Very Scared!

[Arkkorox]

After being up half the night reading the forum ive finaly plucked up the courage to ask you guys for some advice. Bear with me its a long one but I really need to speak to people who know.

Im pregnant and going for my first scan tomorrow - at an abortion clinic. Now this was a bit of a knee jerk panic reaction however I have a feeling that Im going to be over 24 weeks. My last bleed was in april and just for 2 days but heavy. Since then ive had no more bleeding but because of being on the large side its not odd for my periods to come and go as they please. I have had absolutley no symptoms at all, no sickness, no sore boobs, nothing. Untill 2 weeks ago when I felt incredibly bloated and then wednesday when i had a leaky nipple. Took a pregnancy test on thursday and it was positive. Went to the doctors on friday and have my scan tomorrow.

Im 25, been in a relationship with my brilliant boyfriend for 5 years. But we are terrified. Currently living appart to save up for a house depoisit but I changed jobs 2 months ago and he was made redundant a month ago. Hes with his parents and im living with my nan as she sometimes needs help in the night if she falls etc.

If im correct in counting from my bleed in april that would put me at about 27 weeks.... so possibly no going back now! Which Im not entirely dissapointed about and neither is my OH, hes been lovely and less panicky than me!

My biggest issue is telling my parents. My mum is going to totaly flip and I dont want to ruin our good relationship especialy this close to christmas. Please say someone else has been in my shoes? Im so scared its going to ruin everything!!!!

Oh. My goodness. Ark you are amazing! You should write ypur memoirs one day because this is one helleva tale! So sorry to hear about your losses this year but you are a bona fide super hero for taking it with the grace that you have. Will be watching with interest for your birth announcement!! Very best of luck to you

Quellerosiel - thank you, I dont feel much like a super hero at the moment as anxiety is taking over and I keep bursting into tears worrying how Im going to cope. Even had a totaly irrational flip out at my partner last night cause he went to meet our friend for a drink and a chat as shes having a hard time. I cant even give him a reason why!

I am not enjoying being overdue.

Omg, well this is a whirlwind tale! Congratulations and best of luck :) im 22 weeks and it wasnt planned at all. There was some family disapointment but it evaporated very quickly and now everyones more excited than me, im an anxious wreck.
Things do happen for a reason, and im sorry for your loss.
Im amazed you didnt know you were pregnant, i knew at 5 weeks (not that it made it freaking out any easier haha), but its no good you trying to predict the future or stress your self out.
Bond with your baby, you have a support network here and with family and friends, everything will be fine. Nothing is ever easy and there is no manual for what you're going through, only others experience and guidance. It'll come naturally, just breathe!
Hope you pop soon!

I followed your story a while ago but it fell off my active list. So glad I found you ??

Yay for having a girl I hope she arrives soon for you!

Sorry to hear about your grandma! ??

I hope it isn't too long until you have your baby girl in your arms.

Thank you guys,

Just fed up of waiting now! I have all this baby stuff and no baby!

Have the Doctors gave you a date they want you to wait until they start you off? Don't worry she will be here soon.

Got a midwife appointment monday (potentialy for a sweep), then a hospital appointment friday so I guess they will decide then what they want to do with me!

I find it funny that you're annoyed being overdue when you've only really known for a month :D

arkkorox the baby will be here soon enough :)

When my lo was born we had nothing ready but he was a suprise 6 weeks early!

Waiting with you Ark! It sucks :-( but hopefully won't be long for either of us now x

Still watching and waiting with you Ark! Sex finally evicted DD at 12 days overdue!! Probably the most unromantic and inelegant sex I've ever had but at least it got her shifting :-)

Ive walked and walked and walked today in the vauge hope it may have started something somewhere along the line but I think all ive acheived is sore hips lol

Hope it happens for you soon! Just read whole thread, you're amazing!

I think rhubarb and custard, then a walk and curry the next night with more R & C worked with DD when she was 6 days late.

