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Ive made a mistake

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Bigfluffybear · 03/02/2017 21:31

Years ago i had an affair with a married man. He recently got in touch again to meet but i decided against it. Today he turned up at my workplace and we ended up going home after work and had sex. He left about 8pm. Ive made a mistake

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HandbagCrazy · 03/02/2017 21:33

Is he still married? Are you single?

It doesn't sound like a great situation that you've put yourself in but without more detail it's hard to comment.

Have you kept in touch since your affair at all?

MixedGrill · 03/02/2017 21:33

Are you married too?

You made a mistake. Take note, don't do it again.

ImperialBlether · 03/02/2017 21:34

Why on earth did you do that?

FlyWaxSleepRepeat · 03/02/2017 21:35

Did you post about him recently, about meeting up?

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Bigfluffybear · 03/02/2017 21:35

Hes not married anymore. Im in a new relationship. I dont know why i did it. Im seeing my bf tomorrow and i need to act normal

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ImperialBlether · 03/02/2017 21:36

But in the thread you had the other day you said he was divorced now.

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Bigfluffybear · 03/02/2017 21:37

Yes he is divorced

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PaterPower · 03/02/2017 21:37

You need to act normal? Or do you really need to be honest with him?

I hope you were at least using a condom together otherwise you could be exposing your BF to an STI.

Ellisandra · 03/02/2017 21:39

You need to act normal?
No you don't, you need to gently break it off with your boyfriend, because you're clearly not that into him.

Then you and this guy are both single, and you can get together - simple.

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Bigfluffybear · 03/02/2017 21:39

Its a very new relationship i just need to forget about it

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Original poster
Bigfluffybear · 03/02/2017 21:40

I want to be with my bf not my ex

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Ellisandra · 03/02/2017 21:55

New enough that you haven't discussed exclusivity?

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Bigfluffybear · 03/02/2017 21:57

Yes Ellis we havent discussed it but i really like him and want it to go somewhere

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user1478860582 · 03/02/2017 22:00

BF? That's new. Only a few weeks ago you were single and wondering whether to meet up with this man for lunch.

You really need to grow up OP.

AnyFucker · 03/02/2017 22:02

This sounds like another of these stupid drama llama bollocks

Yawn

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Bigfluffybear · 03/02/2017 22:06

Im not very proud of what ive done.

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Bigfluffybear · 03/02/2017 22:07

I am seeing someone user maybe i shouldnt call him bf yet but its heading that way

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user1478860582 · 03/02/2017 22:13

In your last thread you made a play of how much you've grown up and changed. You obviously haven't.

Rather than try to act normal, do your boyfriend a favour and end the relationship with him before he gets hurt.

Costacoffeeplease · 03/02/2017 22:16

Is this the boyfriend you first went out with about a week ago?

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Bigfluffybear · 03/02/2017 22:17

Ive been seeing him for two weeks

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Finola1step · 03/02/2017 22:19

Is this the same married man you posted about a couple of weeks ago?

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Bigfluffybear · 03/02/2017 22:21

Yes ive admitted im stupid

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oleoleoleole · 03/02/2017 22:22

Yes you have. What do you hope to gain by posting on here?

Mrsknackered · 03/02/2017 22:22

2 weeks? Good grief. Took my DP a good 7 months to utter the girlfriend word!

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Bigfluffybear · 03/02/2017 22:24

Well i cant tell anyone in real life can i?

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