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This doesn't look good does it?

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Loserville · 02/04/2013 19:37

My dh left for work at 5pm, 10 mins later I get a text from him 'Hi sexy, get your boobs out'. I just replied with a ? And had no reply.

He never sends text like that to me thank god so I'm thinking it was meant for someone else. Why send me a text like that after just leaving the house 10 minutes before.

It looks suspicious doesn't it? Or else it's a pathetic attempt at spicing things up Confused

OP posts:
Isabeller · 03/04/2013 12:29

Lots of people thinking of you OP, hope you can come back sometime and that you are hanging in there today xx

ScarletWomanoftheVillage · 03/04/2013 12:30

This is not looking good is it? Hmm

forgetmenots · 03/04/2013 12:38

Really hope there's a decent explanation for all of this OP but I find his reaction even more fishy than the initial text! Hope you are OK and feeling robust this morning either way Brew

Ilovemydogandmydoglovesme · 03/04/2013 13:00

Hope you're ok and it's all been a silly mistake and everything's sorted out now.

Flowers Flowers Flowers

MTBMummy · 03/04/2013 13:41

Hope you're ok OP - you have been in my thoughts this morning

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Loserville · 03/04/2013 14:22

Thanks for your kind thoughts. I'm on lunch break so need to keep it brief.

He got home about 12.30am. Said it was his friend that sent it as a joke, was expecting him to say that tbh. He said he never replied as he didn't want to get embroiled in an argument on the phone Hmm

Anyway, to cut a long story short I told him to sleep on the couch as I didn't appreciate that kind of joke or being left hanging like that thinking the worst. He went to sleep leaving his phone in his work bag so decided to have a look. There was a lot of recent calls to a number with no name against it. All the calls were made when I was at work or he was. So, I text the number from his phone saying "hey xx" . A text came back straight away with "hi, this is a surprise, is the wife asleep? Miss you"

I didn't reply. Got up went to work and don't know if I'm coming or going. I need to delve deeper. Lots to sort out when I get home. Definitely not looking good. :(

Got to go just now but thanks again for all advice and kind words.

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StealthPolarBear · 03/04/2013 14:24

Oh in sorry :( I think you have your answer

MrsSpagBol · 03/04/2013 14:24

So sorry OP (as someone said, please change your username, you are not a loser) - I am so sorry this has happened.

Sending you hugs

WildThong · 03/04/2013 14:26

Sorry Op. I have been where you are, horrible.
Keep your dignity, be strong.
Flowers

verytellytubby · 03/04/2013 14:29

I'm sorry. What a bastard. Stay strong.

VitoCorleone · 03/04/2013 14:30

Oh fucking hell, hope you're ok :(

TheOrchardKeeper · 03/04/2013 14:33

Oh fuck.

I'm so sorry he couldn't just bloody tell you. At least you know for definite. There really is no other explanation, that is what it is Thanks

Rindercella · 03/04/2013 14:35

Oh that's awful. I am really sorry. Please don't let him talk you round when it is so obvious he is cheating. You sound incredibly together and strong (even if you don't much feel it). You will get through this and come through it better and stronger than ever.

JaxTellerIsMyFriend · 03/04/2013 14:37

oh no, I have been thinking of you since I read your OP last night. This doesnt look good for your OH at all.

Im sorry. Sad

theorchard is right, there really is no explanation other than the obvious one.

newbiefrugalgal · 03/04/2013 14:38

I was hoping that would not be your response. What a shit he is.

Why do men do this!! sort out your relationship or leave don't have bloody affairs.

Ahhhcrap · 03/04/2013 14:39

Oh so sorry to hear this OP, my heart sank when I read that, goodness knows how you are feeling right now. Please look after yourself

Boosterseat · 03/04/2013 14:49

So sorry for you OP - from the "saucy" text you sound well shot of him

'Hi sexy, get your boobs out' - how juvenile Hmm

Fucking charmer.

Please take care and keep posting you will get some amazing support here

Coconutty · 03/04/2013 14:50

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StrangeDays · 03/04/2013 14:55

So sorry this is happening to you.

Say nothing to him until you can get hold of the phone again. Take a screen shot or forward the texts to your number so he can't delete and deny.

Isabeller · 03/04/2013 14:57

Really sorry to hear you're going through this. I imagine you must be in shock, hope you can get some RL support xx

Fairenuff · 03/04/2013 14:58

He lied to you. He was going to continue cheating and let you feel like you were going mad with suspicion. What could be worse?

He spent the evening with her and told you it was a friend. No guilt. No remorse. He was going to let you suffer.

At least you know for sure now. That will save you a lot of uncetainty. Tell him to come completely clean about it, or you will leave him.

Then leave him anyway.

Oh and you'd better have an sti check, just in case. Sorry OP x

villagegossip · 03/04/2013 15:00

So sorry that it's not sounding good Sad

Well done you for taking matters into your own hands and catching him out! You have done exactly the right thing.

Look after yourself today and confront him later - what a prick thinking he'd got away with it Hmm

sapphirestar · 03/04/2013 15:06

Just come back to this hoping there'd be a half decent explanation, so sorry there isn't

What a tosser for leaving you wondering

Hope you are looking after yourself x

MrsTomHardy · 03/04/2013 15:06

Think you've found the answer to what's been going on. So sorry!

CheeseandPickledOnion · 03/04/2013 15:06

Oh no. Your poor thing.

Time to get organised and get him out.

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