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Dating thread 154 - in which beards are encouraged.

999 replies

Crustaceans · 09/04/2019 19:13

Dating thread rules:

  1. The first rule about the dating thread is you don't talk about it with people you're dating.
  2. Develop a thick skin.
  3. Do not invest emotionally too soon.
  4. It's all BS until it actually happens.
  5. Trust your gut instinct.
  6. People vanishing, lying & being generally weird is not your fault.
  7. You are the prize - they should be trying to impress you.
  8. If it's not fun, stop.
  9. Loo update is mandatory.
10. No dating the thread. 11. Do unto others as you would have them do to you.

And a reminder - you don't know them until you know them!

Link to Info on Dating Websites & Apps www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3514717-List-of-Dating-Site-Info-Dating-Thread?watched=1

Link to previous thread:
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3543468-dating-thread-152-onwards-and-upwards

OP posts:
Sunshineandflipflops · 14/04/2019 08:00

pony MrSAS suggested a run or workout for our first date and I declined! I like running but it’s sometbing I do on my own or with female friends, not with someone I fancy! I go very red and sweaty...not a good look!

Panamaxforte · 14/04/2019 08:12

@matchedandmuddled I feel your angst. I logged back in to my account for the first time in ages. There was a nice message from a guy from about a month ago. I could see he was still on there so messaged back . . . I then saw he came online (so would have read it) I could also see he’d looked at my profile again. He hasn’t replied so now I’m wondering if it’s because he’s decided I’m fugly, boring or both?! Hmm

Inliverpool1 · 14/04/2019 08:12

I made that mistake... gym date, he was unimpressed with my lack of athletic ability and I felt like crap wobbling around. Never saw him again

StealthNinjaMum · 14/04/2019 08:24

I would never go on a gym date! I think it's when I'm at my worst!

Have changed my messaging / texting style - just been a bit more flirtatious and LIVE UPDATE I'm currently messaging a man and exchanging phone numbers. The only downside is he lives miles away, much further than I'd go for but I thought as I have no other irons why not? Must get back to my messaging.

Ant330 · 14/04/2019 08:34

Must be about 23 years since I got a taxi home wearing last nights clothes GrinGrin

ItsAMiracle2015 · 14/04/2019 08:36

Matched that's online dating for you. I've lost count of the guys that don't reply, or suddenly stop replying 🙈. Probably talking to someone else, and they're more invested in that conversation. In all honesty I do the same to other guys when I'm more interested in 1. Try not to overthink it.

The idea of a gym date (or any sort of exercise date) makes me feel nauseous. I can't think of anything worse 😂.

@lifegoes are you okay?

shitwithsugaron · 14/04/2019 08:41

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ponyprincess · 14/04/2019 08:44

I am now seriously re-thinking this running date!

Sunshineandflipflops I usually run alone too as it is my thinking time

Maybe I will have accidentally pulled a muscle by Wednesday and suggest somethibg else!!

ponyprincess · 14/04/2019 08:45

Ant330 sounds like a good evening!!

Lovemusic33 · 14/04/2019 08:45

I have my date today with Mr no hair. I’m not really feeling it and he has just told me that he still shares his car with his ex. They have been split 9 months which isn’t long. I know he’s not really going to be relationship material but it’s too late to cancel so I shall go on the date (for coffee and cake). He’s already being full on and making future plans, he’s obviously looking for a wife replacement. I’m already planning how to let him down gently. I don’t want to be involved with someone who’s still so involved with their ex, been there before and can’t be doing with it again. I still have a few other irons to meet up with hopefully this week.

ponyprincess · 14/04/2019 08:57

Lovemusic33 hope the coffee goes better than anticipated, but it does sound a bit of a non-starter from what you say. Good thing that you have other irons lined up!!

Matchedandmuddled · 14/04/2019 08:59

@Lovemusic33 it is tricky, but yes if still tied up with ex it's not the best start, but you have other irons!

Ok - need help, new match on Tinder, Mr Smiles - I have sent brief message asking him about his ideal Sunday ... now I need to be cool and leave it. Do not want a repeat of yesterday!

