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Arkkorox · 26/10/2014 18:35

After being up half the night reading the forum ive finaly plucked up the courage to ask you guys for some advice. Bear with me its a long one but I really need to speak to people who know.

Im pregnant and going for my first scan tomorrow - at an abortion clinic. Now this was a bit of a knee jerk panic reaction however I have a feeling that Im going to be over 24 weeks. My last bleed was in april and just for 2 days but heavy. Since then ive had no more bleeding but because of being on the large side its not odd for my periods to come and go as they please. I have had absolutley no symptoms at all, no sickness, no sore boobs, nothing. Untill 2 weeks ago when I felt incredibly bloated and then wednesday when i had a leaky nipple. Took a pregnancy test on thursday and it was positive. Went to the doctors on friday and have my scan tomorrow.

Im 25, been in a relationship with my brilliant boyfriend for 5 years. But we are terrified. Currently living appart to save up for a house depoisit but I changed jobs 2 months ago and he was made redundant a month ago. Hes with his parents and im living with my nan as she sometimes needs help in the night if she falls etc.

If im correct in counting from my bleed in april that would put me at about 27 weeks.... so possibly no going back now! Which Im not entirely dissapointed about and neither is my OH, hes been lovely and less panicky than me!

My biggest issue is telling my parents. My mum is going to totaly flip and I dont want to ruin our good relationship especialy this close to christmas. Please say someone else has been in my shoes? Im so scared its going to ruin everything!!!!

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Arkkorox · 13/11/2014 20:26

Haha it does actually take me a good couple of mins to get comfy again. Im seriously struggling to get up in the mornings now, could do with an extra hour in bed at least! Oh well only one more day of having to leave for work at 7:30.

Still got tons of stuff to sort out before baby arrives and im still stressed about the future but I figure people have babies in worse positions than me and somehow make it though! I cant keep stressing about things I have no control over.

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DiaryOfAWimpyMum · 13/11/2014 20:44

You sound a lot better now OP, sorry you are so uncomfortable, not too long to go now. Smile I'm sure you will be a great Mum.

DiaryOfAWimpyMum · 13/11/2014 20:45

Oh and good luck and dont worry about the 'tea and cake' I'm sure it will be fine.

Arkkorox · 13/11/2014 20:52

My midwife was seriously worrying about me after the first time I saw her and if I was the same this time was going to get me some help for depression and anxiety, but when i left this time she said she was so pleased that I was sounding happier and I looked happier. I must be doing something right!

The end is in sight and now I just want my baby here! Im very lucky to have supportive parents, a partner who although is still struggling with it, is doing his best and some wonderful friends that I know will be there through everything. Makes a whole world of difference having that network around you. And of course Mumsnet!

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JeanetteDanielsBenziger · 18/11/2014 14:30

How are you getting on OP?

Arkkorox · 18/11/2014 21:45

Was doing reaally well.....

But sadly my grandma passed away very suddenly on saturday evening after suffering a ruptured aneurism in her abdomen. I live with her so its been a total rollercoaster since then, however I can stay in her house till the summer thankfully so I dont need to worry for the moment. Though its very weird being at home without her pottering about. My partner has been amazing and more supportive than ever which has been a massive help. Baby just needs to keep where it is till after the funeral really so going a bit over my due date would be helpful!

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JeanetteDanielsBenziger · 18/11/2014 22:22

Oh I'm really sorry to hear that Ark. x

bumpiesonamission · 19/11/2014 11:02

Oh I'm sorry Op. That is rough Sad

Are you feeling prepared?

Arkkorox · 19/11/2014 15:11

Much more prepared now! I think focusing on making the house baby friendly has helped my dad deal with a few things. We put the moses basket together today and the nursey is being decorated on Saturday so I'm looking forward to that.

I'm just worried that it feels like im totaly taking over my grans house, it will always be her house never mine but it is my temporary home! I dont want to offend anyone!

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WankingInAWinterWonderland · 19/11/2014 17:05

Sorry to hear about your Grandma but glad to read you're more prepared now.

