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Very Scared!

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Arkkorox · 26/10/2014 18:35

After being up half the night reading the forum ive finaly plucked up the courage to ask you guys for some advice. Bear with me its a long one but I really need to speak to people who know.

Im pregnant and going for my first scan tomorrow - at an abortion clinic. Now this was a bit of a knee jerk panic reaction however I have a feeling that Im going to be over 24 weeks. My last bleed was in april and just for 2 days but heavy. Since then ive had no more bleeding but because of being on the large side its not odd for my periods to come and go as they please. I have had absolutley no symptoms at all, no sickness, no sore boobs, nothing. Untill 2 weeks ago when I felt incredibly bloated and then wednesday when i had a leaky nipple. Took a pregnancy test on thursday and it was positive. Went to the doctors on friday and have my scan tomorrow.

Im 25, been in a relationship with my brilliant boyfriend for 5 years. But we are terrified. Currently living appart to save up for a house depoisit but I changed jobs 2 months ago and he was made redundant a month ago. Hes with his parents and im living with my nan as she sometimes needs help in the night if she falls etc.

If im correct in counting from my bleed in april that would put me at about 27 weeks.... so possibly no going back now! Which Im not entirely dissapointed about and neither is my OH, hes been lovely and less panicky than me!

My biggest issue is telling my parents. My mum is going to totaly flip and I dont want to ruin our good relationship especialy this close to christmas. Please say someone else has been in my shoes? Im so scared its going to ruin everything!!!!

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confusedandemployed · 03/12/2014 19:30

Hope it all goes well!!

Namelesswonder · 03/12/2014 20:09

Good luck, my 1st was due on 24th Nov and came, after being induced, on Dec 5th. She is 10 this year, can't believe how quickly the time goes. All the best with your daughter

bumpiesonamission · 03/12/2014 20:47

Woooo how exciting!!! stay mobile and in control! Oh my god this is so exciting!

fb1978 · 03/12/2014 20:55

Good luck! Thinking of you!!

plinkyplonks · 03/12/2014 22:15

Good luck OP x

SageYourResoluteOracle · 03/12/2014 22:33

What an incredible thread. Good luck OP!!

Teatimecakes · 04/12/2014 05:46

Very best of luck!! X

Arkkorox · 04/12/2014 06:44

Having a pessary put in was not an enjoyable experience.... Even dp said after he nearly told her to stop before I screamed!!

Waiting for it to work its magic now.... Come on baby!! Had a lovely visit from a couple of friends last night ( they smuggled me in a burger king cause Me And dp hadn't eaten all day!) and managed to get a bit of sleep. I'm desperate for some sort of contraction or something!! Nothing yet though but it's only been in 6 hours.

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CurlyLocks87 · 04/12/2014 07:40

Good luck with your induction. Not long now until you meet your baby girl. How exciting??

fb1978 · 04/12/2014 12:39

Hope you are able to get some sleep, Ark, assuming you're not yet at the pushing stage.

Sparrowlegs248 · 04/12/2014 14:17

Just found this thread and read the lot! Bloody hell Ark hope things are going well for you!!

birchwoods · 04/12/2014 16:09

I've been lurking on this thread but just want to wish you all the luck in the world, and like everyone else, I can't wait to hear your announcement. You should be proud of yourself for dealing with this so amazingly!

bumpiesonamission · 04/12/2014 17:45

waiting for live birth thread

WankingInAWinterWonderland · 04/12/2014 18:22

Hopefully you have started contracting by now ark, best of luck, not long now.

quellerosiel · 04/12/2014 18:45

Been massively lurking since I posted before, good luck Ark!!! Really been thinking of you last couple of days! Hope all goes well and you're snuggling your little one soon xxxx

TinyWishes · 04/12/2014 18:51

Ooooooooohhhhh!!!!! I can't wait!!! Good luck OP!!

xxxx

Arkkorox · 04/12/2014 20:31

Still in hospital....

Still no baby....

Still no contractions....

Might die of bordom.....

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DishwasherDogs · 04/12/2014 21:41

Good luck

curlyclaz13 · 04/12/2014 21:45

Good luck. Try to eat if you can!

houghtonk76 · 05/12/2014 01:34

Some of the posts here are just heartbreaking. Partly cos I used to work as an adviser with 13-19s and helped many young parents / parents to be with Care2Learn forms, Maternity Allowance, etc and partly cos I am so grateful to have such positive role models and kind support myself. I am 38 and 23 weeks pregnant with first child, a son. I have married for 9 years and my husband and family are brilliant. I work, but money is tight as hubby qualified as teacher in July and I was breadwinner for many years before. Live in South East so still rent, cannot afford to buy yet as no savings. My sister aged 37 and had her first, also son, Nov 13th so parents v. happy. She miscarried last Sept at 5 weeks and I mc early Jan at 7 weeks, worst time of life, but everyone was brilliant! I was very down and started new job early March as at mc time was commuting four hours a day to work to put hubby through uni - did this for 3.5 years. I have lovely job near home & nice colleagues now. Itcwas diff time, even though I was 37, cannot imagine going through what you guys have gone through, but really feel for you all & want to say keep faith, things will work out for best in end & people who really care will be by your side (even if all you have are professionals paid to support you - they do care and think about you often). The story of the lady now 28, who coped so well at 17 and now has 11 year old, well you are just amazing and proof that things will work out in end!

houghtonk76 · 05/12/2014 02:08

Ark, please don't worry about lengthy delivery situ, my sister's son was due 2nd Nov & arrived 13th. She had sweep & too much fluid round baby so went into hospital the Tues morning, was eventually induced & finally gave birth Thurs round 11am. Your daughter will come in time & my sister's little Brendan is fine, feeding well these days & was 8lbs when born. My little tyke appears to be massive already at 23 weeks, due 1st April and MIL says hubby was 22 inches when born (he is now 36 and 6'2" & his brother is 6'4" so trust me your labour should be fine by comparison (I'm 5'4" & was 5lbs when I was born, so am literally screwed, am gonna get as much pain relief as poss)!! Sorry about your Gran, hope you come to terms one day & your daughter helps you remember her fondly...

TsukuruTazaki · 05/12/2014 02:22

Oh my gosh, just read this whole post through from start to finish and I'm so excited for you! You're an amazing lady and seem to be taking this well in your stride - hope baby has arrived in the meantime!

Such an amazing story

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WankingInAWinterWonderland · 05/12/2014 15:01

I hope things have started moving for you ark and you will have your baby girl soon.

TinyWishes · 06/12/2014 13:56

Any news xxx

Arkkorox · 07/12/2014 01:51

That was the longest 4 days of my life. Had my waters broken at 10am... Whole day of nearly having a c section but she held it together.

DD was born at 12:30am. Narrowly avoided a section cause her heart beat dropped with every contraction. But she's here! 8lb 2 and feeding well already

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