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ALL NEW Road to Recovery for the Recently Ditched No.8

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teaandcakeplease · 03/10/2010 19:02

Dearly Be-Chucked, we are gathered here today because, for whatever reason, our man has dumped us!

Whether you are a new dumpling or a vet, feel free to join us in our quest for serenity Angry Sad Shock Hmm Blush

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Karmann · 07/11/2010 22:13

Thanks for the welcome ladies. Glad you have liked my posts tea, I really do like to try and help others. Need to extend that to myself!

I'm getting there but get frustrated that progress is so slow. Don't think it helps that we have to be in touch so much but also think it is a bit like a security blanket.

Have only ever told romney this but am ready to tell now - his affair went on for five years. We continued to have a good life together, no distancing, no script and I had no idea. There, I've said it now.

pinksmarties · 07/11/2010 22:14

LC....I don't understand.

You sent her fake texts and she got all exited and took the bait. She wants your xp yes but he doesn't want her does he....? He wants to come home to you. Do you believe he wants you back ? If so then who cares what she wants.

Does your xp know you sent those texts or did you delete them (and her replies) ?

It's not like we're all moving on and you're drowning.

We all cope differently. I only saw a light at the end of the tunnel about 1 1/2 years after xh left. Before that there were times when I thought I would die of a broken heart. It's still a bit touch and go at times. Thank God for the anti ds. I wouldn't still be here if it wasn't for those.

I only found this thread 10 months after H left and I was in a very very dark place and dreading new years eve.

Some of my posts have been very depressing and I did feel a bit bad for bringing the thread down but it's like we all have our turns and there's usually at least one person on here who is extreamly low and at the moment it's you and we're all here to listen to you rant and rave and cry and be as undignified as you bloody like my dear.

Don't leave unless you want to but don't do it on our account please.

You give us lots of laughs too LC Smile

Come on LC, rant, rave, cry, spit, dribble and snot....we can take it. We've all been there and we'll all survive this fucking shit that our exes have put us through and in our heads we'll all bear the scars for the rest of our lives but scars can be beautiful and we'll be the strong survivers living peaceful lives while our exes are having their arses wiped in thier NHS old age homes.

This too will pass xxx

you made Tea say bollocks ! Grin

As for your friend Getting.......anymore stunts like that and karma will ensure that she the one wiping the arses.....

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 07/11/2010 22:26

Hi Pink Smile

pinksmarties · 07/11/2010 22:40

Hi Happy Grin

How are you ??

startingovernow · 07/11/2010 22:41

Oh Pink, you are so so witty tonight Grin. Am loving karma of wiping the arses for Getting's friend Grin. And best of all "you made Tea say bollocks !" Grin

LC, please keep posting, I've vomited my whole sorry mess out on here & it kept me sane at times. Sounds horrible but Pink does have a point, maybe you need to put ow to one side for awhile & just think what's best for you. ((Hugs))

Karmann, welcome to thread. Discovery must have been so so painful ((Hugs)).

Happy, glad God is keeping you happy for the mo Smile.

Well I should have gone the God route too instead of the s**g route. Less complicated & less painful Sad. Really like Norm but for reasons that are too complicated to go into am seriously thinking it could be time to end it Sad. Don't think he can give me what I'm looking for atm. I'm feeling mental tbh over being back in a place that a MAN is causing me grief (perhaps not his fault as such but that doesn't alter the fact) Angry Sad

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 07/11/2010 22:49

Living in a TV series Pink but mostly v happy.

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 07/11/2010 22:51

Starting, I am still keen on the sh** route myself. But don't want a relationship so maybe I need to get used to RR Grin

startingovernow · 07/11/2010 22:53

Happy, you are so right I need to locate my RR & go back to God Grin. Far less complicated & no emotional crap........

Teaandcakeplease · 07/11/2010 23:11

5 years? How awful. Karmann want to give you a squeeze.

Starting sorry to hear things with Norm are ending. Hello to Pink, Happy etc. Just a fly by on the way to bed. I will try to study more tomorrow once DD is in Pre School and lurk less on here Shock Try being the operative word. Feeling quite unsociable in RL but still need contact with people, so I'm finding the lure on mumsnet very strong right now Grin

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pinksmarties · 07/11/2010 23:16

Are God and RR compatable ?

(I was a convent girl)

pinksmarties · 07/11/2010 23:19

no need to answer, I'm sure he turns a blind eye Wink

night x

Teaandcakeplease · 07/11/2010 23:21

I'm not a theologian so I couldn't possibly comment Grin

Had a very interesting read of a small pamphlet by this man though and it blew away a lot of myths the high-church peddle about divorce and remarriage.

Right really MUST go to bed. Hope Patience is ok and unpacking and settling is going well.

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startingovernow · 07/11/2010 23:21

Lol Pink, ex convent girl here too & think they're v compatable Grin

Tea, I go through stages of being v unsociable too! That's the beauty of MN, you can be sociable & unsociable at same time Grin

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 07/11/2010 23:24

One for us all I think - sing your hearts out ladies

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 07/11/2010 23:27

And one for all of the RR girls out there

startingovernow · 07/11/2010 23:30

Lol Happy Grin

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 07/11/2010 23:30

Well good ness me this is turning into a DJHappy night - well beats the divorce paperwork I guess - need Patience on the table.......

Hope this is not in bad taste for some - I am able to sing it in a wtf way as I don't miss the twunt anyway

Teaandcakeplease · 07/11/2010 23:31

Should we explain to the newer dumplings what an RR is?

Caveat: I've never owned one. Thought about it though Grin

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IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 07/11/2010 23:34

Oh blimey, going a bit crazy now

startingovernow · 07/11/2010 23:37

Tea, am Shock & you a woman of God Grin

Happy, enjoying the music Grin

pinksmarties · 07/11/2010 23:39

Tea !!!!!!!! I'm very shocked. What's got into this evening ? Wink

Happy.......this is a school night......we can't start disco ing at 12.35 on sunday night !

I keep thinking of the poor old nuns at school. Good job the RR was invented after thier demize. Would def be a sin and require one thousand hail marys.

Teaandcakeplease · 07/11/2010 23:44

Goodness me what woman wouldn't have considered one? Is it really that shocking? Smile

Can't believe I'm still lurking on mumsnet, got sucked into reading a sad thread by thedevilwearsprimark so so sad.

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Teaandcakeplease · 07/11/2010 23:46

Defo switching the PC off now. Will my ears be burning? Grin

I'm a nice girl really. I promise Smile

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IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 07/11/2010 23:47

One for the road....

IfYoureHappyAndYouKnowIt · 07/11/2010 23:49

Pink sweetie, you need to let yourself go and get into the groove.

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