Support thread for survivors of childhood sexual abuse PART 6

[CailinDana]

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The purpose of these threads is to allow survivors of childhood sexual abuse, their partners, friends, or parents, to talk in a safe place about what they think and feel. Nothing is off limits or taboo, just say what you want to say.

Hi guys sorry I haven't been around, been a busy evening sorting out quotes for work on the bathroom and booking flights to Ireland. Hope you're all doing ok, speak tomorrow x

night Cailin x

Night Cailin.

Dotty, thats good she understands, don't be afraid to ask for anything you need though, x

Good good dotty.

Olympic, self arranged. Contact right down to 1 1/2 hours per week at crappy time for dcs but he doesn't want to offer more/different. Occasionally wants a ceremonial overnight. I'm not willing for that to happen anymore but ds is upset feels like he wants to see daddy all the time, thinks it is because he is not good enough and that he has to make things right. His dad is just shit tbh. Would perhaps have been better if he'd buggered off.

My ds still went through all that, he got bullied at school for not having a dad, by pupils and teachers. I had to move schools twice and get him councelling. It really is shit for them.

My ds has been completed humiliated by his father but, yep, didn't have to see him, he wanted to for a long time, he had a gaping hole in his life which'll never heal. Your dc's know their dad but it's not a healthy situation. You can ask for supervised access which may or may not help.

Olympic and at bullying by teachers this isn't the fecking 50's and there are lots of reasons for not having a father.

They won't let us have supervised access. It was a real battle to get it previously when he was being investigated by the police during the court case we had (resulted in no court order as he was deemed to have brought it vexatiously). There is no chance we will get it again.

And my dd's teacher dislikes single parents/reconstituted families but there are loads at my dc's school.

Yep, I made aquaintances with a high flying lawyer who'd adopted on her own and she had the same problems. Secondry school has been ok but primary was awful, he had one teacher who refused to teach him, the head apologised but did nothing. Ds ended up with an eating disorder, shittiest time of my life.

Sickening in this day and age really is lots of children have lost parents forever through illness and accidents etc others have parents who are abusive would they rather mothers and children where beaten up or assaulted in other ways

I know several single fathers as well who where walked out on [one later had a sex change after getting custardy of his kids off her they ended up in care]

Ds was the only kid at his first primary with no dad around. Lots had separated parents but he was the only one with no dad.

At his second primary, he was one of two without a father around at all and he had the same teacher for a year who wouldn't teach him, which encouraged the other kids.

I have given my ds a really shit start in life.

not you Olympic not you.

Everyone but you I'd say.

I know, there'll always be a reason for someone to target people.

The biggest joke is I get women going oh you've got a shit life and you don't even have a bloke holding you back, which usually gets the sharp end of my tongue

Got SFA to do with you that teacher wanted shooting FWIW DD2 was bullied mercislly but teachers did fuck all about it she was 2 lbs off fucking anoerexia at 13 teachers stood by and watched it happen bastards

:( shit world sometimes.

Ok ladies I'm going to hit the hay.

Sleep well.

Night I'm away to cats snuggled up next to meor should I say on my back bugger that he is

Morning everyone, just checking in before I head out. Chat later x

Morning its pissing down here typical british summer

Just walked to dentist in rain, make up mask on, make up mask ended up down my face and the dentist was sick and cancelled

Tis a nice day here dotty :)

Oh no Offred, that's such a pain!

Just back from DS's college presentation 10 weeks off now

Did that in the snow once roads where closed so phoned first to check they where open spoke to actual dentist who assured me that everything was open as normal, got there to be told no dental nurses and he would have to cancel.

What's 10 weeks off dotty? Your DS finishing college?