I haven't been around here for a while, as I was worried that twunt was reading MN to find out what my thoughts/plans were. He may very well still be doing that, but he's gone now, and my new mission is to reach out for as much support as possible (trying to see it as a sign of strength to ask for help rather than a sign of failure), so here I am.
Back in January DH (hitherto referred to as twunt), told me I had to fix the marriage etc, then within days I found out he'd been texting OW to say our marriage was over, researching late abortions etc. This was when I was 14 weeks pregnant. I'm now 27 weeks pregnant, and still have hyperemesis, necessitating almost daily visits to hospital for IV meds and fluids. Twunt left just over a month ago, and I now have lodgers in, which is helping with the mortgage.
I'm trying to be strong for my DCs, but at times it all gets rather overwhelming....especially as it is not really that long to go until my little acrobat makes an appearance. Before then I am on a twunt detox, and am trying to have no contact with him whatsoever. My DCs are being very good (most of the time), despite having to cope with their step dad (who planned to adopt them) just disappearing, and me being so ill all the time. But it is obviously challenging for them.
Terrified of the summer when acrobat arrives and the inevitably of facing up to a form of contact with the utter shite who left me in this predicament - our baby was wanted, and planned for. Lots of other practicalities to consider too, and considering investing in a diary so that I can put things onto paper rather than leave things spinning around in my head....
Anyway, I'm back, and hoping that there will be some virtual hands to hold as I continue to battle the hyperemesis, hormones and general challenges of the final trimester, and the impact of the not so "D" H's departure.
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wavesandsmiles · 01/05/2013 11:50
ah yes, boys do coast if they get away with it. I have 1 of each, boy and girl. boy coasts, girl tries hard BUT that said, both of mine are doing well too. I know thats a huge generalisation...
A reward doesnt have to = money spent, you know that. How about some of that lovely ice cream you make and let them make a sundae.
Fab that both DC have great reports. That is down to you, your parenting, your input and the fact that they are clever cookies like their mum. 
Waves I have been following your story from the beginning and occasionally delurked to post. Delurking again to say I am SOOOO excited for you to meet Acrobat!! My DD came 6 months ago at 37.5 weeks so I feel like acrobat will be early...
You are an amazingly strong lady and I have no doubt you will do brilliantly when No. 3 arrives. And no doubt Acrobat will be as lovely and incredible as your first two.
Wishing you a speedy and serene birth (from mid-afternoon Sunday onwards...)
I just love the idea that we can all will acrobat to arrive at a 'convenient' time. You just never know...
Waves, Im not myself this afternoon, I blame the heat and a mojito. Hoping for an early night and to feel more 'me' again tomorrow. Ive been like this on and off all week. Dunno whats wrong with me.
I would love a good cry, that would make me feel better, but tears wont come. so you cry for me and I will be busy for you.
Hope L1 moves out swiftly and his gf has decided not to come. I assume she hasnt arrived?
Jax - 
hope you feel better soon. One mojito is no good for anyone!
Come on acrobat- sunday will be good!
I did think maybe L1's GF would make an appearance today - he said she would come friday?
just popping in to see how you are doing waves . hope its not too hot over there. sorry to hear DD is unwell that's the last thing you need. maybe they are getting all their illness out of the way before baby comes!
lovely to hear about your DC's school reports, sounds like they are doing brilliantly. no need for a money treat, maybe something like they each get to pick a (cheap/ free) activity as their reward? think I was always happy with just a hug and some praise from my mum though. re your DS - I was a coaster at school too. I haven't any real advice although 'd' h said a while ago he wished his parents had offered him some sort of incentive or bribery as he too underperformed at school. I was lucky though, I scraped into a decent university and then came into my own there. lots of boys I know coasted pretty much throughout but have still gone on to be very successful once they hit the real world and found their niche.
things are improving for me as 'd' h has started counselling and I have a glimmer of hope we might be able to try again but there is a lot of work to be done first. I am broken with the effort of running a (tiny) house and keeping up with a toddler though, and my sickness has all but gone. I really think you are amazing to have coped with everything life has thrown at you these last 9 months. acrobat will be a very lucky baby 
I can wait to hear your happy news!!
captain - I had a whole jug, but just didnt want any more.
Going to have a shower, early night. I think I need sleep.
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