SugarMiceInTheRain · 19/11/2014 18:18

So sorry to hear about your Grandmother. Thanks I have to say I am so impressed at how well you are dealing with this. Sounds like you are getting prepared, and remember a baby really doesn't 'need' that many things, as long as you Fingers crossed your little one will stay put until after the funeral.

Arkkorox · 20/11/2014 08:32

Thank you both.

My partner sent me a lovely text last night saying how proud he was of me with how I've dealt with all of this. But I think I've kind of had to put everything to the back of my mind and just think baby, especially with it being so close to arriving. Plus I couldn't have done it without my parents and partner just being absolutely amazing and supportive.

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ClearlyOpaque · 20/11/2014 09:17

Just seen this thread for the first time and had to comment.

I'm so sorry for your loss, Ark, especially as it was so sudden.

I take my hat off to you though, you have dealt with an extraordinary amount in a very short space of time. Far better than I think I could have done (and I'm 39 and in a nice place re money and housing). You have been taking care of everyone around you whilst getting used to the idea of being a Mum. You are going to be even more amazing when the baby arrives; I look forward to your tips (I'm due in June with my first and have no idea what I'm doing!).

I hope the last few days of your pregnancy sail by and you are soon back home with your little bundle of joy ready to start the next phase of your life.

Arkkorox · 20/11/2014 13:43

Ahh thankyou ClearlyOpaque. Im looking forward to baby being home now. When my partner said goodnight last night he actually said goodnight to bump for the first time, I think hes a bit excited too though he said he wishes we knew what we were having cause he hates calling it..it!

Cup of tea with the dragon... erm I mean partners mum today. Slightly scared!!!

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bumpiesonamission · 20/11/2014 21:24

How was cream tea ala dragon op?

Cuteness to dp!

Arkkorox · 20/11/2014 21:33

Well I survived unscathed!

Actually she was lovely, and theyve made a list of things theyre going to get for the baby which has been a huge releif.

I just wish their house didnt stink of ciggarettes. I had to come home and shower and put my clothes in the wash straight away. I have a feeling when we visit with baby at christmas it will be a clothes change and bath as soon as we get in the door... for both of us. They didnt smoke while I was there but the house just stinks.

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angeltreats · 20/11/2014 22:00

Hi Ark, I've just seen this thread for the first time and been totally engrossed! So sorry to hear about your grandma. I can't believe how well you've coped with this whole thing. I'm due the same day as you with our first (four more days, eek), it was a much planned for and long awaited pregnancy and I still haven't got my head around it all.

Anyway just wanted to wish you all the best. I'll be stalking the thread now for updates!

Arkkorox · 20/11/2014 22:39

Haha thanks angeltreats!

Hopefully our babies won't keep us waiting too long! Have you had any signs yet?

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angeltreats · 20/11/2014 22:41

Nope, nothing at all apart from near constant braxton hicks for the last two weeks but they haven't turned into anything. What about you?

Arkkorox · 20/11/2014 23:04

The last couple of days baby has felt really really low. Tonight I've had sort of period cramping but not much other than that! Hospital appointment tomorrow so we shall see! I'll update after I've been.

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Chocaholicmonster · 20/11/2014 23:56

Arkkorox, I've just come across your thread & read everything with amazement & even though I don't know you, by the end, I actually feel so proud & happy for you. It sounds like everything has come together in such a short space of time. Wishing you the best of luck with everything in your future. The way you have adapted to this situation makes me think that you're going to take to parenthood with ease. You're a natural! x Thanks

Arkkorox · 21/11/2014 05:17

Aw thank you chocoholic. I have to say that the support I've had off you guys on here has been a total life saver. I'm still a bit ' oh god I can't do this' mainly when I'm knackered at 2am but mostly I'm just looking forward to baby being here.

To be honest the timing couldn't be much better with everything that's happened this year, we lost my grandad in August after a long battle with Parkinson's then of course my gran on Saturday. Think there's a reason surprise baby is arriving now and I think it will be the distraction everyone needs.

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Arkkorox · 21/11/2014 18:15

Just a little update for you all.

We are expecting a girl!

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allowme · 21/11/2014 18:50

How lovely Flowers

WankingInAWinterWonderland · 21/11/2014 19:04

That's lovely news. Smile Flowers

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