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Being called a miltf, would you be insulted?

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gottafindaman4yagirl · 08/12/2014 12:19

Was called a miltf by a younger guy who I had one date with. I found it insulting and told him so.
Would anyone be flattered? Seems like a teenager thing to say and not a 26 yr old man and not respectful.

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HolyDrinker · 08/12/2014 12:20

Yes. Fucking rude and disrespectful.

InfinitySeven · 08/12/2014 12:21

It's youth slang. It's not meant to be insulting. It probably suggests a fundamental difference in character, though, so it's an easy escape.

I don't know if I'd find it offensive. I'd probably just roll my eyes.

CogitOIOIO · 08/12/2014 12:21

Of course it's insulting. If he thought it was a compliment it says all about him you need to know... Hmm

GoatsDoRoam · 08/12/2014 12:22

Glad you told him so.
Of course it's insulting - on many different levels.

And regardless of what the MN jury says, if only you found it insulting, that's enough of a reason to tell him that it's not a comment you appreciate. You're entitled to your feelings.

Bluestocking · 08/12/2014 12:22

Very insulting. A 26 year old should know better. I'm sure you don't want to date a kidult.

WetAugust · 08/12/2014 12:23

WTF us a militf? I can't even pronounce it Confused

Showy · 08/12/2014 12:24

Bloody insulting to be reduced down to reproductive status in life and whether somebody deems you worthy of a fuck.

JohnFarleysRuskin · 08/12/2014 12:24

I wouldn't be insulted. I would think they were thick and 'not my kind of person' though, for sure.

500smiles · 08/12/2014 12:24

Yes I'd find it insulting.

Having heard teens round here using it, they use it as a semi-compliment, and cannot see that it is anything but.

There is a middle aged woman who does the school run in a nearby villaged in a Range Rover with a registration number MILF Hmm

CogitOIOIO · 08/12/2014 12:25

It's 'mum I'd like to fuck'..... Gentlemanly, he ain't.

TheHermitCrab · 08/12/2014 12:26

You were on a date with him and he called you a MILF.

Put it this way, if you were on a date with any man of any age and he told you he wanted to fuck you on the first date would you be flattered? (I wouldn't, I'd be disgusted)

Very immature. Don't bother with him.

dirtybadger · 08/12/2014 12:26

Miltf=milf= mum Id like to fuck.

I would be insulted. And I am from "da yoof". No one I know would seriously think it was a compliment. No one with half a brain anyway. Don't see him again.

TheHermitCrab · 08/12/2014 12:26

WetAugust

It's actually MILF - mum i'd like to fuck

dirtybadger · 08/12/2014 12:32

I wouldn't be insulted by someone telling me they would like to have sex with me. But MILF feels sort of objectifying IMO.

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gottafindaman4yagirl · 08/12/2014 12:43

On our date he seemed really nice and polite. He called me it in a text, he's apologised. I just think its crude and a turn off for me.
He's not getting a second date for sure, I didn't think I was over reacting.

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CogitOIOIO · 08/12/2014 12:50

What you have to remember with dating is that usually people are on their best behaviour. If this is him when he's trying really hard to be pleasant, imagine what he stoops to when he's not!!

mumofthemonsters808 · 08/12/2014 12:57

Sounds like something from the Inbetweeners you did say 26 and not 16.

jakesmith · 08/12/2014 13:05

Of course you can take absolutely everything that is said to you completely at literal face value, that's definitely one way of interpreting language.

superstarheartbreaker · 08/12/2014 13:09

I quite like being called a mild. A toy boy said this to me once and I called him a " filth" - a farmer I'd like to fuck as he was! I think it's fine ... Not to be over thought.

Better to be a mother he'd like to fuck than a mother he wouldn't go near with a barge pole!

superstarheartbreaker · 08/12/2014 13:09

Milf I mean!

CogitOIOIO · 08/12/2014 13:14

And the mystery why you keep getting bad experiences with dates deepens superstar..... Hmm

Joysmum · 08/12/2014 13:17

I would treat it as a lucky comment that revealed his colours.

I'd not be insulted if it were from somebody I didn't know, I'd run a mile if it were from somebody who wanted to develop a relationship.

InThisTogether · 08/12/2014 13:18

I'm obviously out of the general consensus, I think it'd be quite nice to be called a Milf. I'm sure it was meant as a (misguided) compliment!

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gottafindaman4yagirl · 08/12/2014 13:35

I have been a mum since 19 and might of been a compliment when I was younger. From dating I have found younger men to be mentally immature even if they look older than they are. I'm sure older men probably say it too.
He texted other stuff which was mot appropriate even I he was trying to compliment me.

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CogitOIOIO · 08/12/2014 13:37

Oohh... do tell... what did he text that was inappropriate? Could do with a laugh...