confused over work

[FishingRod]

Hi, Im getting really confused feelings about a woman at work and do not know what to do. I am a married man, with children, I do not see much of my wife due to work commitments and her working shifts. Lately a new woman joined our company and I have taken a real liking to her, she is pretty, we connect so easy, she makes me laugh and is completely on my level, her sense of humour, her personality, I just find her so easy to get on with and have never come across a woman like this ever. Sometimes we can chat in the office for ages and we can get really really close when we are looking at something say on her screen, she flirts alot and i flirt back and can talk sometimes flirting dropping sexual references. I just feel so much chemistry, like I have never felt before. and I believe she does too. Sometimes we touch accidentally and that electric feeling runs through me, and i believe she feels it. But she mentions her boyfriend quite regularly which I just ignore, but that really confuses me because of the relationship we seem to have developed. I also think if anything did happen she would blame me because of the frequency she mentions her boyfriend. I think she knows she cannot cross the line and she knows I am married and that makes it difficult for me because I dont want to rock the relationship with my wife, so I have to resist crossing the line. Maybe she mentions her boyfriend because she knows I like her. I would love to tell the woman at work how i feel, but would that ruin the working relationship, we have to work close together? we do have deep conversations and sometimes I get really sexual thoughts towards her. I would love to find out what she thinks without asking her, so we can be open more if she feels the same. One of my friends said i will have a fling and then i will know where my feelings are but that is high risk. So confused as i feel i pay so much more attention to the woman at work. Should I offer to take her out for a drink and see how we feel? so its outside of work.
Regards and please reply with thoughts.
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Apologies for not reading the entire thread yet (I promise I will) but having got to the bottom of page one I just had to comment on this:

sorry meant to say the flirting is definetly NOT in my head, she initiates it and will make comments like 'I almost felt horny then' and if i dont respond she will say it again

Is this really what passes for flirting these days? How very depressing. Where's the romance and subtlety?

Ok, back to the reading.

she mentions her boyfriend quite regularly which I just ignore

OP, She mentions her boyfriend quite regularly because she wants to give you a clear signal that she is not interested in you.

That you ignore this signal is disrespectful. Back off, as no good can come of your attentions. Even if she flirts, don't flirt back. Don't make lewd comments, she probably doesn't like it but is putting up with it because you are her manager.

Should I offer to take her out for a drink and see how we feel?

No. Offer to take you wife out for a drink instead. Or ask your wife how she would like to spend some time with you.

goddess, thanks for your comments most make sense.
my friend cheated about 4 years ago, nothing will crop up now. The fling woman is not on the scene. Also I wasnt going to say this but at work she keeps looking at my bulge. I cant comment to her about that, she is free to look

Had my suspicions before this post, but now I know for sure that this is a load of made up tripe. The fantasy threads are fast outnumbering the real ones these days.

Of course, the bulge could have been FishingRod's hanky. Or wallet. Or spare pair of pants in his pocket.

I think you are on a wind up a complete dick.

You have a WIFE.
You have CHILDREN.
You are HER MANAGER.

You were obviously a loser at school who never got any attention and has no idea how to deal with it.

Miss Horny Pants is most likely tagging the piss out of you with her colleagues.

By the way, "bulge" is about as unsexy as "I almost felt horny then". If you are writing an erotic novel, start again.

Or perhaps the op and his imaginary crush are well suited. They studied at the same school of sexual innuendo.

He could not help but stare down her low-cut top, where her two boobs jostled like twin sex-oranges.

"Your tits make me almost horny," he said, his upper lip sweating unbecomingly. "I have such a bulge for you. I caught you looking at my bulge, don't deny it."

"I couldn't help it," she tittered sexily, "when you walk it makes me almost horny looking at it. You are like a real sex god and if I didn't have a boyfriend I would be touching you all over electrically."

He loved the way they could talk about anything. He was so comfortable around her and yet...so uncomfortable. Not like with his wife, who did nothing but go to work all night. He thought about his wife briefly and realised he could not remember what her face looked like.

The woman leaned over to borrow a staple remover. "I bet you'd like to remove MY staples, wouldn't you?" she purred, almost seductively.

Lois

It's all good, but "twin sex-oranges" is superb.

45 shades of grey-marl. Excellent Lois!

50 shades of shit! you mean.

Lois, you had me in stitches!

This OP is such a sad fucker. Shame if this is a real thread. Shame because he has a wife that he's obviously quite willing to demote to the sidelines whilst he carries on with his ego-inflating flirtation with the flirt at work. Of course, she might not be a flirt. Either way OP time to grow up, become a decent husband, a decent manager, and stop pandering to her flirting and stop giving it in spades yourself.

Op, Op, where aaare youuuuu?

He's having a sweaty wank over the sex-oranges.

Lois - I am in awe. That is everything. I think we need chapter 2, please

Omg lois

This is the best thread I've read in a while!

Who knew a 'bulge' was a thing. Erm, it's not.

(Do you think that they're more like Clementines?)

I almost wish it was a genuine thread... a sad loser about to make a show of himself and end up at an Employment Tribunal

I'm wondering now if the 'bulge' he is referring to is his beer belly..
I may have judged too soon...

Or his nose, a la Pinnochio

He woke up with a hard on like a salami. Of course, he'd been dreaming of her. It must be love, mustn't it? Those times when she says "look at this kitten falling off a skateboard lol" and leans close to him, so close that he can hear her chewing gum. He wanted to be that gum.

Maybe he should ask her for a drink and see what would happen. He was pretty sure that half a shandy would do it. He would wear his best Farah slacks today, the ones that really made his cock look massive. Women love all that.

Oh god, she was going to be wearing a low-cut top today, he just knew it. What should he do if she started flirting? And did asking him for a day off actually count as flirting? What about telling him the fax machine wasn't working? Surely that was flirting. And when she said "If you touch my breast again I'm going to HR and then I'm going to set my dog on you...", well that was just a big green light, wasn't it?

I think rod has gone to fish under a bridge,

Love it Lois! I don't often lol on here but I just did.

Lois I am having to control myself chuckling silently at your posts as all the doors are open to try and chill the kids rooms. Luckily I have more self control than our friend Rod, or I would be pmsl!