New man. Personal grooming question.

[MyPhoneIsMyWorld]

Namechanged for this one.

I'm in my late thirties, met a new bloke, haven't done the deed yet.

So, the question I need to ask is what do men like these days with regard to pubes. I was married for 14 years and basically just kept things trimmed down there.
Don't want to end up in bed with this guy and have him turned off by my possibly 'retro' style!

I'm happy to keep up with the times but don't want to go all out bald down there if it's not necessary.

Any tips?

[reggiebean]

OP, also to answer your question, yes, some guys bic their balls too.
Personally, I prefer the all-off look, because a) I know it turns my DP on, and I like that, and b) it's a lot easier to get to

(sorry to be graphic! Just don't really know how else to phrase this stuff!)

[OneMoreChap]

sweetpeasunday

Since my preference is the opposite does that merit a boak too?

[curlew]

Why does the "all-off" look turn him on?

[ecclesvet]

I only sleep with men who have full Dumbledore style beards. Any shaving or hair removal is just their attempt at looking pre-pubescent, dontchaknow.

[reggiebean]

curlew Because he's a guy, and guys are visual. He likes to see it without anything obstructing the view.

[curlew]

I think my genitals must be differently constructed to everyone else's. Removing my pubic hair does not make my vulva any more visible. Lying down with my legs apart does however.......

[wrinklyraisin]

All off here too. Firstly because I like it. Secondly because he likes it. Thirdly because I like it. Fourthly because I like it.

You get the picture

Seriously, it makes certain things way way way more pleasurable for me. The fact he benefits too is secondary.

[Boomba]

but pubic hair is 'it'...isnt that a turn on?

[AKissIsNotAContract]

DP and I both do complete removal. Nether of us look pre pubescent.

[Boomba]

is it an age thing?

is it older ladies that dont shave? (that includes me, before any offence is taken)

[IsThisAGoodIdea]

Do you think the guy you're planning to have these meaningful encounters with is fretting about his pubes?

Doubtful.

[AKissIsNotAContract]

Don't older ladies go bald anyway?

[Boomba]

besides really not being arse to shave, I think with hair looks better...are people really prefering no hair, aesthetically??

[Kione]

I find having no pubic hair makes cunnilingus much nicer for me too. More feeling, man having more freedom of movement and I like how it feels, I leave a tringle on the top.
When I was dating I met two blokes all shaved. Even on unplanned dates! My friend is dating now and the two blokes she's been with are all shaved. One was one night stand too.
All in their forties! I actually never stopped to think about it until this thread!

[reggiebean]

Boomba maybe it is for some people. For me and my DP, it's not. Different strokes (literally...)

[Boomba]

akiss

but serious, does that happen??

[Boomba]

WAAAAaaaaa.....that has put me right off dating!!

[waterlego6064]

What really irks me is that a man would never ask this question of other men. Can you imagine?

[AKissIsNotAContract]

What really irks me is that a man would never ask this question of other men. Can you imagine?

Of course they would. Men and women aren't that different.

[waterlego6064]

Hmmmmm. I'm just trying to imagine any of the men I know asking other men on an internet forum whether they should shave their balls or not. I honestly can't imagine it at all.

[lookingfoxy]

I prefer all off as it increases sensation for me, if I'm lazy I've let it grow to full bloom. Dp has never ever commented either way. I have however complained about that flossing feeling andhe did try to remove some, ended up llooking patchy with a nice boil thrown in, so have just left it. I'm late thirties and dp 50 don't know if it's a generation thing that we're not that bothered.

[reggiebean]

I don't see why it's such a big deal. If you don't like to shave, find someone who likes the un-shaven look. If you like to shave, find someone who likes that.

[Dahlen]

Psychologically men and women aren't that different. Culturally they are vastly different.

If a woman asked for sponsorship to have her legs waxed most people would look at her as if she'd lost the plot.

[AViewFromTheFridge]

Nightfall, I thought maybe you were drawing a picture of yours!

Does anyone else find that they get thrush if they shave? I do, EVERY time. I've given up on it - a trim suits me just fine.

[LittleFrieda]

Why not wax and have his name tattooed on your mons pubis.