New man. Personal grooming question.

[MyPhoneIsMyWorld]

Namechanged for this one.

I'm in my late thirties, met a new bloke, haven't done the deed yet.

So, the question I need to ask is what do men like these days with regard to pubes. I was married for 14 years and basically just kept things trimmed down there.
Don't want to end up in bed with this guy and have him turned off by my possibly 'retro' style!

I'm happy to keep up with the times but don't want to go all out bald down there if it's not necessary.

Any tips?

[gateauauxfruits]

Speaking as a bloke can I say that cunnilingus is much more enjoyable on a full shave? The hairy pie effect can be unpleasant. And there isn't really a tit-for-tat response to that because willies aren't hairy in the first place.

Wouldn't dream of phallocentrically dictating on the issue but if you like being gone down on, shaven is the way to go.

[Geordieminx]

I prefer to be hair free, I find it cleaner.

I disagree that it's because armpits are not sexual. People are saying that due to a lack of hair there you look like a child... However shaved legs or underarms doesn't make you look like a child..

Some shave arms/legs but no one debates it do they? It should be the same for pubic hair.

It's about choice. Not looking like a child.

[Boosterseat]

If you are performing oral sex correctly providing the undercarriage and clit area are debris free what does it matter if the mons pubis has its natural silky hair.

God I sound like I love pubes don't I? Well if I'm honest I bloody well do they keep my fanjo warm and stop me looking like a plucked chicken neck (once with hair removal cream - IMO I looked horrific and DH just pissed himself laughing)

Ninja has the right idea -bathmat look - but would that stop slipping?

[sweetpeasunday]

Thank Christ I am single and plan to be for a very long time. Forgive the blasphemy, but seriously? I am not exactly virginal and in all my time on this earth, no one has ever complained about hair, lack of hair or whatever in between down there. I would be of the if he complains, dump school of thought.

[sweetpeasunday]

And serious boak at the male poster who feels the need to tell us how he finds it enjoyable.

[Roundtheruggedrocks]

all off. It's the "modern" thing to do. Not saying it's better, but it's what most people I know do.

[Liara]

Just do whatever you will be comfortable with yourself.

What men like is like asking what women like, there are as many answers as men.

Dh is in his late 30s and prefers the 'Jackson 5' treatment, I don't and so I do as I please.

I don't dictate what he does with his body and he wouldn't dream of dictating what I do with mine.

[Dahlen]

I think mumsnet is the only place in which I have come across women who don't suffer terrible itching or shaving rash as a result of removing pubic hair. IRL most women I know consent to a tidy round the edges so they're not creeping around pants.

I like to keep mine trimmed and I am fortunate that I'm not particularly hairy, but I've learned from past experience that shaving/waxing is terribly time-consuming and results in irritated skin. I'm beginning to wonder if there is some secret solution to this that no one has bothered to tell me about. If there is, someone please let me know.

As it is, I CBA to do anything other than keep it in check. I have never had a single lover who has complained (or refused to perform oral sex as a result). But maybe I am old.

[NotDead]

armpits ARE sexy.. what are you talking about!!

[ecclesvet]

"And serious boak at the male poster who feels the need to tell us how he finds it enjoyable."

Did you miss the OP who asked "what do men like these days with regard to pubes"?

[Boomba]

Really????

I dont even trim. It seems a ridiculous thing to be doing. Ive never heard a man complain about the length of pubes??

[HighInterestRat]

How old is he?

[curlew]

I regularly shave all the hair off my head- I find it cleaner.


Oh, oops, no I don't. I wash. I find that cleaner.

[OneMoreChap]

at blokes expecting the all off look.

I'm positive that's porn driven - why would you want to be with someone who looks like they are pre-pubescent?

[Fairylea]

All off.

Bald here and have been since my first husband left!

[Fairylea]

And how does it make a grown woman look like a child? It doesn't. Women have breasts and a grown up body shape. Absence of pubeage won't change that.

It's more to do with not getting pubes in your teeth during oral! :)

[GingerJulep]

Aside from preferences... what the heck is OP doing worrying about this for a 'few encounters'?

For those you can get whatever/be however you like... * isn't hard to find (for a straight woman at any rate).

[Suzieismyname]

What meditrina and Yellow said.

[Nightfall1983]

Erm just spotted this on "Threads I'm on" - sorry for the above post, it must have been DS 9 months contribution!!

[OneMoreChap]

I was always told the best way getting rid of excessive pubic hair was spitting ...

I suppose it might look better if you were wearing a really teensy cossy or something, but it just feels like a demand that women - particularly - have to ascribe to an impised body image, no longer just slim but shorn.

I was aghast to hear that some men now shave their tackle, too.
I have offered to get my back waxed for DW who suggested I was beginning to look a litlle like Guy the Gorilla

[openerofjars]

I don't give a rat's ass what anyone does with their pubic hair unless they knit a scarf out of it and wear it in my presence, in which case they should seek professional help of some kind. In my massively non-humble opinion, itis utterly up to you what you do with it.

If he's got any sense in his head, he won't give a crap because he'll just be so pleased and grateful you're naked in bed with him.

If he does object to whatever you decide to do, minge-topiary-wise, then he's a massive wank-badger and you should laugh him out of the bedroom.

In fact, you could always leave it rampant and, as we say, Jackson 5, to use as a sort of litmus test (not literally: don't dip your pubes in acid. That would sting) to see if he's a decent sort or not.

[meditrina]

Would you also dye your head hair blonde because "men like it"? Or would you do whatever you damn well like, simply because you damned well like it?

[sweetpeasunday]

ecclesvet, clearly, I did. But still, the answer I was referring to still seems pretty boaky to me. Each to their own, but he made a generalisation out of his own preference.

[reggiebean]

Agree Geordie!

[Geordieminx]

Oh for fucks sake

Having no pubic hair does not make me look anything like a pre pubescent child.

It's a ridiculous thing to say.