New man. Personal grooming question.

[MyPhoneIsMyWorld]

Namechanged for this one.

I'm in my late thirties, met a new bloke, haven't done the deed yet.

So, the question I need to ask is what do men like these days with regard to pubes. I was married for 14 years and basically just kept things trimmed down there.
Don't want to end up in bed with this guy and have him turned off by my possibly 'retro' style!

I'm happy to keep up with the times but don't want to go all out bald down there if it's not necessary.

Any tips?

I hear braids with beads are quite the thing.

But I would implore you not to google that.

badinage As mentioned earlier, I'm not going to get into a discussion about that with you on this post. It's not what it's about. I said I posted the first thing that came up in a Google search. If it's not what you wanted, feel free to continue researching it on your own. If you need help with where to begin, it's www.google.com. Good luck.

(From page 2) yeah, 10 mins of Veet all over is pain ! Avoid! Um, I used Veet sensitive, just normal, not the bikini one because I'm too stingy to pay for the fancy stuff test it somewhere on yourself first to make sure your skin doesn't hate it, if you're going to try it

I am 42. I have shaved everything off since 1993. So over 20 years. At my gym in Maida Vale everyone is shaven. No way would I go back to having pubes. Tis disgusting. I do not want pubes with dried blood in them like I had pre shaving.

Those shaving the area, is it not horribly itchy when the stubble grows in?

Thecook.
Just don't have periods. That's easy

GoodIdea it can be if you shave too far... Um... Back, IYKWIM. But no, for the most part, I don't find it itchy unless I let it grow too long again.

Best not to claim that something's a 'scientific fact' if you can't back it up.

There are no 'scientific facts' that men respond to visual stimulation more than women. This is a myth and for some people, a belief - not a 'fact'.

FFS, here's another fact for you then: it's rude to hijack posts. If you want to discuss this, start your own bloody thread, as what you're whittering on about has nothing to do with the OP.

I'll post on this thread whenever I like reggiebean. It's an open forum. You do not control this thread and yet you've already tried to chase a poster off to the feminism boards when it was perfectly reasonable of her to challenge your idiotic statement about non-existent 'scientific facts'.

People will post what they want to and you cannot control that. You have the same rights as me to write what ever you like. If you post shite masquerading as 'facts', expect to be challenged on it though. If you've got an opinion or a belief on the other hand and express it in those terms, people might disagree with you but that's fine for a discussion forum. You don't however have any right to order people off a thread or command them to start a new one.

Only on Mumsnet could minge topiary into an exchange of who should be on the thread... do we really need scientific facts for pube length?

Loosen up people, for the love of God

FWIW I don't like overly hair men and keep myself a landing strip type thing going on.

Unless going to the hairdresser involves the hair on your head being shaved off or ripped out by the roots while you're on all fours with your arse cheeks spread, then I don't think the two are comparable.

I've never had to get on all fours for a Brazilian or Hollywood wax.

IMHO I think that once a man gets to the point of a bit of foof action its not top of mind, whatever is going down on there.

And personal preference is just that. My own personal preference is to leap into bed with a ripped Oliver Martinez type look (minus the whole anger management and what comes across as deeply unattractive personality issue) who is capable of renovating my house whilst debating world issues in a clever, sardonic way and runs a philantropic charity on the side. However, I've managed to enjoy being in bed with those that don't fulfill this fairly stringent and realistic criteria. Just as I imagine I'd be accomodating of dream man's hairy balls .

For everyone asking about hairy legs as a comparator, mine 90% of the time are pretty hairy. Opaque tights hide all manner of things and hair removal gives me rashes and ingrown hairs, so why bother? Unless I want to wear dress with bare legs, which happens rarely! Underarm hair goes because I smell less without it...

But as I said before about pube maintenance, people should do what makes them happy. Doing it to avoid rejection by someone else or because society "makes" them by imposing a pressure to look a certain way - that's not right. And certainly no one should ever feel that their natural body is disgusting, that's sad - seeking improvements is a natural drive, but they're optional improvements.

I suppose OP to get back to your question, do what makes you feel best, not what you think a bloke is expecting. Experiment with the topiary if it makes you happy, or not.

Getting back to the OP

Here is a novelty for you. Consider what it is you want, and do that.

Morning, especially you reggie (waits patientley for the link)

I know where the feminisim board is, despite not being visual I can seem to navigate my way through the mumsnet boards without too much trouble.

(clips pubes out of eyes and proceeds)

The difference with legs and pits is, DP doesn't tend to spend ages licking them.

shave or dont shave. Whatever you prefer.

If he has a preference, then either consider, or dont consider his preference.

If hes anything less than enthusiastic to get up and close to your foof, full stop, then hes really not that into you

AKissIsNotAContract
The difference with legs and pits is, DP doesn't tend to spend ages licking them.

Ah, and he wouldn't if your bits weren't clipped/shaved/whatever.

Obviously my mistake. I should perhaps have gone "Good heavens, I'll make an exception this time, but pop down to the barbers next time." Or not.

I was always so pleased to spend time with my partners I couldn't have given a fig about their coiffure...

I agree that most men are not that bothered about their woman's pubes so long as they are not wild.

if he does have a preference, a session between the two of you with a bowl of warm water, some cream and a razor is the answer.

Hi all. Didn't realise the thread would get so much attention!

I'm not interested in doing any 'minge topiary' to please the guy. I just want to feel 100% confident when the time comes. I'd hate to be the one female he remembers as being the 'hairy' one! As I stated upthread from the photos of him I've seen he's shaved so this is what got me questioning my appearance.

So I've got lots of style tips and have decided on shaved back to front and sides, with a little bit of trimmed natural at the top.

You've seen photos of his genitals??!