Off for a run, look forward to Saturday night updates on return!

ponyprincess · 14/04/2019 09:04

shitwithsugaron that sounds really promising with Mr Bookworm. Its so great when you click straight away

Inliverpool1 · 14/04/2019 09:09

Update on Rugbyboy - got a message at 11pm to say he was home with a splitting headache then messages again this morning so all appears well again there. I’ve just been lied to that often I can’t seem to take anyone’s word anymore for anything in fact. Hopefully this is a nice fresh start.

kerkyra · 14/04/2019 09:20

When I've received first messages,anything too long and thought out puts me off. I like a light and airy 'hey,how's your eve going' sort of thing. The long messages just make me think too intense. Trying to hard. A few messages in then sure,long messages are good as we are both replying.

So mr village man isn't a txter,i heard from him on Tuesday,no kisses and brief. But he txt last night and came over. He is warm,funny and shy and after an hour he did the yawn/sigh thing and slid his arm around me on the sofa. Lots of snogs and then he left. Not sure where this is going,he mentioned he wanted fun last week but i'm not sure. He says he isn't dating anyone.

I'm going to suggest doing something out of the house,like a date? Might make him run for the hills!

Lovemusic33 · 14/04/2019 09:22

I have a couple irons but no one that’s screaming out to me as relationship material. I still need to arrange to meet the one that cancelled on me last week (I always give one more chance). Mr Teacher has gone all weird on me and says he’s deleting POF but will only talk to me on KIK (which I don’t use). I’m not really putting much effort in due to school holidays, I will try and look for more irons next week,

kerkyra · 14/04/2019 09:29

oh shit,i've just txt asking if he fancies a daytime drink in the sun.

Inliverpool1 · 14/04/2019 09:41

Lovemusic33 - where is MRTeacher based if you don’t mind me asking ? That sounds familiar

Sidge · 14/04/2019 09:49

Got back from my holiday very late last night/early hours of this morning after a flight delay.

Remember I finished with Mr Mystery mid week? Well guess who was waiting at the airport for me....

@ponyprincess I can’t imagine anything worse than a date like that! I’d want to be looking my best and be able to chat, not looking like a puffy tomato (not that you do, but I do when running!) and wondering if he only suggested it so he can see how I look in Lycra.

@Ant330 - Wahey! Details please!

@JeSuisPrest top news!

@Lovemusic33 crikey I’d be moving along, split up 9 months ago and still share a car?! Sod that. How would that even work? Too enmeshed so far down the line for me I’m afraid.

Lovemusic33 · 14/04/2019 09:59

sidge who ever has the child gets the car, they do 50/50 with their son. He has a work van I assume. He says they have been split for 9 months but I’m guessing he moved out not long ago. I just can’t be doing with the drama of a ex or young children tbh. When I first started chatting to him I thought he would be fun just to date but he obviously wants a lot more than just dating. I think after the date I will have to message him and tell him that I don’t want want to date someone who’s still married and has so much contact with their ex. I just want someone who has their shit together and maybe has grown up kids.

shitwithsugaron · 14/04/2019 10:08

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Lovemusic33 · 14/04/2019 10:11

shit he sounds fun, I like quirky guys and that would make me smile too.

Bluezoo123 · 14/04/2019 10:12

Hi to all.has taken me forever to get to the end of the thread!
Has been a bit of an odd week for me but thins with bf going well. Both seem to be on same page but still have baggage to sort with respective exes.

Bluezoo123 · 14/04/2019 10:12

shit liking Mr Bookworm’s style!

Peanuthedz · 14/04/2019 10:15

I shared the car with my ex for about a year. Neither of us used it much only for the kids really and supermarket run so it made sense. Why have two cars with all the cost/environmental cost etc.

We only got two separate ones as it was written off. We've got young kids, we split care. We get on ok mostly and have been away together with the kids. We try to do a family day out every now and then. He's not going to disappear because he coparents my kids. It's a job share we have to communicate. I think it's really healthy! He's got a serious gf. He mends stuff in the family home (trying to sell)

Still hate him a lot and vice versa but we're adults!

@Sidge 😍 can't remember the details but was he FWB you got the feels for?

@kerkyra everything crossed.

No to gym date. Almost had a pool date once. Thank god I didn't he was one of the no teeth ones. And I know all the lifeguards.