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Seamen in his boxer shorts?

188 replies

Mumtobenovember · 14/08/2014 22:12

I'm heavily pregnant and me and dp have been arguing and we haven't really been intimate he's being a dick basically- I just went into the bathroom and his boxers are on the floor he just took them off and had a shower after being at the gym and they have a white stain in about the size of a 50p is this normal? Do men get discharge?!! I don't want to kick off over a bit of knob discharge

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iamusuallybeingunreasonable · 14/08/2014 23:25

Are you sure he's not just put them back on

It takes all sorts

LuluJakey1 · 14/08/2014 23:25

Could you just ask him. I would just ask DH- I ask him about more intimate things than that. He would just laugh at me and answer.

SevenZarkSeven · 14/08/2014 23:27

Ask him.

You will be able to tell easily if he is lying about anything.

4littleones · 14/08/2014 23:27

Could he not be embarrassed by it? I must admit a lot of the time my knickers would go straight in the machine, because I wouldn't want DP seeing them dirty. If he has sex then surely it wouldn't be in his underpants anyway? I think it's probably discharge, or from a wank/boner. But I haven't seen other threads and none of us know the full story.

It maybe hormones. Not being patronising, I just know I was much more insecure while pregnant. Do you have reason to think he has been with somebody else?

SevenZarkSeven · 14/08/2014 23:28

Well I would imagine so anyway.

Mine is a terrible liar. Do it quick, don't accuse of anything, just say, your pants had come in them and now they've gone awol, why is that, where are they.

He'll probably look embarrassed and say erm I had a wank and now they're buried at the bottom of the laundry pile.

4littleones · 14/08/2014 23:30

I also want to assure you it's quite normal to be less intimate while pregnant. And to argue more.

What else makes you think he is cheating?

LuluJakey1 · 14/08/2014 23:30

OK, I asked DH what he thought the stain you described is likely to be and where the underwear has gone.
His suggestions:

  1. A wank which if he is doing it a lot could explain why there wasn't much stuff and it could have dried off a bit.
  2. Pre-cum from an erection at some point during the day.
  3. Possibly deodorant spray from the gym depending what type he uses????
  4. He has put them back on.
TheCowThatLaughs · 14/08/2014 23:34

As pp has said, if he was shagging someone else, the semen would be in her/his pants by now presumably?? Do you have any other reasons to be worried op? Sorry you're feeling shit btw Thanks

DownstairsMixUp · 14/08/2014 23:35

Sounds like he just had a wank. Which is fine yes? I am 37 weeks pregnant and can count on my hands the amount I've had sex so expect DP has been sorting himself. Can't really kick off at him for it.

WorraLiberty · 14/08/2014 23:36

If he was cheating, why would he have spunk in his pants? Confused

Charley50 · 14/08/2014 23:37

I think he has put them back on too.

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Mumtobenovember · 14/08/2014 23:39

I asked him... He asked me what I was looking for and I was so mad I said your cum stained pants Confused he was like.. What?and I said I spotted then and asked why he has hidden them he laughed at me and called me a phsyco and said he was helping because I moan about him being messy.. I cried.. And he then changed to say he had a wank this morning.. Well I don't know how because I was up at the same time give or take 5 mins?!!!! We just had a huge row and he has punched a hole in the hallway wall and told me I need help and walked out and left me in pieces... Now what?! Can't prove anything

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4littleones · 14/08/2014 23:39

To people really put on dirty spunk stained underwear after a shower [boak]
Why would anybody do this? Feel a bit grossed out at the idea.

SevenZarkSeven · 14/08/2014 23:39

Yes option 4 sounds likely.

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Mumtobenovember · 14/08/2014 23:40

He has put them back on? After sex?! Is that what you mean?

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iamusuallybeingunreasonable · 14/08/2014 23:41

Err 5 mins, I would say it could be done in thirty seconds!!

And I would be a bit peeved if my other half started inspecting my draws when I took a shower

Original poster
Mumtobenovember · 14/08/2014 23:42

Oh I see.. No he hasn't got them on he's got another pair on he was on the couch in his pants...

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SevenZarkSeven · 14/08/2014 23:42

Oh dear.

Um. Is it your first child? Does he get like this often?

That's awful behaviour from him. I'm sorry everyone has been laughing. Not funny at all.

ChaosTrulyReigns · 14/08/2014 23:43

Um. Ahh. Well.

This has all come to a head quite quickl.

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Mumtobenovember · 14/08/2014 23:43

I didn't inspect them I'm not that mental they where sunny side up on the bathroom floor!

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iamusuallybeingunreasonable · 14/08/2014 23:45

He's had a wank

It's his body

He shouldn't have punched the wall mind you. But... It does sound like you are looking for issues

4littleones · 14/08/2014 23:45

Oh dear OP. Sad Do you know where he has gone? Please try and calm down. I do think you have the wrong end of the stick from the info you have on here. In which case I can understand his reaction but also doesn't help you Sad.

Do you have a friend or relative who could come round and be with you?

Charley50 · 14/08/2014 23:45

Yeah sorry not nice at all that he punched the wall. Is this 'normal' behaviour from him?

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Mumtobenovember · 14/08/2014 23:47

No he's not violent he would never hurt me.. He took his anger out on the wall I guess Sad

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iamusuallybeingunreasonable · 14/08/2014 23:48

He's going to love that isn't he, when he "comes" back and finds a rellie there who is clearly going to know they have had a falling out over his spunky pants Shock

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