Can anyone talk to me about sub/dom relationships?

[CuriousSub]

Right, well, I have been here a loooong time but have name changed for this.

I came to these boards when I found out about my stbxh's affair and the advice here was great and really helped. I went through hell for 3 years but I am now in the process of divorcing him.

So now I am testing the water and have frequented some dating sites and have been speaking to a gorgeous guy who is far too young for me and we got to talking about what we like. It turns out I love being dominated and he was looking for a sub.

Sooo, we have been texting, emailing and now speaking to each other and the whole idea is driving me mad with desire. I am actually short of breath when he suggests things.

This is something I hadn't even thought about before but I definitely want to see this through. He wants to meet and I would love to.

But I wanted to ask here is anyone has been/is a sub? What is expected of you? Where is the best place to look for advice/ideas?

Sorry, I know it isn't Friday yet - but nearly!!

I also made a new mate, which is a nice little aside

< waves at MC >

thanks, SHG

if everybody on this thread had seen that post, it would have gone quite a different way, I think

hey AF!!

Vey pleased at that too

I don't want to put words into CS's posts but I too think she enjoys the attention. I don't think this is a bad thing as such (very exciting times!!) but I remember coming out of my shite first marriage and frankly, your judgment can be a little suspect then, in the pursuit of healing your battered emotions. Its always good, at these times, to have a guiding voice of reason.

I like the fact that AF always looked to ground CS's responses without killing her enthusiasm outright.

So what if she enjoys a bit of attention. She's not here now is she, it's other posters still dragging this on.

< takes cue to leave thread >

well done for finding friends on the scene
I have to say that bdsm community is great at welcoming new people and helping them to find their place (so to speak :) )

I am a female domme and involved in the "scene" for many years.

The advice I would give you is, play safe. How do you do that?

Make sure you communicate your needs clearly, and only play with people who are safe. Trust your gut instinct. Additionally, get to know people around the person you want to play with so you can get a feel for the real person.

If they do what they say, and say what they mean, that is a good sign. Maybe not terribly sexy, but better be safe than sorry.

A good play partner is hard to find, so take your time!

Good luck.

MsB

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