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[Dez85]

Evening!!

I am feeling so angry right now!!

Cut a long story short, my boyfriend was on my laptop earlier and it crashed and wouldn't reload so he just left it.... I've just loaded it back up and his Facebook comes up, still logged on!

Anyway, he's on his phone right now at the other end of the sofa, & I'm on my laptop... I can see that he's just 'waved' at 5 women, 3 of which have replied and he's having conversations with!! Every time he sends a message, he deletes it so the convo disappears. But little does he know, I'm watching them pop up and reading every word.

I know I shouldn't be invading his privacy & I have never done this before but bloody hell...

What an absolute C**t. Or am I over reacting?

I would say 'you lying fucktard. My laptop logged into your Facebook and I've seen you messaging multiple women, flirting, and then deleting the messages
Get the fuck out.'

It's no more difficult than that is it.

Put a status up on his fb with all the women tagged including the one from 5 years ago. Dez's now X not that it stopped any if you before. All welcome to him.

I probably wouldn't actually do that bit would want too. So sorry OP. There is no hope here. As you have seen he has no morals and is a serial cheat.

I'd join in the conversation with "x is leaving my house now, can he come and stay at yours tonight? He'll have all of his stuff with him. Thanks."

Twat! Him obvs!

I don’t really understand why you don’t just say you know and tell him to leave. You’ve got no joint home, no kids and you’re not married. You don’t need evidence for divorce grounds or maintenance payments. What are you biding your time for? Why bother with screenshots? You know what you’ve seen and whether that’s a deal-breaker for you. If it is then just tell him to piss off now, don’t mess about with overly dramatic conversations to see if he lies or not.

If i were in your shoes I would stop asking him random stuff. He knows he's been rumbled and will spend all night scheming up excuses as to why those messages were on his fb messenger. He will probably say he's been hacked.

I would throw his things in some bin liners, chuck them out the door and then tell him to collect his rubbish and fuck off to one of his floozies NOW!

I would just finish with him saying you think you can do better. I think this would dent in his ego and puzzle him. He isn’t going to stop. No doubt previous relationships have ended because of this and he continues. I’d say it could be an ego boost except for the fact that he has actually met these girls in person, eaten meals with them etc. You are well rid.

I will just have to keep watch I guess??

Why?

8 months, approximately 34 weeks. WTAF have you not told him to leave your house and not to bother coming back?

Do you think this would get better? If he’s this much of a twat this early on, you’re in for a lifetime of being cheated on. More fool you if you don’t kick him out now.

By the way, if he remembers, he can log out of devices from his account. It will tell him what the device is and where (actual location from ip address) it is logged in.

OP what are you actually waiting for? Why are you asking silly pointed questions? Why haven't you just dumped him and made him leave right away?

Wake him up and tell him to do one! You saw it all for yourself in realtime!

Tell him you saw and you know he’s a lying prick, then get back out there and find someone who won’t message other women when he’s with you.

Why are you dragging this on?

Sorry OP but those questions you asked him were pointless.
You know he cheats.
You know he's a liar.

What's he still doing in your house?

Why do you have to watch? You've already seen.

I've been through similar and it's so hard to jist kick them out. There's something addictive about needing to know the full story and to see the extent. You don't know whether they are randoms, how long it's been going on, how far they've gone. It's not healthy but there's a need to keep the power of knowing without them being aware weigh drives you to not show your hand. Its not healthy and the advice to confront him and break up, is the vest advice, but unless you've been through it, it's hard to understand the addiction to 'knowing'

Bloody hell, my phone hates me. Hopefully that still makes some sense. Must preview...

@Pittcuecothecookbook that's exactly it!

Bloody laptop decided to update over night so now I'm logged out of his Facebook.

He's gone to work now.

I'm upset this morning.... was more in shock last night!

Don't waste anymore if your time. You can tell by his reaction to your questions he's a lying Cunt. Get rid ASAP!

Just get rid!
To be honest I'd have just told him to go home last night (and call d him a cab if necessary).
Once a cheating knob always...

Block and delete him. End all communication. Don't give him a reason he doesn't deserve it.

OP, it's not going to get any better. He won't change for you. He will cheat on you and probably already has. Don't waste anymore time on him. You deserve much better.

I read texts on my ex boyfriends phone to some woman asking her to wear her stockings when he came round later and to keep the door on the latch, I was at mine ill at the time texting him saying I needed him to bring paracetamol over as I couldn't leave the bed, and he said he couldn't. I read this a few weeks later and literally put it in a vault in my brainbox and carried on as normal. So fucking weird. We'd been going out 2 years and I was 22. I'm 31 now and I think 'wtf was that?!'. Unfortunately it doesn't make sense but being angry is healthy and clearly justified and getting rid of him and his disrespectful ways is the best thing to do. Fuck me, it hurts, but walking away now is the best thing. Surround yourself with friends and don't drunk text him tonight when you have a few drinks! Literally get your friends to keep your phone away from you!

Don’t drag it out, just end it. You’ve not been together long and he’s obviously fishing for another relationship.
Show some strength and tell him it’s over.

please don't do this to yourself - he has shown you who he is and has lied to your face whilst getting off on others when you are two feet away! get rid!