Can anyone talk to me about sub/dom relationships?

[CuriousSub]

Right, well, I have been here a loooong time but have name changed for this.

I came to these boards when I found out about my stbxh's affair and the advice here was great and really helped. I went through hell for 3 years but I am now in the process of divorcing him.

So now I am testing the water and have frequented some dating sites and have been speaking to a gorgeous guy who is far too young for me and we got to talking about what we like. It turns out I love being dominated and he was looking for a sub.

Sooo, we have been texting, emailing and now speaking to each other and the whole idea is driving me mad with desire. I am actually short of breath when he suggests things.

This is something I hadn't even thought about before but I definitely want to see this through. He wants to meet and I would love to.

But I wanted to ask here is anyone has been/is a sub? What is expected of you? Where is the best place to look for advice/ideas?

Sorry, I know it isn't Friday yet - but nearly!!

< dons 500 badge >

But it is my thread. I want a badge too (sulks a bit)

I will let you share the badge, CS

Yay!!

You don't look a day over 400.

Hi there! Its Lydwatt here...namechanged as I was bored of last one!

Cool name! Lyd was easier to type though

yeah, I like Lyd too...but this new one gives me another layer of anominity (and sneaks in an old Monty Python gag!!)

Well I feature on Fetlife if anyone interested...?

TS

nope

haven't you realised that yet ?

christ, some people really are thick

Meeting someone today - just in case anyone is interested.

Will report back later x

i,m interested!!!!!!!!!!!!!

try not to shock em too much Curious!!!!

Ooohhhh, oooh, oooh. Let us know how it goes

OK, just a quick up date before I make dc's dinner.

I am alive and well, although slightly sore and my ass may very well be glowing this time next week

I will come back later and give you the edited highlights x

oh good to hear you ok....and had fun????

Lots of fun tinker, and some pain!!

I have been lucky enough to find a pro dom. I met with him and his female partner today for a "play" session. It was amazing. I was blindfolded but not tied (they want me to trust them first) and they introduced me to a few different things

Suffice to say my ass is now glowing and I am happy and content.

I am sorry if you dont get that, but it is an amazing feeling

While I agree with Dittany about, "be wary of anyone over the internet"
She is deeply, deeply screwy

Well see that Dittany! Despite all that hate, it actually turned out ok. Of course one cannot prognosticate. Unless one has true vileness in one's heart.

You know, for everyone getting over a shitty relationship (and that was me 2 to 3 years ago), there is life after marriage!

I really do not want a one-to-one relationship. I need the sex and the kinkyness but dont want the emotional baggage. This is perfect for me and I feel lucky to have found the right people to do this with.

I am going to a Fetish Club with them on Saturday and can't wait!

Cool. I hope you enjoy it. Not my bag but I won't morally pontificate like malefficent and dittany and beatrix and other such evilwishers/schadenfreude curtain-twitching cats-arse mouthers, in fact I might even vicariously enjoy it with you

Well thank you replete, that is nice of you considering you dont wish to partake.

Most people want to stand on the table/soapbax and declare all non-loving sex morally unacceptable.

I have done the "normal" sex life, and would still be doing it if it wasn't for h's affair. And I really wish now that he had done that earlier so that I could have experienced all of this sooner.

ARHSN..your previous "contributions" on here render your attacks on dittany highly ridiculous

HI AF, was waiting for you to appear

hi CS, fancy you waiting for me to appear

what are you waiting for me to say ?