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Facebook messenger!!!

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Dez85 · 22/02/2018 23:13

Evening!!

I am feeling so angry right now!!

Cut a long story short, my boyfriend was on my laptop earlier and it crashed and wouldn't reload so he just left it.... I've just loaded it back up and his Facebook comes up, still logged on!

Anyway, he's on his phone right now at the other end of the sofa, & I'm on my laptop... I can see that he's just 'waved' at 5 women, 3 of which have replied and he's having conversations with!! Every time he sends a message, he deletes it so the convo disappears. But little does he know, I'm watching them pop up and reading every word.

I know I shouldn't be invading his privacy & I have never done this before but bloody hell...

What an absolute C**t. Or am I over reacting?

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piefacedClique · 22/02/2018 23:18

Awks! What types of things is he messaging about!

Original poster
Dez85 · 22/02/2018 23:26

Could say that!!

Oh general chit chat - how have you been etc all with a hint of flirt!

What do I do??

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Newerversion · 22/02/2018 23:29

I think you should get on Facebook and message him "Hi, just thought I would join in the messaging fun! ". Then watch his face.

Mrstobe90 · 22/02/2018 23:30

Wait a while to see if the messages become more sexual and if they do, tell him you can see everything.
Oh and also ltb! He's blatantly up to something

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Dez85 · 22/02/2018 23:30

One appears to have a wrist injury...
'If you need anything you know where I am'
' I don't want to bother you'
'You're never a bother'
'I feel like I am'

Seems like they have chatted before....

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Finola1step · 22/02/2018 23:32

Bide your time.

Lalalaleah · 22/02/2018 23:32

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boatyardblues · 22/02/2018 23:32

Screenshot, screenshot, screenshot. That way you can serve your revenge hot, cold or whatever way you fancy.

ChickenMom · 22/02/2018 23:32

Wow...he’s got a bloody cheek. Sat right next to you and online with other women. Rude.

Newerversion · 22/02/2018 23:33

The fact he is deleting the messages says quite a lot.

boatyardblues · 22/02/2018 23:33

Fistbumps lala. You got there quicker.

AthenasOwl · 22/02/2018 23:33

Ugh this is horrible! I think you should watch and wait too.

SandAndSea · 22/02/2018 23:33

Keep watching. I would bide my time.

How long have you been together?

Original poster
Dez85 · 22/02/2018 23:34

Just screen shorted a couple but as he is deleting them so quickly it's hard!!

I'm gonna bide my time though, not going to say anything just yet.

I just said 'why do men wave at women on Facebook, so bloody creepy' he said 'do you think?' Then waved at another one!!!

What a joker.

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mumgointhroughtorture · 22/02/2018 23:34

I would definitely wait it out and see where it goes ...
You may find out a few things you never knew about him . If you go in too soon he will convince you he's doing nothing wrong .

Original poster
Dez85 · 22/02/2018 23:35

Only been together 8 months...

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SandAndSea · 22/02/2018 23:36

Are you living together / pregnant ? If no, I would end it asap. Don't waste your time.

TwoEEs · 22/02/2018 23:37

I’d wait until there’s something he can’t deny then lose your shit and kick him out.

Hope you are okay

RoseGoldRosie · 22/02/2018 23:39

Surely he must have guessed from that comment?

Original poster
Dez85 · 22/02/2018 23:40

Nope, not living together & not pregnant either....

Absolute bastard, hello I am right here!!

He's just asked me if I am horny!!
I am actually laughing as I type this, it's unbelievable.

I will keep my eye on it (don't wanna turn my laptop off though because his password isn't stored)

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ProfessorPickles · 22/02/2018 23:40

Unbelievable OP! Cheeky fucker, I'd be really petty and carry on with the comments Grin "men are so pathetic that wave at women online" and carry on until he gets the jist then boot him out the house and give him a wave of his own (ie from the window) Grin

Original poster
Dez85 · 22/02/2018 23:41

@RoseGoldRosie nope! Still chatting and still waving!

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piefacedClique · 22/02/2018 23:43

Can you drop some of the sentences he’s writing in to your conversation.... as in.... do you want a cup of tea, it’s no bother.... that’s a shit example but do you get what I mean!

GreenTulips · 22/02/2018 23:43

Ohhh I'd enjoy the fun of watching him!

Original poster
Dez85 · 22/02/2018 23:45

I really want to but I don't want to give it away!! I want more in depth evidence as so far it's all 'how are you' crap....

Got this screenshot earlier tho...

Facebook messenger!!!
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