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This doesn't look good does it?

999 replies

Loserville · 02/04/2013 19:37

My dh left for work at 5pm, 10 mins later I get a text from him 'Hi sexy, get your boobs out'. I just replied with a ? And had no reply.

He never sends text like that to me thank god so I'm thinking it was meant for someone else. Why send me a text like that after just leaving the house 10 minutes before.

It looks suspicious doesn't it? Or else it's a pathetic attempt at spicing things up Confused

OP posts:
QOD · 03/04/2013 08:24

Woke up wondering about you
Hope its not him playing away
How awful

MadAboutHotChoc · 03/04/2013 08:40

Hope you are ok?

Are you sure he was at work last night? He could have been meeting OW hence the lack of communication....

verytellytubby · 03/04/2013 08:44

I woke up thinking about you too.

TheOrchardKeeper · 03/04/2013 08:49

Hope you're ok OP?

Has he returned?

(I know it sounds horrid but is there any chance he's done a runner)? Thanks Brew

StealthPolarBear · 03/04/2013 08:49

Shit that's awful. And he must know you got it, so to leave you with no other explanation speaks volumes :(

TheOrchardKeeper · 03/04/2013 08:52

(I don't mean to make you feel any worse...just sometimes people break things off by 'accidentally' revealing their infidelity then buggering off. I really hope that isn't what he's done & he came home so you could at least talk last night)

SpecialAgentTattooedQueen · 03/04/2013 08:57

Thinking of you, poor thing. You're handling this amazingly.

Locketjuice · 03/04/2013 08:57

Did he return home and explain Hmm

CajaDeLaMemoria · 03/04/2013 09:01

It's an odd message for a friend to send... They are usually embarrassing or funny, not creepy flirty like this one. I can't see friends finding it amusing to text that to a colleagues wife. Plus, the friend was driving.

I hope he got home and was honest, OP. Whatever he's done, you deserve complete honesty, rather than having to wade through all of his bullshit until he runs out of lies.

All the best. I hope work isn't too demanding today.

CostaTen · 03/04/2013 09:12

Hope you're ok OP x

VitoCorleone · 03/04/2013 09:16

Yes funny how he didnt reply to the '?' text, didnt answer the phone but did have time to text and say he had to work late.

Id be going mental.

VitoCorleone · 03/04/2013 09:20

Yes funny how he didnt reply to the '?' text, didnt answer the phone but did have time to text and say he had to work late.

Id be going mental.

ShootingStarsss · 03/04/2013 09:23

Hope your ok op?

I do think this looks very suspicious, his behaviour is strange, I hope you have managed to get to the bottom of all this.

TheOrchardKeeper · 03/04/2013 09:30

Hope work's not too stressfull today with all this going on Thanks

Crazycake · 03/04/2013 09:35

I hope everything worked out ok Thanks

kinkyfuckery · 03/04/2013 09:59

thinking of you OP

lottieandmia · 03/04/2013 10:00

This doesn't sound good :( I would be going mad if this happened to me.

Coconutty · 03/04/2013 10:06

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Ruprekt · 03/04/2013 10:11

He sounds as guilty as hell! ConfusedConfused

Fairenuff · 03/04/2013 11:18

Texting 10 minutes after leaving would suggest that he is not going to work at all but was setting off to meet another woman. It sounds like a pre-arranged 'date'. A fun way (at least for him) to let her know he's on his way.

He knew he sent it to you by mistake, because you replied and he would have received it straight away, probably thinking it was a suitably saucy reply from the ow.

When he realised his mistake, he went into hiding. He knows that he is caught out red handed and now he has three choices.

  1. To deny it and try and talk himself out of it by making up a plausible excuse
  2. To confess all and ask for forgiveness, or
  3. To decide he doesn't want to be in a relationship with you any more and leave

Unless he came back last night, I'm guessing it's option 3. Sorry OP. (Please change your name though, I don't want to call you 'loser' because you're not).

skyebluesapphire · 03/04/2013 11:27

Hope everything is ok.

Jux · 03/04/2013 11:42

Hope you're OK. Things do look pretty bleak Sad

Fairydogmother · 03/04/2013 11:44

Thinking of you today - hoping you're ok

mousebacon · 03/04/2013 12:00

Hope you're okay, OP. Thinking of you today.

ladyjadie · 03/04/2013 12:21

I really hope there is a reason for this that isn't the reason it really really seems like Sad