If you hit your OH then YES you are as much an abuser as he would be if he hit you.

[QueenGigantaurofMnet]

I have just seen someone on another forum discussing how she couldn't possibly have been an abuser. she has only hit her husband twice (although the second time she hit him twice as she enjoyed the fear and shock in his face) in the 15 years of their marriage.

the rest of the forumn are telling her that it was ok. they are both "headstrong"

other are saying things like "i wish i could hit my oh"

It makes me feel sick.

Violance on a relationship is wrong. It is called Domestic violance, not man hitting wife violance.

if you have hit your partner then you ARE an abuser and you SHOULD be looking at ways to deal with your anger.

Im sorry but i am actually quite angry about this

hitting, kicking, punching, throwing things at, verbally and emotionally abusing too...

DV doesn't always result in outward bruises.

I'm angry too - I saw it on here only yesterday. Made me feel sick.

Perhaps you could have taken this up with the poster on the other forum rather than bringing it here?

Completely agree with you!

what's wrong with saying it here?

It needs saying. Everywhere.

Hey Po face! Sorry Queen Po face, or whatever.

Why dont you just email her?
P.s IS your life that dull?

I have hit my dh twice in 11 years..so I am an abuser....whatever !

Anyone can say anything they like, of course. But it smacks a little of cowardice to not take it up with the poster that has offended you - regardless of the subject... don't you think?

Oh FFS. Don't we have enough threads about this on MN already.

Really getting very pissed off now.

QueenGigantaurofMnet

you are a sneaky one aren't you...I posted on that thread

DV my arse !

maybe she did say it there too...

Knowing Gigantaur personally, I would put money on her saying it there AND here!! She ain't one for cowardice.

oh i disagree.

must agree devil. shit stirring it is.

no my life is far from dull.

I cannot post on the other forum as i have no interest of joining it given some of the things i have seen on there. I stumbled across it by accident earlier today and thought i would check t out further.

I have not named the forum or linked to it.

It is a message that needs shouting to the world.

Deflated- you are a twat. and my name is quite clearly displayed at the top of my posts.

no she did not say it on there !

Dull? Zero tolerance is dull now is it? Sorry, but I don't think it is Po faced to draw attention to the fact that violence in a relationship is abusive. Would you say that if the victim was female?

Like you "accidentally" googled yourself

You spend an awful lot of time online for someone whose life is "far from dull".

QueenGigantaurofMnet you remind me of the tell tale tit we had at school !

no im sorry. but if someone posted saying that her husband had just hit her across the face she would be told to pack her things and leave.

if she then elaborated that he enjoyed the look in her eyes so much so that he hit her again...fuck me there would be a lynch mob (rightly so)

Im sorry but any violance in a relationship is wrong wrong wrong.

Ah I see. You didn't take it up on the other forum because you 'couldn't be bothered to join'. I get it.

it just doesn't take into account the psychology of abuse... the 'message to the world' is cringeworthily simplistic.

Im not a twat, I love me and so do my dearest! In fact, Im just great, thanks!

But you, are po faced, a shit stirrer and I bet you read the Daily Mail!

QueenGigantaurofMnet are you the trouser wearer in your home?

No one is saying it is right right right you tittynit.

But go ahead, keep living in your black and white world. Hope nothing too grey ever creeps in to tax your critical faculties.

deflated I am lmao at your comment..do I know you? x

oh come on, this was discussed only yesterday, the thread is still very active