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Occasionally bothered by husbands numerous sexual partners

236 replies

pigletandme · 15/08/2006 21:15

Dh and i have been together about 6 years and soon after we were together he admitted to me that when he was alot younger (18/19) he slept with about 15 (he can't remember exactly) girls when he was at college - all his friends did the same and it was all "meaningless" He was mid 30's when we met and since the age of 19 only had 3 girlfriends and no other casual flings. He regrettted his behaviour at college and got checked for std's soon after he left as he was worried incase he could have passed on anything to a future girlfriend although he said he always used protection. Sometimes what he did bothers me (although i have certain things in the past which i would never do again)but i try to tell myself it was all such a long time ago and his "relationship history" since the age of 19 has been quite tame. I suppose i should put it out of my mind once and for all?

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expatinscotland · 16/08/2006 11:17

'has your car's mileage counter rolled over . . . and over and over . . . ?'

'creative uses for scientific notation'

expatinscotland · 16/08/2006 11:18

i used to kid a friend of mine about it all. she'd spent 8 years in the navy and she loved a man in uniform! or just men in general.

i used to say, 'darlene would have to break out the exponents to count that up!'

Toothache · 16/08/2006 20:59

Had to post.... HappyDaddy - Have you REALLY only slept with 2 separate women??????

How old are you? 17?

1Baby1Bump · 16/08/2006 21:14

dh has had 4 diff partners, one was a one night stand!
im the only person he has had unprotected sex with.
bless him!!

PanicPants · 16/08/2006 21:17

I did think you were going to say more! Like 50 odd.

15 or so isn't that bad. My dp has only slept with 5 women though and tbh I worry about that as it isn't a lot at all and I sometimes think he'll want to go off experimenting.

HappyDaddy · 17/08/2006 11:04

Toothache, yep only 2. I married them both. I'm 33.

LOL, I sound really sad I know but hey.

IMarriedFatherTed · 17/08/2006 11:05

why do you sound sad? it is nothing to be ashamed of

HappyDaddy · 17/08/2006 11:07

True, true. Sometimes I wonder what it would have been like if I'd been more of a slaaaaag.

expatinscotland · 17/08/2006 11:17

I won't lie, HD, I found it fffuuunn.

HappyDaddy · 17/08/2006 11:20

My brother did in his youth, too.

expatinscotland · 17/08/2006 11:23

This thread made me try to stop and have a think about them all . . .

I'd forgotten a few laughs.

Like my German lecturer, Franz.

I was 21, he was 30-something.

I managed to sneak out of his place and make it to my usual Sunday brunch w/friends.

All mortified, I asked, 'Do you think he'll remember?'

To which a male friend replied, 'Let's see, will a 30-something year old male remember bagging his fine, firm 21-year-old student all night? I think yeah.'

He came by my work on Monday and told he I didn't have to do the final project or sit the exam.

I still got an 'A'.

IMarriedFatherTed · 17/08/2006 11:26

I must admit HD i had thoroughly awful experiences too, at least you have been spared that

HappyDaddy · 17/08/2006 11:28

No i havent. Wife no 1 was shite!

My DW got an A in English oral! I did laugh.

IMarriedFatherTed · 17/08/2006 11:29

oh well and crap sex for a longer period of time too

expatinscotland · 17/08/2006 11:30

, HD.

English 'oral'.

Yes, there was a lovely tutor for one of my English classes. Kept banging on about his girlfriend.

Like saying 'bone' to a dog in my books. An irresistable and welcome challenge.

Blu · 17/08/2006 11:33

HappyDaddy and Beetroot - I'm not at all surprised, at least he has good taste.

beetroot, given the nature of our business, we are probably separated by a chain of less than 6

HappyDaddy · 17/08/2006 11:36

Imarriedfatherted - 10 years .

expat, you are funny. I'm not sure how to respond to your enlightening comments!

Blu - he tasted good, yes. Sorry

PanicPants · 17/08/2006 11:36

lol expat

HappyDaddy · 17/08/2006 11:38

Like a challenge, eh, expat?

expatinscotland · 17/08/2006 11:41

He was one of those who trembled when touched.

One of those 'I can't do this' 'I shouldn't be doing this' types. Whispered as he was wildly ripping my clothes off.

Had to keep my tongue in his mouth just to shut him up.

LaTutteuse · 17/08/2006 11:45

this is something dh and i have never discussed.

just not important imho.

HappyDaddy · 17/08/2006 11:47

Bet you will tonight, LaTuttesse! LOL

expat you are terrible. In a good way.

expatinscotland · 17/08/2006 11:48

Nah, it's in the past. Best left there.

Have other things to worry about. Like my DD1 already being a coquette at the age of 3 and how paybacks are hell!

PanicPants · 17/08/2006 11:49

pmsl expat, typical man though, 'I can't possibly do this.....oh ok then!'

HappyDaddy · 17/08/2006 11:51

Panicpants, it's the age old battle between the big head and the little head. It's never ending.