ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No.8

[teaandcakeplease]

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether you are a new dumpling or a vet, feel free to join us in our quest for serenity

And finally .... the story of my marriage - thank goodness it's over

That was said in a friendly way btw Pink

Too tired to groove Happy and Tea I've never ever considered getting one. I've never even seen one. It dosen't appeal, never has, maybe I'm missing out though.... ? Cold, hard plastic....seems like a DIY smear test....shudder.

Evening Ladies

Love the music Happy :o was about to link i touch myself on my fb then thought better of it, people would wonder who it was dedicated to!! LMAO

Welcome Karmann, thank you for sharing that it had been 5 years thats [shocking] i havent seen any of your other posts as i mainly stick to this thread, i venture into chat occasionally but thats it, i hope we can help each other

Citydoll, hope your ok x

Getting, my response to your friend would have been exactly the same :o
And we will have to sort out dinner one evening it would be lovely :o

Pink, am assuming your an hour ahead of me it confused me for a few seconds lol, but it's great to hear from you :o

Starting, sorry your not feeling it with norm atm, maybe you need a bit more time, i hope your feeling good angain soon ((hugs))

Tea, i also seen thedevilwearsprimarks thread it's a very sad situation, hope you have a good sleep

Hope everyone else is ok and Patience is settling well in her new home

I'm so sorry, ladies. I've just read all your posts and you've made me realise that OW is nothing and I need to let go now. I need to look after me.

I fell asleep shortly after my last post and I've only just woken up. I'm still at DD's.

Thank you all for being so kind and telling me off in a nice way. What was I thinking? I'll be back later. I'm so genuinely grateful to you all. I don't know how to thank you all properly. x

Do you know what's really eating into me? That xp could choose an ow who is so horrible. What does that make me? How could he be attracted to someone who would leave their own daughter? I feel like their affair makes me have something in common with her. She's botoxed up to the eyeballs and I'm happy with my Laura Mercia tinted moisturiser. She wore thigh high boots and leggings to ds's football presentation. What did/does he see in her?

LC the choices your xp made were his and say nothing about you and everything about him. In a similar way everyone has said why did my xh choose his ow, in so many ways she is a puzzling choice. I have been helped by it though because I see it as part of how messed up he is and have never felt threatened by her or had my esteem rocked by being replaced by someone fabulous iyswim ?

Enjoyed catching up with the thread last night made me smile on a cold wet dark morning.

Sorry you are feeling low Starting you have been having a great phase

Pink you are funny !

Karmann sorry to hear that happened to you as and when you are ready you can let us help I hope

Citydoll its bound to be a vile time for a while now your xh has finally gone but you will get through- keep posting.

Well the dreams are back, god I hate them.

I dont know how I feel atm. Its like yes the raw pain has gone and I 100% wouldnt go back to where I was but I am left feeling a bit blank. Like I dont know what to do with my head after a year of having it occupied by all the upset and anxiety.

There are times when I get so tired of the constant need to work at recovery, to be doing this that and the other to feel ok. I know I need to be patient though and more to the point grateful that the worst has subsided.

I cant remember a time where I just woke up and lived and trotted through a day without a care. Be patient Getting !

Waves to all and I hope your mornings arent like this one yuk

Well, I got through the first day - eyes are swollen from crying and lack of sleep; face looks like a train wreck but I am already at work! As the saying goes, "The journey of a thousand miles begins with the first step....." and today is my first step.

Thanks for all the hugs and good wishes.

Have a good day Citydoll - does work know or will you have to remove train wreck face for I am ok face ?

gettingeasier - thanks for good wishes. Work has been a true sanctuary in the last 6 months and my fellow directors and most of my senior team are aware of the situation so I do not have to pretend too much today, thank goodness.

Hi everyone. I just thought this might help someone else. I feel that this is what happened to me

www.relationshipmatters.com/index.php?/archives/2800-When-a-man-leaves-a-woman-Part-2.html#extended

Doris

Oh yes Doris so so true isn't it. I copied and pasted it into my browser and read it.

web link to it for others

Try again

www.relationshipmatters.com/index.php?/archives/2800-when-a-man-leaves-a-woman-part-2.html

Hi Tea,

Thanks. How did you do that?

Below the "Add your message here" box is some text on the right that tells you how to do it:

Links The simplest way to insert a link is to enter the web address (URL) surrounded by and . So type www.mumsnet.com to display a link like www.mumsnet.com. If you want your link to display text other than the web address itself, leave a space after the address then add the text before the ]]. So "Look at this page", would display "Look at this page."

Ah ha,

Ok I'm off to look for something to link to. Should be doing house work though. I have a pile of washing up to my knees.

Ok here goes.

Very good

hello all

LC - sorry you are so low, please do not compare your feelings with how others are on here - like pink says there is always one of us who needs propping up and that is what the rest of us are here for. i hope you are ok.

getting - sorry about the dreams, make a to do list and starting ticking off those things that you have always wanted to do - there is no time like the present. grab life by the bollocks and give it what for!

great posts last night pink, you made me smile.

starting, sorry you have come to that decision re norm, don't be too hard on yourself, you have dumpling powers abound now so there is absolutely no way you will feel down for long....you have got back on the horse don't forget and you are the pioneer for us all

hi happy, glad to see you are in a good place despite your rl dramas, i too am in dire need of a good strong man i am turning into a randy mare girls night out at the weekend so may have to grab first man i see for a snog

karmann - big big welcome to you, well done for sharing on this thread is such a welcome release for me that it has become vital to my recovery. post as much or as little as you want and we will always try to help

sov and rom, hop you are ok too

citydoll - glad you have some understanding people at work, that really helps. i like your analogy - a journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step

hello to everyone else - great that we have so many brill pposters on here but that it came to this for so many of us.

tea - you are sounding so much more upbeat not - fantastic

WAVES TO PATIENCE IF YOU ARE OUT THERE

now (sorry tea [bush])

that was rather an unfortunate typo

Did you mean "now"

Spent too long on mumsnet today and didn't study. Bad bad girl. Course tonight so won't be about

X posted with you

has anyone seen the only way is essex???? - it is such hammy tv that i have become quite addicted lol!! so not my type of programme at all, but oh so camp and does not tax my brain. (ITV Player)

oh and phoneshop is vv funny on 4OD

my new fave thing is taking laptop to bed and watching reams of on demand telly !!! BLISS

aaaaa lol just read your post..... have fun tonight!!!!!