December 2011 - crying and grizzling (and that's just the mums!)

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FairyBayleaf DC1 EDD 6th Dec BORN 29th Sept Albert Elwyn 2lb 14oz
Tjuice DC2 EDD 21st November BORN 7th Nov Amaya Rose 3kg
Sevensevenseven DC2 EDD 20th Dec 25yo Southwold BORN 21st Nov Eva Rose 5lb 4oz
Girlwiththemouseyhair DC2 EDD 24th Nov Maggie Juliet BORN 25th Nov 8lb 9oz
YBR DC1 EDD 22nd Dec BORN 25th Nov (girl) 6lb 3.5oz
LittleBlueBoat(Cheeptrick) DC2 EDD 5th Dec 29yo S.Yorkshire BORN 26th Nov Hope Brynn Frances 8lb 9oz
Kri5ty DC1 EDD 13th Dec 26yo Manchester Boy BORN 29th Nov Saul Harrison 6lb 13oz
LauraSmurf DC1 EDD 3rd December Girl BORN 30th Nov
BeeMyBaby DC2 EDD 29th November 25yo Scotland BORN 1st Dec Safia Hawwa 7lb6oz
SoTiredOfTheWheelsOnTheBus DC2 EDD 7th December BORN 1st December Boy 8lbs5oz
Iggly DC2 EDD 2nd December South London BORN 2nd Dec (Girl) 8lb 1oz
Girlsyearapart DC4 EDD 6th December BORN 3rd Dec (Boy) 7lb 7oz
HoneyLovesCake DC1 EDD 2nd December Cornwall BORN 6th Dec Rocco Kaleb 8lb 14oz
Mmmmcheese DC2 EDD 25th December 32yo BORN 7th Dec (Girl) 7lb8oz
Itsybitsy08 DC2 EDD 6th December Boy BORN 9th Dec Kieran 8lb4oz
Msbuggywinkle DC3 EDD 13th December 27yo BORN 10th Dec Miranda 8lb6oz
OiMissus DC1 2 December, 39yo, Horwich, Bolton BORN 10th Dec (Boy) Alistair Jude 9lbs
jigglebum BORN 11 Dec Freya 7lbs
Pludophtherednosedreindeer (plupervert): DC2 EDD Dec 10 (Kent) BORN 12 Dec Helena 8lb 6oz (3.8kg)
NorthernChinchilla- EDD 19th December, BORN 12th Dec, Boy, 7lb 7oz
Jomouse DC1 EDD 2nd December 35yo London BORN 14 Dec (Girl) 5lb 8oz
Tyelperion DC1 EDD 3rd December 27yo Windsor BORN 14 Dec (boy) 9lb 8oz
KateM77: DC2 EDD Dec 10 34yo BORN 16 Dec Daniel James 8lb 6oz
BennyBenBear DC1 EDD 5th December Manchester/Bolton BORN 18 Dec Oliver Stephen Bolton 8lb 9oz
Kiteflying DC2 EDD 7 December 44yo Australia BORN 18 December (Girl) Lulu 8lb 14 oz
mopsytop DC1 EDD 25th December BORN 19 Dec 6lbs 11oz
AWomanCalledHorse DC1 EDD 22nd December BORN 21st December 7lbs 6oz (Boy)
Figgygal DC1 EDD 12 December 30yo Bath BORN 22 Dec Daniel James McMillan 9lb 4oz
Kitty5824 DC1 EDD 21st December 33 yo Manchester - Don't know BORN 23rd Dec, Boy, 7lb 14oz, Sebastian John
Aethelfleda DC3 EDD 27th December London BORN 3rd January, Albert Thomas William 8lb 10 oz
hawthers DC2 EDD 22nd December London 33yo BORN 28 December 7lb 4oz (boy)
LittleMissFlustered DC3 31st December BORN 6 Jan (boy)
hopeful1 BORN 6 Jan Noa Francie Kate 10lb 3oz
MissRee BORN 12 Jan 12 Freya Violet 7lb 7oz

Sorry to hear things are bad for some of you vent away here always happy to listen!!

