No ejaculations and runs off in the morning

[Thomcat]

That's the crux of the problem.

My bestest, oldest, dearest friend has started seeing a guy, 38 yrs old, and has so far enjoyed about a month of his company.

However there seems to be a few problems.

1. When he stays over, which is alot, every weekend so far and during the week, he wakes up & opens his eyes and within 15 minutes he's out of the door saying he'll be back in an hur or so, and he is, but why the running off.

2. They have had sex a fair amount. Possibly not quite as much as they could/should be having in the first heady days of a relationship, but an ok amount. He gets an erection but so far, in over a month, he hasn't come. She has, that's all fine, but he hasn't.

We know he likes a beer, probably a bit too much.
QUESTION: If he gets an erection but doesn't ejaculate is that a drink related problem, or not?
QUESTION: What else could be causing the lack of ejaculation?
FACT : He gets an erection but it's not like he's just such a stud he can go for hours and not come. I think, from what I know, he gets one but it doesn't last for that long.

I'm not sure what else to tell you, so ask away and I'll do my best to answer / find out.

Any ideas about this ejaculation thing and also any ideas about what she should do about his running off every morning for an hour? Is that related to the sex thing do you think, is he leaving before she gets a chance to get saucy with him?

Off to make Lottie lunch, be back to see if any of you wise women have any clues.

TC x

maybe he's not coming over as much............hehehehe

got all excited when I saw this -thought we had an answer!

don't think there is going to be one lillibet. I have seen Thomcat on other threads since her last post on here. Couldn't help myself with my little joke though.....

someone will have to grab her on another thread and tell her there are lots of people on tenter hooks.

goss please

curiousity finally got the better of me! havent read the whole thread (all 506 messages ) but my first reaction was that he was tossing himself off at the side of the house or somewhere. so, what is it?

brightstar wants to know... desperately, it seems nudge, nudge.

Have started a thread called Thomcat... for interested parties to bump - it has a link to this thread in it

Oh jesus, this is back, I'd hoped it would go away tbh!
Ummm, well, not sure. It's cooled right off between them and not sure she'll ever get the opportunity to really get to the bottom of it all. His friends who have become friendly with the gooneress have come out and said they are worried about him. Not sure how much she can do really. I just hope whatever happens he sorts himself out. The guy I know, or thought I knew, is a really sweet, gentle guy, funny, charming etc. But sounds like he has some demons and I just hope he manages to fight them before any real damage is done.

Sorry, TC - I knew this would be bumped until you saw it (and I was a little bit curious myself ).

Hope this guy's OK - sounds like he has problems

Thomcat I hope your friend is okay and isn't too upset. Obviously this guy as some issues at the moment that he needs to work out. Hope your friend meets someone nice who is in the same "place" as her.

hope everything turns out ok for both of them.You sound like a good friend.

Sorry I havn't been on to update you with any answers but I havn't really wanted to talk about it to be honest.Well its over before I got to the bottom of it. I didn't hear from him for a week and then when he did finally come to see me with his tail between his legs his explanation was,'I'm sorry I havn't called you all week. The thing is I'm just not good at relationships which is why I am probably still single at 38.' Well what can a girl say to that!!! He had no explanation to any questions I had to ask and managed to shirk his way out of answering anything by saying 'I'm sorry I've been a rubbish boyfriend I didn't mean to hurt you as you're lovely.' the guy has serious demons and unanswered questions in his own head but as I told him he will not find the answer at the bottom of a pint of Stella!!
So there it is ladies. I'm sure that a few of you will be gutted there was no real 'goss'. Onwards and upwards for me and thank you for trying to make sense of a bit of a bemusing few months for me.
Take care
G
xxx

Good luck gooneress and I hope you find a decent bloke soon.

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Ah well gooneress, plenty more fish in the sea and all that!
If he has 'issues' you're probably better leaving him to sort those before he commits to a realtionship.

Good luck with the next one and please keep us posted

yy send em

Sorry it didn't work out for you Gooneress - never mind the goss - or lack of - it's your feelings that count.
Must be v fruatrating not to have had a clear answer from him - but then that's the problem, isn't it?
Onwards and upwards, and come to think of it I know two top single blokes, atm...I will e mail ThomCat!!!

cool, one for me blu?

Sorry to hear that G, as my sister would say 'the baggage hold was full'. Better luck next time

Thanx Blu. I'm cool but again feel let down by rubbish blokes!!! At least I have come through that why me , what am i doing wrong thing!

I don't think there are any 'decent ' men left out there!