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Husband demanding an abortion

567 replies

inthedarkx · 03/03/2019 22:41

I thought I would re post my post on here to see if I get more advice
Thank you in advance for reading.

So I'm pregnant with my 6th child. Won't go into details but I'm 13+1 and he immediately said I should have an abortion, no discussing it and if I want him to stay I will have one. I said I don't want an abortion and he said ok he will be gone just give him a week. He said 'good luck with bringing up 6 children as I won't be around full time' said I'm selfish on my kids.

I'm scared of going through an abortion at 13+1 and I'm also scared of becoming a single parent.

OP posts:
Original poster
inthedarkx · 04/08/2019 23:43

Yes I'm In the hospital and being monitored.

OP posts:
Desmondo2016 · 05/08/2019 14:55

What's happening now?

Original poster
inthedarkx · 05/08/2019 16:10

I'm being monitored. And if I don't go into labour tonight or tomorrow, they will induce me Wednesday. I'm 35+1 and my waters are gone. I'm just tired. I've had steroids to mature babies lungs and brain. They said that gives them a week or extra development with the steroids. Just want her here.

OP posts:
timeforawine · 05/08/2019 16:46

Got everything crossed things work out for you OP.

Desmondo2016 · 05/08/2019 18:13

What's happening with your husband now?

SunshineCake · 05/08/2019 19:32

Hope all goes well with the birth.

Bigmango · 05/08/2019 20:29

Well done for getting through a really difficult pregnancy op. I’m hope baby will be ok. Keep us posted x

Lollyjack · 05/08/2019 20:41

Keeping everything crossed for you op xx💐💐

Original poster
inthedarkx · 05/08/2019 21:08

These are messages from My husband after he told me he will be at his gf tonight which is an hour away and he's left the other 5 with my mum.
He's so horrible 😢

Sorry for my swearing in the message I'm just upset 😢

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MamaOfBothTeams · 05/08/2019 22:28

Focus on you and your baby girl Op. you don't need to be stressing about him right now

I hope the birth goes ok Thanks

Weenurse · 06/08/2019 01:24

Good luck 💐

ClaireElizabethBeuchampFraser · 06/08/2019 01:46

OP you are about to give birth to your precious baby girl, a baby girl he demanded you abort! Please don’t have him at the birth! You need someone who genuinely loves and cares for you with you at the birth! Not an arsehole who doesn’t even care if his daughter lives or dies! This man doesn’t love or even respect you, you need someone who cares for you or about you when you are labouring, it’s an incredibly vulnerable time!

Do you have a friend who could be with you during the birth?

I would be considering very carefully whether you want this man in your baby girl’s life. He may treat her with utter contempt and resentment! Your baby girl deserves better and so do you!

Original poster
inthedarkx · 06/08/2019 02:22

Thanks every
Just to update I have just given birth to my baby girl 35+2 at around 1am

I've named her Nova-belle and she weighed 5:14

My sister made it just in time to see her being born. Just about to go to theatre because baby was quite high up, but I managed to push her down which relieved everyone, she's now having a breastfeed!

Thank you everyone for being there for me

OP posts:
Original poster
inthedarkx · 06/08/2019 02:23

Thanks every
Just to update I have just given birth to my baby girl 35+2 at around 1am

I've named her Nova-belle and she weighed 5:14

My sister made it just in time to see her being born. Just about to go to theatre because baby was quite high up, but I managed to push her down which relieved everyone, she's now having a breastfeed!

Thank you everyone for being there for me

OP posts:
Original poster
inthedarkx · 06/08/2019 02:23

Thanks every
Just to update I have just given birth to my baby girl 35+2 at around 1am

I've named her Nova-belle and she weighed 5:14

My sister made it just in time to see her being born. Just about to go to theatre because baby was quite high up, but I managed to push her down which relieved everyone, she's now having a breastfeed!

Thank you everyone for being there for me

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MummaofFurGirls · 06/08/2019 04:20

Congratulations OP Smile

Beautiful name of your little treasure

ohnoessexgirl · 06/08/2019 04:41

He has no right to even attempt to force you to terminate your pregnancy. However - 6 kids?? WFT??

ohnoessexgirl · 06/08/2019 04:41

He has no right to even attempt to force you to terminate your pregnancy. However - 6 kids?? WFT??

ohnoessexgirl · 06/08/2019 04:41

He has no right to even attempt to force you to terminate your pregnancy. However - 6 kids?? WFT??

EarringsandLipstick · 06/08/2019 04:59

Congratulations @inthedarkx

Wishing you & your newest little one happiness. It's been a tough time for you 💐

EarringsandLipstick · 06/08/2019 05:01

@ohnoessexgirl

Honestly, of all the times not to RTFT! OP was updating us to say she'd had the baby

pebblemix · 06/08/2019 05:48

Congratulations on your new baby girl OP. You can do this without him. You’re a super mum and a super woman

Namenic · 06/08/2019 06:01

Congratulations! You have done amazingly well. Hope you are enjoying cuddles with little one - I bet her brothers and sisters will be thrilled to meet her. I loved growing up in a big family.

MrsBertBibby · 06/08/2019 06:23

Congratulations OP.

IggyAce · 06/08/2019 06:31

Congratulations OP, enjoy those newborn snuggles.