Small fry compared to some of your woes but have had an Expensive week here, turns out washing machine guy hadn't caused the leak after all so we needed a plumber to sort it, then a flooring chap to look at the lounge floor and yup its ruined. He's a friend if ours but still suggested the whole job will be £2.5-3k to replace so need to battle with the insurers and my car been to garage at a cost of £300. This morning been to dentist and my high sugar pregnancy diet has resulted in me needing a filling in one of my lower molars the nhs excemption card will only cover a silver filling but vanity means ill have to pay for a white one DH thinks I'm mad but if im not going to scrimp over my teeth

Its like summer here so been out for a long walk in the sun and now watching one born every minute.....ah it all seems so long ago now.

Hawthers really sorry that you are having such a hard time as well but you have been through the mill with feeding and I am in awe of how well you have stuck to it. You are an amazing mum in my opinion.

You're also entitled to have a short fuse - sleep deprivation and coping with the demands of burgeoning family equal short fuse.

determined and hawthers PLEASE do not think of yourselves as failures as this is evidently not the case. You have both made huge sacrifices for your children and are doing your utmost to love and support them. Times are tough, but they will get better. - I hope you both get a breakthrough soon/turn the corner to happier times.
It has been a glorious day here -still is. We had our swimming lesson, then mum came for lunch before we visited granddad's nursing home. (it's so sweet, all the resident's sit in the lounge, and we have to re-introduce Alistair every week and many times during each visit!)
I then chatted with my neighbours over the garden fence. They make their own wine, I learn. I shall be more friendly! They have promised to give me fresh trout when he goes fishing next. That's lovely.
...but i want wine!

Hawthers, you are not a shit anything, you're an excellent parent who's battled with a really tough start with your DS. You sound like you're having a rotten time of it at the moment, but we'll help if we can on here. Hope the day's improved a bit.

Sounds like you and your DH need a bit of time together to talk about it all Determined- you say you shouldn't lose your temper, but then neither should he! Hope you get your wee bit of sanity at your Mum's.

I would always go for a white filling figgy, no question, despite the at the cost of the floor, just what you need...

DS had fed around 2.45, and just as I was about to settle down and feed him about 20 minutes ago he fell asleep on me... so he's upstairs having a snooze. Who needs routine?! We should get another couple of (cough) perfect baby days before another non-sleeping one.

Nursery spot booked, appointment made for accounts, and good natter with friend who came round. Spent several hours on work stuff too. Have prepared a bottle for OH so I can have my treat of chatting away to an old friend tonight, so not a bad day at all.

No haddocks Oi? We need to keep our supply lines up!

It's like summer here!

Sorry to hear some of you have been having such a hard time :(

Cheered up a bit after a nice walk in the sun but now discovered I've got a very sire blocked duct. An evening of sqeezing the shit out of it trying to clear it. Hmm glass of wine needed I think

On the topic of finger nails, BabyYBR woke herself with a shreek up by giving herself a huge scratch under one eye yesterday. I cut her fingers whiled DH fed her. I thought it was fairly short time since we last trimmed them. Doh!

I've not been on much the last few days because my mum came to visit. She sent us out to the cinema and when we got back in she dumped BabyYBR in my arms saying good timing I was just about to change her nappy. I hadn't even got my coat off! The LO had filled up with poo though.

Had a busy day with LO's 2nd set of jabs (didn't get as vocally upset as I expected), "toddler" group and church lunch. Then DH took her out to a World Book Day event at the Children Centre and I managed to get some vegetable seeds planted in the greenhouse before having a nap. Just to increase your jealousy the LO has a 8 hour gap between feeds most nights now (having said that we'll probably have a really bad night tonight).

for the hawthers. Glad you're feeling a bit better despite the blocked duct. You and determined are NOT failures in any way!

Had a pretty good day here. This really belongs on the other thread that someone (plu?) linked to a couple of days ago, but today I found myself saying to DD:
don't put glue in your raisins

and

That's Daniel's willy. Gently.

She then said "bye, bye Daniel's willy" when I put his nappy on

Pmsl at "bye bye to the willy" kate!

Evening all. Have decided to try a different tack tonight in the aim of getting ten minutes to myself: may backfire royally tonight but I'm not currently getting more than 3.5 hours in a row anyway...

dS is bathed, fed, swaddled and in bed. When he's "established" (as in a toddler), bedtime will be 7.30pm-6am (ho ho) so I'm pretending now. Baby monitor is on. Dinner is cooking (sausage pasta bolognaise, nowt exotic). No sign of Dh but at least we can eat when he gets in.

hawthers, do not beat yourself up. I have a short fuse at the moment too: all of us not getting sleep are the same. It impacts
On our DHs in that all of them are being unappreciative too: this os what happens with the huge majority of newborns. It WILL get better and you ARE doing a lot better than you think. What will help is talking about it, vent here, and try to find someone you can talk to in real life too if you can. This WILL pass, and make sure you get some help if every day's a bad day as PND is a tricksy bugger and can sneak up on you. But it is normal to have some of these feelings, it's the impact and lack of good days/optimism it can get better that Makes the dfference between a tough patch and actual depression. Keep posting (((hug))- that goes for the rest of you too!!

