Being called a miltf, would you be insulted?

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Was called a miltf by a younger guy who I had one date with. I found it insulting and told him so.
Would anyone be flattered? Seems like a teenager thing to say and not a 26 yr old man and not respectful.

My exh once said I had a great body for saying I have had two kids, I remember this because its the only positive comment he said to me.
Is there any way for a man, boy or git to say a woman/Mum looks sexy for having kids. Having children shouldn't mean a woman is more or less sexy, I think its more about being a older woman for this guy.

If it was said tongue in cheek I'd have probably thought it amusing.

I can't believe the amount of people who would feel complimented by the phrase... one because it reveals the idea that mums are unsexy and unfuckable in general and if you are a MILF you should be lucky to be one. and two.. because if you had a date, and some guy outright said to you, "You're so good looking I'd like to fuck you" most people would think "eurgggh" and run a mile. But because it's put into an abbreviation and made common language suddenly it's less vulgar.

Everyone likes a compliment of course.. but come on, it's a terrible immature phrase made famous years ago by a terrible immature teen comedy film.

A complete turn off, like someone said, think yourself lucky he revealed that side of him immediately, on a first date, on "best behaviour"

"Is there any way for a man, boy or git to say a woman/Mum looks sexy for having kids."

The English language is a wonderful thing with thousands of words to choose from. :) If someone can't be bothered to put together a selection of them in a way that delivers a sincere compliment without it turning into some sort of crass acronym, then they're really not trying very hard.

I wouldn't be offended I'd be happy if anyone wanted to fuck me right now

Couldn't agree more CogitOIOIOI

You really would just compliment the looks of someone who'd had children the same way someone would without children.

In fact to say you "look good for a mum" kind of implies that if you hadn't popped a child or children out, you may look a bit rough for a person untainted by childbirth haha :)

I wouldn't be offended I'd be happy if anyone wanted to fuck me right now

That's the attitude that gets terrible men some pretty decent women lol

So much wrong with this thread Where to start?

"I know you worry about how you look since having dc, but if possible I think you look even more beautiful". DH a couple of days ago. Okay as comments go. Acknowledged my feelings, expressed his own. Part of a conversation though so contextually relevant. Otherwise I prefer it if compliments aren't filtered or qualified. You look lovely still works imo.

I don't think he will call any future dates a milf, in the past women may of gone with it and felt flattered. I think women become more confident with age and only a insecure woman might get a boost from such labels.
I wonder if men would be offended if other men called the mother of their children milf or would they get a ego boost.

I find it insulting. I get fucking pissed off with men appraising my sex-worthiness.

Do you know what really pisses me off? When men stop talking to each other and make a pointed display of turning to watch you walk past, appraising/admiring. It either intimidates me or fucks me right off. And if you question it, you're a frigid bitch who should be grateful for the "compliment". No, you fuckwits, normal human behaviour is to smile, not look somebody up and down and try to look at her arse.

Sorry, it's been one of the days.

Imho, the comment represents the bloke thinking with his dick and has nothing to do with the target of the comment (except as a 98.6 degree (F) semen receptor).
That objectifies the lady and is thus disrespectful, degrading, disgusting, and otherwise just plain insulting.

Perhaps the bloke presumes the lady is as sex obsessed as he is and will see it as a great invite. What's the worse that could happen? Get a "No" so then he can move on and market his goal to his next target/customer/person to be used.

It was actually nice he wore his intention on his sleeve so you would know not to waste your time/resources with him (unless one is looking for such hook ups- knowing it for what it is).

Vivacia I know what you mean, I was out at a Christmas fete in my local town with my young son, due to crowds I could only walk slow past a group of fireman. I felt really uncomfortable with the smirking and looking me up and down. Did my best dirty look at them.But men will always look and us women have the charms that drives men to seek out partners, or mates. Sounds like a David Attenborough documentary.
Men work first with what they see, with dating it seems the real reason they want a second date is down to looks.
Its good when they show their intentions early on.

He's now trying to talk me round by saying he was only being playful. And is there anything he can do to change my mind.
I am genuinely trying to find a decent man and not looking for hook ups. Texting definitely gives men the opportunity to express's too much of what's on their mind.

That reminds me of the business contact that told me... 'You'll like this one. What does WIFE stand for? Washing Ironing Fucking Etc....' and when I said he'd better apologise, got all shirty and said he was 'only joking'. A woman-hating twat is a woman-hating twat whatever medium they choose....

block and ignore. He is not what you're looking for, and now he's pestering you.

Agree that it means "sexy older woman" but also dislike the constant appraisal for how hot one is.

I think I'd be looking for more respectful company

I think it kinda depends on context.

Lots of people I know (same age bracket as your guy) use it generally to mean an attractive women who is older than them.

But I'm guessing that if he feels the need to tell you he wanked thinking about your arse (assuming you weren't sexting!) Then he's being crude and horrid.

I'd find it extremely disrespectful.

Why the fuck do guys STILL think that all women want to know if said guy would fuck them or not. I mean, what?

It basically reduces an entire person down to "attractive-would fuck" and "unattractive - wouldn't fuck". It makes cave men look like sophisticated, intellectual gentlemen in comparison.

Granted some women might not find it offensive, but in an age where more and more women (the majority I would hope) don't determine their self worth through whether or not random people would fuck them or not, and do so on the basis of, oh I don't know....their abilities, character, personality, achievements, etc, I think any guy using a line like that had better be prepared for the potential fallout.

PS, I think you mentioned you went on a date with this guy. That makes it almost worse in my eyes. He spent a whole date with you, and instead of commenting on ANYTHING about YOU as an actual person, he comments on that.

What a fucking tool.

So funny my colleague proudly told me this about a year ago, she's a brassy blonde who when she turns round you can see her age!

I just silently lol'd.

That sounds a bit mean, SuperFlyHigh

The English language is a wonderful thing with thousands of words to choose from. If someone can't be bothered to put together a selection of them in a way that delivers a sincere compliment without it turning into some sort of crass acronym, then they're really not trying very hard.

This is one of those statements that needs framing.

Beautifully put.

About 4 years ago my then 16 yr old nephew got himself banned from facebook by his parents for getting into a flame war with his mates in the course of which they were calling each other's mums MILFs.

It was not being used as a compliment, believe you me...