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Facebook messenger!!!

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Dez85 · 22/02/2018 23:13

Evening!!

I am feeling so angry right now!!

Cut a long story short, my boyfriend was on my laptop earlier and it crashed and wouldn't reload so he just left it.... I've just loaded it back up and his Facebook comes up, still logged on!

Anyway, he's on his phone right now at the other end of the sofa, & I'm on my laptop... I can see that he's just 'waved' at 5 women, 3 of which have replied and he's having conversations with!! Every time he sends a message, he deletes it so the convo disappears. But little does he know, I'm watching them pop up and reading every word.

I know I shouldn't be invading his privacy & I have never done this before but bloody hell...

What an absolute C**t. Or am I over reacting?

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piefacedClique · 22/02/2018 23:47

What about filming the screen if he’s deleting them v quickly? But yes, do get more detail

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Dez85 · 22/02/2018 23:50

Good plan.... the messages are being deleted as soon as they get sent now.

Oooh one of the girls run a hockey team, he's just asked her if she wants him to go and play with her at the weekend....

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Newerversion · 22/02/2018 23:51

He really didn't guess from your waving comment? Blimey. Hope you ok?

boatyardblues · 22/02/2018 23:52

What an arse! I presume you’ll be dumping him shortly.

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Dez85 · 22/02/2018 23:53

Not a clue the dick....

I think I'm just in shock at the moment and finding it unbelievable!!

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obviousNC101 · 22/02/2018 23:53

Please tell us you'll be dumping him?!?!

mumgointhroughtorture · 22/02/2018 23:54

Some men are bloody sleezeballs .
On dating sites it's the same . You know the next message before you receive it , such a turn off .

Is she encouraging him ?

FuckItPassMeTheWine · 22/02/2018 23:55

Are you listed as in a relationship on Facebook?

He sounds deplorable , think I'd let him go OP , 8 months in and he's doing this 🙈 Xx

Newerversion · 22/02/2018 23:55

Is it just one woman he is chatting to now? What an arse!

piefacedClique · 22/02/2018 23:56

So these are complete randoms he’s messaging? LTB!!!

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Dez85 · 22/02/2018 23:56

All 3 are flirting back yes.

I work in a club for 8 years & I know these girls, well 2 of them, are slippers & use to go home with different men all the time.
Easy targets for him i guess!! So they won't be bothered if he has a girlfriend or not.

He's off the phone now and deleted all he messages. Says it's bed time soon!

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Newerversion · 22/02/2018 23:57

You are bloody brilliant for staying calm, I admire you.

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Dez85 · 22/02/2018 23:58

*worked... haven't worked there for 3 years now though.

Oh I am fuming inside & finding it hard not to say anything sarcastic!

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GreenTulips · 22/02/2018 23:58

Change the lock screening your laptop so he won't know he's still logged on.... might be worth watching over the weekend

NewSingleMummy · 22/02/2018 23:58

Some men are just cunts

Try videoing the conversations if he's deleting too quickly

beckieperk · 22/02/2018 23:58

Can't believe the cheek. How bloody rude.....not sure how I'd approach it. Watching with interest. Good luck whatever you do.

LilQueenie · 22/02/2018 23:59

if he is logged in can't you just go through his profile and see what hes up to. Or log in to other accounts of his using FB. Maybe leave a few posts of you own in his name.

Newerversion · 23/02/2018 00:00

Not surprised you are fuming! He is clearly just titillating himself, getting a kick out of attention.

Newerversion · 23/02/2018 00:01

I guess he is a serial deleted so there will be no evidence on his Facebook as back up for you?

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Dez85 · 23/02/2018 00:01

@LilQueenie I am going through his profile, I can see the messages but as he is on his phone he is deleting them as they come in / as they reply.

Yeah sure I could change his status to 'I'm a lying cunt' or similar but then he will know I know.

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Newerversion · 23/02/2018 00:01

Deleter not deleted- sorry

Flypaperforarseholes · 23/02/2018 00:02

What a scummer! Hope you're ok.

anxiousnow · 23/02/2018 00:03

Sorry OP this must be awful unfolding infront of your eyes. Him asking you if are horny while he is flirting with other women is sickening. Can you ask his fb to save the password or show password? I'd also lock the screen so he can't get on laptop and leave his fb logged in. What a shit and sat right by you. Are you in your home?

Newerversion · 23/02/2018 00:04

I agree, lock screen but leave laptop on

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Dez85 · 23/02/2018 00:06

I have locked the screen now and shut the laptop... he's off his phone now.
It won't show the password :(

Yes we are at my house....
He will stay tonight but he wont be here over the weekend as he has his kids.

I will just have to keep watch I guess??

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