DH says cat needs to show more gratitude

[UngratefulFeline]

I’ve been away for a few days and DH managed the kids and the dog just fine.

He’s upset with our cat though and says he made a real effort to bond with him by giving him treats, protecting him when our dog had the zoomies and making sure his bedding was fluffed.

DH said the cat gave nothing back, blanked him and even swatted at DH when he tried to pet him.

DH wants to know why the cat doesn’t show any gratitude. I explained to DH very carefully that the reason the cat doesn’t show any gratitude is because it is a cat.

DH says that is illogical and there must be a real reason and “it’s a cat” doesn’t cut the mustard.

YABU- Deeper reason why cat won’t show gratitude
YANBU- it’s a cat.

Your DH needs a crash course in how to talk to a cat and what body language they respond to! Then he needs to understand that once he has learned that, and practiced it for several years, the cat will still choose to ignore him if it wants. Cats will cat.

By god though when they do choose you, what a treat it is !

This should go in classics!

Dh needs to grow up cats down have a owner they have servants for a reason they give love and cates on their time not tour dh times

Hahahaha.

Good luck with that. Also here is a stick for catching the moon on the end of.

Is your cat a narcissist? Your DH may need to grey rock the cat to be able to cope with it’s behaviour a bit more

Tell him that unless it bit his hand off at the wrist, it IS showing gratitude.

Mine literally attacks me if I am slow to meet his demands.

This has cheered me up! How did you keep a straight face? 😂

I love the idea of someone wanting a cat to show gratitude 😂😂😂😂

Loving the notion of low, mid and high level cats, @UngratefulFeline 🤣

Your boy is a beaut.

Oh this had made me laugh. Doesn't he grasp that the cat is king?

I feel his pain:

Our cats - two black cats (M/F siblings , he is shy )
Y'know how black cats are 18 times less likely to be homed . Especially a shy black cat . So two black cats ... the odds against them are high .
Ours were CPL , I was tasked with looking online for cats (we wanted two , bonded) and finding a glazing company to do a cat door in glass

Celia Hammond , CPL, Blue Criss any rescue has Thousands of black cats .

Male loves DD
Female loves DH
They tolerate DS
They actively dislike me

I sometimes bribe them with chicken or a scrap of cheddar .. For a nanosecond they pretend to like me .
They stay with us as they worry about us adopting some "decent" cats who couldn't cope with me . <sigh>

Photo 1: your cats reaction to your husbands attempts to ingratiate himself
Photo 2: your cat seeing you've arrived home

When DH and I first moved in together I walked in on their first cuddle just as DH said “he likes me, he’s wagging his tail!” Cue cat attack

😆

How can people be so clueless lol

Just brilliant!

😂😂😂 Has your DH ever met a cat before? What a twat! Maybe the cat might like him more if he gave it attention all the time, not just when you’re away. But probably not, because it also knows he’s a twat 🤣

I just can’t even ….is your husband always like this?

I’ve just been away on holidays and the pet sitter reported that my cat did not like having her tummy rubbed. This made me laugh ….she’s a cat & it would be unusual if a cat liked having their tummy rubbed.

How can your husband live with a cat and not know it’s personality?

Get your husband to watch this:

m.youtube.com/watch?v=PKffm2uI4dk&pp=ygUJQ2F0IGRpYXJ5

Your DH should be grateful he has the privilege to serve the cat!

This post is why MN should not have removed the laughing reaction.
Brilliant 🤣

My Dad always used to say 'I come somewhere down the pecking order after the budgie', which was correct, but mainly because he was a selfish arse.

The first picture is almost definitely my cat, even down to the side eye death glare “ F off with your intrusive camera, I am entitled to my privacy as much as any minor royal.” 😺

Can I advice "The Unadulterated Cat" by Terry Pratchett

It's like an insight into the feline brain.......

giving him treats, protecting him when our dog had the zoomies and making sure his bedding was fluffed.

So just the basics that any cat would expect?

even swatted at DH when he tried to pet him.

I mean poor cat-no permission asked or given?

This quote says it all tbh 🤣 I have two - one very loving, one who wouldn’t piss on me if I was on fire. That’s cats for you!

Death Glare 2