Sorry for the loss of your Grandmother. My nana died 10 days before my son was born but it was a comfort she knew we were having a boy and what we were calling him. No one else knew until after he was born.

Any baby today?

Nope :(

Spent all morning in tears worrying about anything and everything but feeling a bit better now.

Midwife appointment tomrrow!

I've just read your thread for the first time, and it rang so many bells for me as I had a very similar experience as you, OP! I totally get that utter panic when you realised that not only were you pregnant, but you were much further on than you'd thought. I was also estimated at 35 weeks when I had an 'urgent' first scan (that I had to wait almost two weeks for!). The look on my DP's face... even the first midwife I saw was stunned as she'd estimated me at about 24 weeks when she examined me.

It wasn't my first child either, so you'd think I would know better, but honestly, second time around was NOTHING like my first pregnancy - no obvious bump (only put on 10lb through the entire pregnancy), no really noticeable movements until the last four weeks, and I continued to have 'periods' each month, hence not realising for so long.

It's funny, my main worry was also telling my mother! Despite being 35 at the time. She has a tendency to be very over dramatic and negative, and she just yelled down the phone at me when I told her, for about 40 minutes. The next morning, she amazed me by ringing me, apologising, then telling me she had been asking around and had already sorted me a cot, a travel system and lots of baby clothes. We bought a couple of sleepsuits and two packs of nappies before DS2 arrived, that was it! She utterly dotes on DS2 and says he was born for a reason.

I coped mostly through humour I think. I had done it all before, which helped a lot, so I could think 'well, it's a baby - I know they just need love, warmth, milk and cuddles, and I'll work the rest out as we go'. He was a very different baby to DS1 though so not sure how much the previous experience did help really! He is 2.5 now and I can't imagine not having him, he is the happiest little chap and so sociable and sweet. I was so worried I had damaged him with all the stress I had before I even knew I was pregnant, let alone afterwards.

Anyway, apologies for barging onto your thread. I just couldn't not post as I just knew exactly how you felt. You have MN to turn to if you need any advice when your baby arrives, you have coped amazingly so far (anyone would be anxious and terrified in the same situation!) and I hope all goes well for you all x

Oh, I meant to say that with me the midwives and doctors were a bit hesitant discussing anything like sweeps, induction etc. as they said that dating scans aren't so accurate later on in pregnancy, so they were very wary of evicting DS too soon if he wasn't actually overdue. They would have preferred to monitor me daily until they were sure he had had enough. I think though, working back to when he must have been conceived, that he was spot on 40 weeks when he arrived.

Also had (as someone upthread had) the having no bump at all to suddenly growing a bump overnight as soon as I knew! I also had a very cynical consultant who clearly did not believe for a second that I hadn't known, and grilled me over and over saying that she had never seen this in her entire career before (despite several midwives telling me they had each seen it a few times themselves).

Roomba you have no idea how nice it is to know Ive not been the only one thats had this sort of situation to cope with!!

Im glad it all turned out well for you, hopefully it will all be okay for me too. Im just struggling to see the light at the end of the tunnel at the mo as far as logisitcs go. My partner said to me this morning repeatedly that it will be fine but its not sinking in at this point in time.... I think pregnancy hormones are not helping at all.

Im very glad ive got MN to turn to, the support from here has been fantastic it really has. At the moment im just having a 'life will never be the same again' panic I think!

Wow just found your thread Ark and read it from the start - you sound amazing and have had so much to deal with.

for you and another person here to cheer you on!

Ps I went 2 weeks overdue with DS2, so big sympathy on the waiting!

I hope everything goes well at your Midwife appointment tomorrow.

I've just found this thread, Arkkorox you are my new hero. Seriously, you are amazing and I have so much respect for you, the strength and honesty you've shown through all of this is just astounding.

You should write - this sort of thing is rare but it happens (as you know!) and someone without your strength, well, would be so completely lost. You could help so many people.

I'm sorry you're overdue, I'm sending positive thoughts that you have your baby very soon!