No ejaculations and runs off in the morning

[Thomcat]

That's the crux of the problem.

My bestest, oldest, dearest friend has started seeing a guy, 38 yrs old, and has so far enjoyed about a month of his company.

However there seems to be a few problems.

1. When he stays over, which is alot, every weekend so far and during the week, he wakes up & opens his eyes and within 15 minutes he's out of the door saying he'll be back in an hur or so, and he is, but why the running off.

2. They have had sex a fair amount. Possibly not quite as much as they could/should be having in the first heady days of a relationship, but an ok amount. He gets an erection but so far, in over a month, he hasn't come. She has, that's all fine, but he hasn't.

We know he likes a beer, probably a bit too much.
QUESTION: If he gets an erection but doesn't ejaculate is that a drink related problem, or not?
QUESTION: What else could be causing the lack of ejaculation?
FACT : He gets an erection but it's not like he's just such a stud he can go for hours and not come. I think, from what I know, he gets one but it doesn't last for that long.

I'm not sure what else to tell you, so ask away and I'll do my best to answer / find out.

Any ideas about this ejaculation thing and also any ideas about what she should do about his running off every morning for an hour? Is that related to the sex thing do you think, is he leaving before she gets a chance to get saucy with him?

Off to make Lottie lunch, be back to see if any of you wise women have any clues.

TC x

Just ask him where he goes and why?

Dh asked if this man was perhaps taking Viagra and it was enabling to get it up but not finish the job IYKWIM.

I reckon starlover's dp could be onto something re: the disappearing...

Fwiw, I used to go out with a guy who, in the early days of our relationship, never ejaculated. It was definitely an emotional thing - nerves, stress, issues with 'letting go' in bed etc etc. But as we got closer the problem went away and all was fine. So that could be it?

BLimey - no idea but let us know won't you! This is much better than television drama!

Meant to also say, she needs to just ask him. If they can't talk about that then there isn't much hope for the rest of the relationship, imo

Ive got a good idea!

Volunteers from Mumsnet will wait outside the door to follow him when he comes out and get to the bottom of this. how about it ?

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secretly married or a paper round?

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Thomcat, does he bring a paper back with him,(paper round) and if so, has it been read (hour on the loo)?

Gambler/ Ebayer must check horses/auctions?

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How near does he live? Is it feasible he's off to do a big jobby?

Bad wind habit in the morning, has to dash off to let off?

My first thought was "who cares? whatever it is, it's not worth keeping him around for - bin him now!"

Call me intolerant.

Caligula, I miss your capital "C"

OK.

'Sback!

Hey, leave me alone you lot. Can't a man even have a big jobby in peace these days? I just can't do it if I'm not at home with my copy of the Times, wearing my favourite pooing slippers. It's a man thing.

HOORAY! I think I can speak for at least me when I say that's much better

PMSL at use of jobby on this thread.

And now feeling bad that we've turned TC's friend's potentially crazy new lover thread into a jobby-fest

Hey - TC, did you say you'd known him ages too? Do you know him well enough to know whether he's likely to have drink/drug/poo problems?

No ejaculations but possible evacuations?

I haven't any problems. It's you lot who have the problem. I am just fine as long as I get my uninterrupted half hour every morning.

I don't hold with the poo theory. If you wanted a shag badly enough, you'd hold it in until the sensation went away. Besides, isn't 'regular as clockwork' something they used to say in the 1900s?

Kenneth Williams would only do jobbies at home and wouldn't let anyone else use his lav