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Dumpling no more? Only the strong survive and we did no. 4

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IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 09/04/2011 09:17

At first I was afraid, I was petrified
Kept thinkin' I could never live without him by my side;
But then I spent so many nights
Thinkin' how you did me wrong
And I grew strong

This thread is for ex dumplings. Any dumpling that feels like she has "mostly" moved past crisis into an "almost" sorted state can post and chat here as we continue our quest for serenity with a lot of laughs along the way and support Grin

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startingovernow · 10/04/2011 13:27

Thanks Happy will check that out Smile Btw lol at love bite Grin

Ffs I have spent past two mts ferrying dc's around to various drama stuff/rehersals etc. They have had several group/class pics in newspaper but no individual ones. Once I was unable to go due to a clash with college & I asked xh to do it. There is a huge pic of smiling father of the year accompanying his dc's to the happy event in paper !!!

Well dc's dropped without incident tg, didn't say anything yet about ticket money as he'd have used it as an excuse to kick off in front of dc's Angry

partytime · 10/04/2011 13:28

Gosh October 2009, what was going on. Must be something planetary, something in the water that week, who knows. Found out about my H and OW on 11th.

Patienceobtainsallthings · 10/04/2011 15:59

Nov 1st 09 for me

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IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 10/04/2011 16:36

Hm mm looking like Oct / Nov will be a big anniversary time for us

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startingovernow · 10/04/2011 16:57

When I collected dc's heard xh saying "see you later to dd". I asked him was he going tonight & he said "yes". I said but you already told me you weren't, he said "I bought my own tickets". Fucking wanker!! £25 down the drain!!Asked him for the £25. He told me I'd be lucky to get a penny from him in future as he had no work Angry. He is being a proper fu*king dick atm, detach, detach, detach........

Short version of serenity prayer..............Fuck him, Fuck him, Fuck him................

Patienceobtainsallthings · 10/04/2011 17:08

Sorry u had this today starting ,hope u and dcs have a nice time tonite.

gettingeasier · 10/04/2011 17:33

Starting what a prat , will you have to sit with him and who are the other tickets for or was that 's' a typo ?

Had a lovely day and looking forward to dc being home later and no school so we can chill Smile

googoomama · 10/04/2011 19:39

Hi everyone. Oh Starting, what a twat. He did that deliberately eh? Funny how he can afford his own tickets, just so that he can piss you off, even though he has no money. Yes, your serenity prayer is about right!
Hope everyone is ok. I'm still having a bit of a downer but hey, it'll pass.

gettingeasier · 10/04/2011 19:42

Whats up Goo ? Thought you would be flying high with promotion and 2 weeks off ?

googoomama · 10/04/2011 19:43

Another week at school up here unfortunately, so another week of non stop working. Will be there til 7 tomorrow night for a show but my two are coming to watch with my parents so that will be nice.
Oh, it's just exbf. I'm not over him yet :( But I will get there

KateonMN · 10/04/2011 19:54

Hey everyone - well done with the job Goo and sorry that you are feeling a bit low today.

Just getting stuff ready for school tomorrow - thanks for all the advice ladies, mind you - I think the girls wanting to watch Pokemon and Samsam imstead of getting dressed is the root of the problems :)

Gotta catch em all!

Patienceobtainsallthings · 10/04/2011 20:17

It's just not logical is it Goo ,wish it was .All I know is u have to feel it to get out the other side.Had not bad day but bloke a bit persistant about going for a coffee and I had to just go for the broken record thing of No ! was never at the stage of hell no,but restrained myself.
Kate good luck tomorrow,we are doin football all week need to be up at half 7 again x
Saw a lee stafford oil and other nice treats for my hair may just go for it ,not done a pamper thing in a long time.

Patienceobtainsallthings · 10/04/2011 20:24

Was nearly at the stage of HELL NO! That should have said.

googoomama · 10/04/2011 21:17

Have I missed something Patience? A bloke and coffee? Is this SB man?

Patienceobtainsallthings · 10/04/2011 21:37

No that would have been a definate Yes
,nah this was someone else altogether and a definate NO.

googoomama · 10/04/2011 21:39

lol!

startingovernow · 10/04/2011 23:30

Well even if I say so myself dd stole the show tonight I brought step daughter & she was thrilled to go so it all worked out nicely Smile. Getting you hadn't misread the tickets bit as xh said he was bringing a friend with him & did indeed turn up with friend in tow & had no problem shelling out £50 for another two tickets despite telling me he wouldn't have money for maintenance!! Also I would be willing to bet my last £ on him being sat in some restaurant now (same as every night!!). Detach, detach, detach.........

Lol dd said to me tonight "it's funny that it was dad in the paper with us mum & not you, you would think he did so much with us looking at that pic & really it's you that does everything for us" ah bless Smile. Found a second pic in the paper of ds on his own doing his solo piece much to his delight Smile

Goo, I empathise & send you big ((hugs)). Sometimes I can still feel really sad about Norm too Sad

startingovernow · 10/04/2011 23:31

Patience, if I'm right about who the coffee invitee was you did well to turn it down & v well to not say hell no !!! Grin Good luck with the footie Smile

Another week of school here too..........

Patienceobtainsallthings · 11/04/2011 04:48

No just some random bloke I know starting,creeped me out tbh.

startingovernow · 11/04/2011 11:12

Thought it might have been the same (attached) bloke as before! Well at least you're attracting men Smile just have to fine tune it a bit now so that it's the type of men you want Grin. I'm in the same process lol, attracting men all right on the dating site but needs to be fine tuned majorly before I'll be able to motivate myself Grin

Patienceobtainsallthings · 11/04/2011 11:47

Ha ha I had forgotten all about him,it is a difficult road to drive ie the single mum one,how do u tell if anyone is genuinely wanting to help out or just want to sleep with u .I only green light the ones that I fancy ,ok only encouraging SB man at the moment Smile
But another bloke offered to make me a sign yesterday for the workshop.
I had plenty rose quartz on me yesterday.
Anyway bought my argan oil and hair treatment planning an evening of nourishment.

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IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 11/04/2011 15:47

Suggest very tiny amount of argan oil

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startingovernow · 11/04/2011 16:09

Dear God I have 7 noisy children in the house!! Am minding two, picked up two neighbourhood strays somehow Hmm & then my own three!! Am embarrassed to say I temporarily forgot the 7th was in the house for awhile & she's only 2 !! Am desperate for a cig but no possibility of slinking off Hmm

startingovernow · 11/04/2011 16:10

Hmm only the numbers 7 & 2 should have been in bold, no idea how that happened !!

startingovernow · 11/04/2011 16:31

Heart rate just returning to normal. Got slightly distracted reading the v funny thread about things that killed a relationship dead, glanced out the front window to see ds cycling his bike 100 miles an hr in direction of road & stray 2 yr old running after him at full speed!! Have 6 inch fuc*ing heels on & had to go tearing accross the green at full speed screaming like a fish wife!! And breath...................am off to keep a better eye on all these children!!