......aaaabd ten minutes after posting that guess who's wailed and is now feeding...sigh... A whole 30 mins in the basket. Whoo.
Oh well, I tried. Do they still sell laudanum?

Well tonight went sort of peacefully (minus) some shouting whilst having her hair washed but other than that I have a peaceful household

Hawthers hope your doing okay tonight?

Are any of you close to Portsmouth/Southampton/Brighton for a meet up?

Oh I envy those of you whose DCs go down at 7 ish and give you an evening. I keep trying but like aethel I might get 30 mins before another feed is required. At least tonight it gave me the chance to get DS out of the bath and do stories etc and tidy up, but just as I sat down freya woke up again - sigh. I know she will eventually go down like her brother does, but seems a long way off at the moment. DH out tonight (at a meeting to stress about the business again) so all down to me.

Had quite a nice day as weather was lovely, so took F for a walk whilst DS at preschool.

I have another one to add to the funny things that toddlers say kate - we were at speech and language in the waiting room. DS put his hands down his pants onto his bottom so I asked him why and told him it wasnt very nice - his response - " I am trying to catch a fart to throw it away - there " - with associated hand gestures and in a very loud voice! It was hard not to laugh!

determined my parents are portsmouth area so could arrange a meet up when I am visiting them sometime perhaps.

Anyone Dorset way (hopeful but unlikely I think)?

Jiggle That would be great

at the fart catching jiggle

Have a with me ladies, I've just put DS down again...

Well done Determined for a better day.

Am definitely going to put away this packet of chocolate digestives before I eat the entire lot....

My littler two have been asleep for ages, the ADHD creature is still boinging about downstairs. Literally. She is bouncing in a circle of three beanbags and the sofa. While singing and having a story read to her. And has been for two hours now.

One day we will manage to wear her out!

I forgot to add my shriek at the floor replacement bill figgy. I really, really hope that the insurance pays up.
My LO is asleep. If tonight goes like last night, he may sleep til after 5. Fingers crossed.
And he has only done one poop today , at the same time as yesterday. It was a big nappy filler, but I caught it moments before it would have burst out everywhere. He seems quite comfortable though.

Sorry aethel, I can't join you for coffee, it'll spoil the taste of my wine. (a Tempranillo)

Y'know Northern, I was beginning to worry about the depletion of the world's haddock stocks. Maybe for minor misdemeanours we should use fish fingers?

Gah it all went down hill after my earlier optimism. Ds1 was a little tyke and kicked off all afternoon and evening, ds2 grizzled for England, blocked boob got significantly worse and had a row with h.

Tomorrow has to be better,

Anyone got any bright ideas on how to unblock a boob? It looks like i've got a milk blister on the nipple and I just can't seem to clear it and drain the duct. It's fecking painful and I've been sqeezing it really hard to try to get things moving but with no success. Poor old boob

One of the ladies at boob group had a milk blister, she ended up sterilising a needle and putting a hole in it >_<

Actually had an hour of "quality time" with DH tonight and no baby on lap :all we did was eat dinner, natter without any grumbling at rach other (woo!), and watched a bit of "bleak old shoppe of Stuff" (which seems funny in small doses). Ds whimpered, short feed then put him back. It's amaxing how one baby-free hour can be a mental recharge...

hawthers ow re: milk blister, you poor thing! I hope tomorrow is a better day for you also.

aethel, glad you got a small bit of time. The first evening I got to actually eat dinner with my husband felt amazing! It doesn't happen every night as minimopsy cries a lot between sixish and half nineish most days but things are defs improving, especially now she's feeling better. Yesterday she only cried until half seven and then slept until half eleven! Amazing! Slept from ten to three! Only woke up briefly when husband got her up to feed her at half eleven. Hope things improve soon for you too. And hope this marks an actual improvement for us, not a one off :)

Going out tonight for a meal with friends, husband is babysitting... Wish he could come too but you can't have everything :) and will be lovely to have a night out!