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Being called a miltf, would you be insulted?

188 replies

gottafindaman4yagirl · 08/12/2014 12:19

Was called a miltf by a younger guy who I had one date with. I found it insulting and told him so.
Would anyone be flattered? Seems like a teenager thing to say and not a 26 yr old man and not respectful.

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NewEraNewMindset · 08/12/2014 13:38

Depends. I was called a MILF on POF by a younger guy when I wasn't even a Mother, just older!! Yes i was offended. In the future, if my family was complete and I was single and horny I might think it was a compliment.

NoelleHawthorne · 08/12/2014 13:40

i HATE it and had words.
Men think its a nice thing to say. Hmm

Riverland · 08/12/2014 13:41

Not offended, no. Just think it a git like thing to say.

CogitOIOIO · 08/12/2014 13:42

If you think the person saying something is git-like, then you are by definition offended. ...

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gottafindaman4yagirl · 08/12/2014 13:44

cogit I said he had nice eyes and he said looking at my bum gave him a semi and he relieved himself thinking about me. I didn't need to know that.

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NoelleHawthorne · 08/12/2014 13:45

THAT IS SO ROMANTIC! Hmm

CogitOIOIO · 08/12/2014 13:45

So he'll be keeping his virginity a bit longer then.... Hmm

Greysanderson · 08/12/2014 13:45

Whilst MILF stands for mother I'd like to fuck. I think it really used to mean sexy older woman.

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gottafindaman4yagirl · 08/12/2014 13:50

Romance is dead.

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CogitOIOIO · 08/12/2014 13:54

Definitely a virgin.

superstarheartbreaker · 08/12/2014 13:56

That is unnecessary cognito... Bit below the belt!

Riverland · 08/12/2014 13:59

cogit, being offended is a feeling, isn't it?

Thinking someone is saying git things isn't a feeling. It's a thought.

I'd evaluate that person as one that thinks git thoughts and talks git lingo.

I wouldn't feel offended that I happened to be the current target of their git thoughts.

I'd just step aside, thanks.

Joysmum · 08/12/2014 13:59

Bahahahaha he's not got a clue! Thank goodness hes given away his immaturity sooner rather than later Smile

CogitOIOIO · 08/12/2014 14:03

Is it? You fairly regularly post about how you meet people that end up treating you badly and can't work out why. If you think that being called MILF by a date - or other casual sexism/smut/etc - is acceptable then maybe your bar is set too low

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 08/12/2014 14:06

CogitO has a point, superstar. You've been told this many times on your many threads about the many bad experiences you have had with men. Maybe you need to start taking some of the wise advice you have been given instead of thinking it's normal to fraternise with the kind of bloke that reduces women down to purely something to fuck/not fuck. Just a thought (meant kindly)

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gottafindaman4yagirl · 08/12/2014 14:08

Men take so long to mature, even if I were 26 and not 33 I would still find his comments off. He said he's always fancied older women, I have to laugh :)
No more dates with men under 30 for me, men my age look so old though.

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Riverland · 08/12/2014 14:09

I think I'm being read as someone else, by you, cogit, or else I'm imagining you are talking to me and you aren't!

This is like when you are in a pub and you think someone's smiling at you and they are actually smiling at the person behind you....Grin

JohnFarleysRuskin · 08/12/2014 14:10

I'm afraid I thought exactly the same as Cogit, superstar, but didn't dare say it.

If you really feel a lazy 'I wanna fuck you (despite you having a kid!)' is a compliment, it suggests that it doesn't take a lot for any twat to flatter you.

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 08/12/2014 14:11

That happened to me once, River, except the opposite way around. Someone was smiling and letting on at me, and I gave them Hmm looks and then ignored them. It turns out it was someone I knew and I hadn't recognised them. Ground. Open up now.

NoImSpartacus · 08/12/2014 14:12

I sometimes get called a MILF by builders and the like and I'm not even a mother and never have children with me! I was strangely insulted by it and I'm really not an overly sensitive soul. I just think there is something derogatory about it, like someone saying "you are attractive for an old woman, and I would lower myself to fuck you, lucky you".

AnyFuckerForAMincePie · 08/12/2014 14:12

River, you cross posted with cogitO, she was addressing someone else in her last post.

LonnyVonnyWilsonFrickett · 08/12/2014 14:13

WTF is it about the text icon that wipes away people's manners, common sense and just plain sense of what's appropriate to say to someone?

Urgh.

smilingthroughgrittedteeth · 08/12/2014 14:17

My dp called me a milf the other day (the cheeky grin as he said it implies he was trying to wind me up, im 25 weeks pregnant so it doesnt take much), in that situation I wasnt offended by it, weve been together 5 years and hes not usually an idiot.

HOWEVER if anyone else says it to me, especially after only 1 date id think he was a complete moron and stop all communication. How does anyone think thats a compliment?

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Riverland · 08/12/2014 14:17

Grin thanks for explaining Any...