confused over work

[FishingRod]

Hi, Im getting really confused feelings about a woman at work and do not know what to do. I am a married man, with children, I do not see much of my wife due to work commitments and her working shifts. Lately a new woman joined our company and I have taken a real liking to her, she is pretty, we connect so easy, she makes me laugh and is completely on my level, her sense of humour, her personality, I just find her so easy to get on with and have never come across a woman like this ever. Sometimes we can chat in the office for ages and we can get really really close when we are looking at something say on her screen, she flirts alot and i flirt back and can talk sometimes flirting dropping sexual references. I just feel so much chemistry, like I have never felt before. and I believe she does too. Sometimes we touch accidentally and that electric feeling runs through me, and i believe she feels it. But she mentions her boyfriend quite regularly which I just ignore, but that really confuses me because of the relationship we seem to have developed. I also think if anything did happen she would blame me because of the frequency she mentions her boyfriend. I think she knows she cannot cross the line and she knows I am married and that makes it difficult for me because I dont want to rock the relationship with my wife, so I have to resist crossing the line. Maybe she mentions her boyfriend because she knows I like her. I would love to tell the woman at work how i feel, but would that ruin the working relationship, we have to work close together? we do have deep conversations and sometimes I get really sexual thoughts towards her. I would love to find out what she thinks without asking her, so we can be open more if she feels the same. One of my friends said i will have a fling and then i will know where my feelings are but that is high risk. So confused as i feel i pay so much more attention to the woman at work. Should I offer to take her out for a drink and see how we feel? so its outside of work.
Regards and please reply with thoughts.
C1

Rod, for women to be ogling you it must be a) humongous or b) squeezed into small trousers. If they are ogling it is either horror or fascination. Women really don't eye bulges to show attraction.

I am sure you know about the camel foot phenomenon when a woman squeezes herself into too small trousers? People might stare at that too - but in horror/disgust not admiration!

And remember, FishingRod...when you stuff a pair of socks into your pants, be sure to put them in the FRONT this time.

I don't think I've ever ogled a bulge since I was 13 and entranced by what Freddie Mercury had in his satin trousers (ok barking up WRONG TREE I KNOW). Once I actually got a boyfriend and saw an actual penis...well, I've never ogled a bulge since. Women don't, on the whole. Bums, shoulders, chests, arms, necks, wrists, tummies, eyes, lips, but not really cockheaps.

There is the possibility, of course, that you have piss dribble on your crotch, and that is what they are staring at.

I might take one step back for now and see what happens - what do you mean by "what happens". Is that more passive, I can't help it shit?

Oh I forgot hands. Hands are so sexy. Peter Capaldi's hands. OH MY GOD.

Bulges are not boobies. Women and men do not look for the same reason.

Women look out of morbid fascination if a man is squeezed into too small trousers. There is nothing in the least bit sexually attractive about a flacid cock squished with its accompanying sweaty balls into the front of a middle aged mans trousers!

I do look and I have looked and will look again. But never through attraction. It looks a little bit gross if I'm honest with you and I can't not look. But it's only ever a source of amusement.

Yep, what she said. An erect cock is another matter, but a mound of sweaty cocknballs is not sexy.

Whereas a bit of chest hair, only slightly visible. Or a tanned, hairy forearm...

I've never met a woman yet who ogles a bulge. The only guy I can think of that did get looked at at work was someone who was a tad overweight, wearing trousers that were a tad too tight. Not a good look at all. Perhaps he went home and preened at all the laydeez admiring his manhood - poor deluded soul!

This is now almost definitely a troll thread...