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No ejaculations and runs off in the morning

524 replies

Thomcat · 04/09/2005 12:44

That's the crux of the problem.

My bestest, oldest, dearest friend has started seeing a guy, 38 yrs old, and has so far enjoyed about a month of his company.

However there seems to be a few problems.

  1. When he stays over, which is alot, every weekend so far and during the week, he wakes up & opens his eyes and within 15 minutes he's out of the door saying he'll be back in an hur or so, and he is, but why the running off.

  2. They have had sex a fair amount. Possibly not quite as much as they could/should be having in the first heady days of a relationship, but an ok amount. He gets an erection but so far, in over a month, he hasn't come. She has, that's all fine, but he hasn't.

We know he likes a beer, probably a bit too much.
QUESTION: If he gets an erection but doesn't ejaculate is that a drink related problem, or not?
QUESTION: What else could be causing the lack of ejaculation?
FACT : He gets an erection but it's not like he's just such a stud he can go for hours and not come. I think, from what I know, he gets one but it doesn't last for that long.

I'm not sure what else to tell you, so ask away and I'll do my best to answer / find out.

Any ideas about this ejaculation thing and also any ideas about what she should do about his running off every morning for an hour? Is that related to the sex thing do you think, is he leaving before she gets a chance to get saucy with him?

Off to make Lottie lunch, be back to see if any of you wise women have any clues.

TC x

OP posts:
Caligula · 04/09/2005 22:07

But he was wierd, wasn't he?

Just like mystery pooing/ married/ alcoholic/ gambling/ wolfman.

HunkerGiraffeTrollMunker · 04/09/2005 22:10

WOLFMAN? where did that theory suddenly spring from?

I really really want to know where he goes now.

ediemay · 04/09/2005 22:10

Milkman?

hunkermunker · 04/09/2005 22:10

He doesn't have to do a paper round, does he?

Carla · 04/09/2005 22:11

TC, what does he do work-wise?

princesspeahead · 04/09/2005 22:12

I went out with a man who couldn't poo in a public loo (which included work, 5* hotels, etc etc. bloody odd. but I assume he felt able to do it in my loo as he never rushed off in the morning and on more than one occasion we spent entire weekends in my bed...

myturn · 04/09/2005 22:12

LMAO at this thread.

Actually doing that would sort out the poohing problems wouldn't it?

Nightynight · 04/09/2005 22:12

yes, we need more details for mumsnet's little grey cells to solve the mystery from our armchairs.

TheTrollDetector · 04/09/2005 22:12

or maybe he just didn't poo.

hunkermunker · 04/09/2005 22:13

Thomcat?! Are you there (and can you visit the Christmas meet-up thread if you get a mo )?

goosey · 04/09/2005 22:13

diabetic?

TheTrollDetector · 04/09/2005 22:13

why doesn';t she print off this thread and show him if she feels unable to ask outright? The truth is probably so much better than any of these theories that he will laugh and reveal the truth.

Nightynight · 04/09/2005 22:16

maybe he goes for a walk to have some time alone? If you are a natural loner, it can be quite hard to spend a lot of time in someone else's company, and an hour alone can restore your mental balance.

ediemay · 04/09/2005 22:19

I think wolfmen prefer night to morning

SleepyJess · 04/09/2005 22:20

I wouldn't worry about the not coming part of this.. I think he is probably just nervous... ejaculation is a lot about being able to relax and maybe he just isn't that relaxed yet.

I think he is rushing off to have a poo too. More to the point so does DH.

Don't agree with those who are clamouring for the friend to get rid JUST because of these issues.. nobody is perfect and he is probably just a bit insecure!

WideWebWitch · 04/09/2005 22:29

hahaha at the idea that he's off selling The Socialist Worker or something, fantastic! Thomcat, we NEED to know now, she's got to ask him!

starlover · 04/09/2005 22:30

oh where is thomcat????

Heathcliffscathy · 04/09/2005 22:32

hi sleepyjess

i dont' know about all this tc, i really dont'. maybe poo. but maybe drugs.....?

Pollyanna · 04/09/2005 22:42

My dh has suggested that if they're using condoms that might stop him ejaculating and then he's nipping off to finish the job off so to speak...

Milge · 04/09/2005 22:48

Gay, with poo issues is my best guess.

jampots · 04/09/2005 22:53

ive just asked dh his view and he suggests diplomatically that
(a) he's going for a wank and
(b) he is possible not getting enough sensation when actually shagging

sallystrawberry · 04/09/2005 22:54

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

TheTrollDetector · 04/09/2005 22:58

If i was her i would say something like
'oh, do you have to disappear this morning, stay here for a bit'

and see what he says.

sallystrawberry · 04/09/2005 22:59

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Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Caligula · 04/09/2005 23:00

Oh come on now Sally! There must be another unlikely possiblity you can add to in the long list!

Can we recap

Poo
Socialist worker
probation
wolfman
goatman (daytime option)
drugs
drink
e-bay
wanking
diabetic?
gay

How about professional dog walker?
Very devout catholic, goes off to attend morning mass and receive holy communion?
Very devout muslim, goes off to do the first of the day's prayers?

Really ought to be in bed now, but this thread is too good to abandon.