincess · 13/04/2019 20:10

youreadthebabybooks I agree with what inliverpool1 and itsamiracle2015 say- just message when you want, initiate a meet up when you want. If you don't like their response style then you can just move on!

Eesha · 13/04/2019 21:01

Hello peeps,

Great to hear people's updates. I went on a date with Mr ADHD who had constantly been putting it out there that he would be my FWB. We had a kiss but I didn't feel any sort of potential but now he is infatuated and I feel a bit bad i kissed him. I believe it was @Ant330 who said to tread carefully with these kinds of vulnerable people so I'm trying to back off a bit.

I have a date with MrTeacher this week, he's only 5ft 7, which isn't my usual preference but I've been trying to keep an open mind with my recent dating, plus he seems quite lovely. We are going for a walk and maybe lunch and I'm slightly panicking what to wear as I'm so used to bog standard drinks and dinner nights....

Sunshineandflipflops · 13/04/2019 21:32

So me and MrSAS are chatting and he asks me if I’ve ever used sex toys. I tell him I have a vibrator and he asks me to bring it when I see him next.

I’m not opposed to this at all but I’ve only even used it alone (since separating from my ex...never had one when I was with him).

I’m not sure what to expect!

ponyprincess · 13/04/2019 21:46

sunshineandflipflops do what makes you feel comfortable--it can be fun to do toys together and you can always shift them to the side of it's not for you!

ponyprincess · 13/04/2019 21:48

inliverpool1 what happened that he ended up in hospital?!

Sunshineandflipflops · 13/04/2019 21:50

pony thanks. And I was worried an older man might be a bit boring 😂

ponyprincess · 13/04/2019 22:07

sunshineandflipflops that made me laugh! In my view an older man knows what he's doing!

StealthNinjaMum · 13/04/2019 22:09

Well I had hoped to update on my date but Mr Enthusiastic became Mr Unenthusiastic then Mr Really Enthusiastic and then Mr ProbablyGotABetterOffer because he then decided there wasn't enough spark for another date.

It's great that he told me rather than ghosted me but definitely weirdly nice, overenthusiastic messaging and behaviour. I liked him but thankfully he wasn't the love of my life so I don't think I'll be upset too long. I have blocked him on everything in case he changes his mind and deleted all messages.

Must remember rule number 6.

Inliverpool1 · 13/04/2019 22:11

He appears to have been involved in a collision. I’m so cynical I guess time will tell but I overthink and worry. Like he’s sent a photo and he’s clearly in hospital

Still18atheart · 13/04/2019 22:49

Just had a match on tinder and their opening message was basically “ how are you? What’s your job?” The urge to say I’m a neurosurgeon who mostly practices on the international space station is unreal

ponyprincess · 14/04/2019 00:06

still18atheart did you go for the laugh? 😁

inliverpool1 it's hard to doubt a hospital photo.....

Stealthninjamum you did the right thing - if he doesn't see you are.the prize he does not deserve your time and attention

JeSuisPrest · 14/04/2019 00:20

Well I ended up in the spare room. With MrCornish 😳...

ponyprincess · 14/04/2019 00:24

JeSuisPriest what happened? Is that what you wanted?

MrDrummer · 14/04/2019 00:25

So, I was speaking to someone today and discussing the "always swipe right" approach to Tinder, when this person stated that she knew someone that wrote a computer program to send a message to everyone on PoF that fit your criteria with a general message:

Is this morally acceptable?
if I was to write this myself, would anybody like a copy?

MrDrummer · 14/04/2019 00:25

@JeSuisPrest You okay?

JeSuisPrest · 14/04/2019 06:56

All good, long story, but we both retired to the spare room as the dogs were asleep on his bed and I didn't fancy sharing 😂

Matchedandmuddled · 14/04/2019 07:09

Jesus look forward to the long story later!

Anyone have any ideas about why yesterday I had three conversations with 3 guys on tinder...I think I was being interesting ..... they haven't responded to my last message? Do they not realise how this is rude and leads me to overthink?

Must remember I am the prize! I just want a fun date in the Easter holidays! Why is this so difficult? I'm meeting with Mr Mill tomorrow ... Almost forgot, that doesn't bode well, does it!

Matchedandmuddled · 14/04/2019 07:10

Oh the irony that my typo says Jesus on a Sunday! Did of course mean Jesuis!

ponyprincess · 14/04/2019 07:33

JeSuis glad the story has a happy ending!

Matchedandmuddled that's always frustrating if someone leaves mid conversation-they may have been simultaneously chatting to others or just got distracted by something in real life.. But having 3 all do it, I can see you'd be left feeling a bit 🙄

Hope it goes well with Mr Mill tomorrow!

I've been chatting to Mr Run and we made plans for a first date to go running... Not it sure if this is a good idea-I will probability be too breathless to chat and then end up looking a hot sweaty mess!

Matchedandmuddled · 14/04/2019 07:39

@ponyprincess thanks ... trying not to take it all too seriously. Run sounds great....as long as doesn't turn all competitive and into a race!

Marlboroandmalbec34 · 14/04/2019 07:55

jesuis pleeeeease tell us about Mr Cornish did he live up to expectations???

still18 did you send it?

Wake up Saturday night daters!! I need details

Opening message from someone yesterday on fab “I may be hung like a tic tac but I will leave your mouth minty fresh” 😂🤮

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