Husband demanding an abortion

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I thought I would re post my post on here to see if I get more advice
Thank you in advance for reading.

So I'm pregnant with my 6th child. Won't go into details but I'm 13+1 and he immediately said I should have an abortion, no discussing it and if I want him to stay I will have one. I said I don't want an abortion and he said ok he will be gone just give him a week. He said 'good luck with bringing up 6 children as I won't be around full time' said I'm selfish on my kids.

I'm scared of going through an abortion at 13+1 and I'm also scared of becoming a single parent.

CMS and apply for a divorce ASAP. He’s a nasty piece of work and isn’t going to change. You need to separate yourself legally as soon as you can and get rehoused close to your mum.

Hello all

Just a question

Can the court issue my ex husband 50/50 percent custody? Because I'm going to CSA for payments which he doesn't like because he said he only agrees with dads buying stuff that goes straight to the kids like when they need them in terms of clothes and shoes. So he's said if I do that he will then have the kids 50/50 percent of the time so he doesn't have to pay anything and then he said I would have to stop breastfeeding the baby and give her bottles of formula (I've never been able to express any) so he can have her too. And that he will make his gf a big part of their life essentially. So I'd have to accept his gf looking after my kids if he has then 50/50 percent of the time as he will be working. It seems like no matter what I do he wins 😢

He's a bully, and is using your worst nightmare to manipulate into not asking for the money he should be paying. No way can he have custody 50/50 if a breast feeding baby. Xx

No. Speak to WA. They will give you good advice on this and other matters. Ask about the Freedom Programme and Google it too.

The less you speak/communicate with him the better. He will just mess with your head otherwise.

So his girlfriend wants to look after six children including a newborn? Hmm do you believe that?

look up law society website - some solicitors offer half an hour advise for either low set fee or sometimes even free - you put in where you live in search engine on site & expertise on type of law
solicitors.lawsociety.org.uk/

(if you send all six dc make sure you feed them with plenty of additives (& baked beans before they visit)

well it's about time... good luck with the CMS lady and congratulations on your baby girl.

Tell him to knock himself out and you'll look forward to the rest. No way in the world he'll be stepping up to 50/50 care.

Call his bluff because that is exactly what it is

No court is going to ask you to stop breast feeding your baby so her DF can have 50% care of her.
(Children's SW so have some experience of this)

Congrats on the baby.
OP, now you have six kids and are raising them as a single parent, you need to find your strength and stop letting this man control you.
Sure, he can take you to court for 50% access but he wouldn't get it. He doesn't have the infrastructure--enough room in his home, he works full-time, etc, and, to be frank, it would be far to limiting on his lifestyle if (by some miracle) he got it.
As PPs have said, do you really think his new woman would want to look after 5 kids and one newborn? Nope.
You really need to stop letting this scumbag play you.
Claim CMS and rebuild your life.

Does his new lady friend not work?

Never take legal advice from your opponent.

Go see a solicitor and then you can tackle the wank stain armed with your legal rights.

What beach said.
And some kind thoughts and goodwill. You've been though a lot, you're doing well, keep going.

LOLing here at that new girlfriend wanting to be taking care of his 6 children. He’s taking her for a mug too - clearly hoping for an unpaid childcare. Even now he’s not taking responsibility for his own children, he has to have a woman to do it for him.

Just because he says something doesn't make it true. Stop buying into what he says. CMS won't give him custody, they can't do that. He would have to go to Court for that, and it's highly unlikely they'd do what he wants.

I do hope he said all those things by text or email so you have the evidence which will show the Court what his game is. Don't delete any of his texts.

He is being a shit, but he is also his own worst enemy. Keep a diary of everything he says or does, then you can show how often he's late for contact, how often he misses or changes it. Note down how it disrupts you too.

Everything he does is evidence of his vile attitude. Make sure you don't let him know you're making an evidence trail though, keep that very quiet, he'll behave in his own shitty way and make all the evidence you will need.

Don't let him rule your life, he just talks shit.